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In a world that preaches a "try harder" gospel-just keep going, keep hustling, keep pretending we're all fine-we're left exhausted, overwhelmed, and so numb to our lives. If we're honest, we've been overfunctioning for so long, we can't even imagine another way. How else will things get done? How else will we survive?

It doesn't have to be this way. Aundi Kolber believes that we don't have to white-knuckle our way through life. In her debut book, Try Softer, she'll show us how God specifically designed our bodies and minds to work together to process our stories and work through obstacles. Through the latest psychology, practical clinical exercises, and her own personal story, Aundi equips and empowers us to connect us to our truest self and truly live. This is the "try softer" life.

In Try Softer, you'll learn how to: know and set emotional and relational boundaries; make sense of the difficult experiences you've had; identify your attachment style-and how that affects your relationships today; move through emotions rather than get stuck by them; and grow in self-compassion and talk back to your inner critic. Trying softer is sacred work. And while it won't be perfect or easy, it will be worth it. Because this is what we were made for: a living, breathing, moving, feeling, connected, beautifully incarnational life.

©2020 Andrea M. Kolber (P)2020 eChristian

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  • 06-08-2020

Must Read

This book will now be one of my most cherished books. The amount of compassion, comfort and permission in these pages allowed for me to sit with ideas in new ways and practice them easily. Aundi not only wrote a beautiful book but speaks each word as if you were sitting there with her. I cannot explain how good this book was to me- please don’t hesitate & purchase!

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  • 15-07-2020

Loved it!

This groundbreaking book weaves a seamless thread by teaching us how to consolidate one's own traumatic experiences, to practice loving kindness and honor spirituality. It goes beyond the mind-body connection to something deeper. As a licensed professional counselor, I will recommend it to clients.

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  • Marcia
  • 26-06-2020

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Powerful book. so many helpful tools to aid in Trauma recovery. excellent helpful encouraging recommend

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  • Becky Clark
  • 18-06-2020

Best book I have read in a long time

I could not stop listening to the author. I finished this book to the end in record time. I only stopped to eat, and sleep. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has ever had any type of dysfunction in your life. Her love for Jesus and her family are so inspiring. My own stress level is in the red zone due to a toxic marriage. She has given me confidence to change, and confidence to reaffirm and remind myself that I am called beloved by God and I am valued. Thank you for all of your hard work. This book has changed me for the better. God bless you. Go ahead and order this book. You will not have any regrets. Gift a book for a friend who is struggling. Love them enough to help them understand they are loved and valued.

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  • D. Probasco
  • 30-04-2020

Amazing Book

I really enjoyed listening to this book. Thank you for writing this, Aundi. It’s been life-changing for me.

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  • 26-04-2020

Amazing Book!

Aundi hits it out of the park. Her story. Her message. We all need to Try Softer.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 19-04-2020

Beautiful

Awesome book on spiritual healing! A breath of fresh air. Very authentic and informative.

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  • Taylor Bourland
  • 22-03-2020

Super helpful and educational

Aundi did such a great job narrating and breaking things down to be more easily understood. As a professional counselor I found a lot of the information new and well-explained so that I can educate my clients well. I even bought the physical book after hearing the audio so i could have the info and suggestions on hand!

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  • Renee
  • 11-03-2020

Antidote to Trying Harder

In a world of "try harder" messaging from so many in Christian circles, this book provides another much-needed perspective that integrates research-based approaches along with biblical perspectives. Such great advancements in understanding the nervous system are being made through work by Elizabeth Stanley, Kathy Kain, Stephen Porges, Irene Lyon, Dr Howard Schubiner and so many more, yet, at times it seems like Christian circles are unaware and sometimes promote (unbiblical) top-down/thinking brain approaches. This book helps illustrate why that's counterproductive for someone who has experienced trauma, or even people who haven't. Without getting bogged down in theory, Kolber shares enough theory to build conviction behind the theme in each chapter, then goes on to share extremely practical and helpful exercises that the reader can do the moment they read them. I'm still so impressed that she made such deep theory so approachable and simple - not an easy feat! I listened first via Audible and it was fun to hear the author read and express her points - with such empathy and softness in her voice. Then, because it was so impactful, I bought the book and highlighted/flagged it up because the message is so important for me and the women I interact with. The fact that I bought both versions demonstrates how important I think this work is.

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  • Erin Christine Miller
  • 07-03-2020

so eye-opening!!

it is my favorite when the book is actually read by its author. Being able to hear the spirit behind the voice of this author made this book extremely powerful to me. the insights and well explained dynamics of a trauma-informed approach to trying softer has enabled me to take practical steps towards that in my own life. I recommend this for everybody, especially those in any sort of leadership position, including and maybe especially parents.

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