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Triggers

Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses
Narrated by: Amber Lia, Wendy Speake
Length: 5 hrs and 25 mins
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Do you believe your struggle with anger stems from the wrong behavior you see displayed in your children? The knee-jerk reactions and blowups you're facing are often a result of a bigger set of "triggers". Some of these are external, like a child's disobedience, back talk, or selective hearing, while others are internal, like an overflowing schedule, sleep deprivation, or perhaps your own painful experiences from childhood. Triggers: Exchanging Parent's Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses examines common parenting issues that cause us to explode inappropriately at our children. Moving beyond simple parenting tips on how to change your child's behavior, authors Amber Lia and Wendy Speake offer biblical insight and practical tools to equip and encourage you on the journey away from anger-filled reactions toward gentle biblical responses.

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i could not get in to this book

was not a fan on the bible references didnt realise when i bought it

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  • Anonymous User
  • 13-02-2018

Amazing!

I loved this book! Definitely a great biblical parenting book for moms who find themselves triggered to yelling and anger. I’ll be buying a hard copy to have in my home as well! :)

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  • Mercedes and Jason
  • 07-03-2019

Triggers in Review

Written by Amber Lia and Wendy Speak

Quote: “Moms don’t have to be perfect we just need to yield to being perfected in Christ.”


I listened to this book through audible.com. I was not given this book in exchange for a review.

This book was recommended to me by Mirror Ministries, an organization that helps restore local victims of human-trafficking. They have a heart for the hurting and have a plethora of resources and recommendations for healing.

I enjoyed listening to the authors’ voices and the information they provided was insightful and helpful.

I love that there is a chapter specifically focused towards parenting children with health conditions.

They give multiple examples of ways our children sometimes trigger us and provide various examples of how to cope through them.

The biggest piece of advise I plan on implementing moving forward is to not try and teach a lesson when triggered. My plan moving forward is address the behavior, make the correction then take a “break” to write down what about that situation bothered me, why I felt a correction needed to be made, and develop a “training plan” to move forward.

For example: I’ve told my kids multiple times that I’m on the phone and they continue to get loud and rambunctious. That triggers my anger and before I snap I put my phone on hold, get my kids’ attention, ask them to quietly wait in their rooms until I’m off the phone. I would , finish my call then jot down what happened and why it needed to be addressed. Like “mom needs to make important phones calls to benefit the family and make sure we stay healthy”. Then, I’d pray. Later that day I could sit and have a conversation to explain that if mom is on the phone, it’s usually to talk to important people so that our family can stay healthy, sheltered and fed. And then I can tell them “from now on, when mom is on the phone, we need to pause and have quite time in our rooms until she comes to get us. That way we can stay happy, healthy and respectful to each other.”

More helpful take aways:

▪️ Shift focus from fixing “tempers” to praying as we endure the child rearing days. I’ve implemented this by turning on worship music and praising my way through the tough days as well as the good ones.

▪️ The power of “uh-oh” as an exclamation pointer to remind our kids and warn them that they have “stepped out of bounds”. This way they are gently reminded they created a faux pas while still keeping the mood light and supportive.

▪️ Meet their bad behavior with good behavior.

▪️ The Holy Spirit is responsible for controlling their moods and hearts, not us. We are here to be their earthy guidance and comfort.

▪️ Schedule family meetings in advance to remind everyone of family expectations and standards. It’s ok to “pause” a teaching moment especially if you’re (I’m) struggling to control my own moods.

▪️ Keep the meeting positive and remind everyone that we are all working together for the greater family good. We as parents want what’s best for our children.

▪️ If you are feeling overwhelmed and feel like the household responsibilities are not equally divided, have everyone write down all their responsibilities (work, school, community, familial, personal etc) and compare notes. It is a good exercise for everyone involved and will be an ice breaker to family adjustments.

I give this audiobook and its content a big thumbs up!

Please consider reading or a listening to Triggers if you are losing the battle of triggers and struggle with parenting from a place of peace and calm.

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  • Sandra Harris
  • 09-11-2018

I will choose God's path.

Inspired words. There are no easy answers but this book inspires us to press on and be the parents that He would have us to be. i will reread and share this amazing book as I am on my journey to respond to my children with Gods love not my anger

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  • Marcela B.
  • 15-11-2019

So healing

We are not alone in our feelings and trials. Really appreciated and enjoyed this book.

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  • Alex
  • 08-11-2019

I will definitely be listening to this one again and again.

I want to listen again and again during nap times when it is quiet, bc I didn’t want to miss any important prayers. I stopped what I was doing every time they prayed and bowed my head and muttered the words behind them. I did this bc I have felt so weak in my prayers lately that I loved having them guide my words. I listened to about 6 devotionals a day instead of 1 a day. :)

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  • T. Sides
  • 21-09-2019

Biblical parenting and overcoming frustrations!

This is the best book I've read on overcoming common parenting frustrations, and offers practical biblical thoughts to succeed. I recommend it to all of my friends!

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  • Angela V.
  • 02-09-2019

Hope for the weary mom

I found the authors’ words to be grace-filled and encouraging. I would highly recommend this book to any weary mom who wants to exchange her angry responses with her children for loving, biblical responses. Full of truth. Listening to one chapter at a time this book carried me thru the summer with my kids. The Lord has used it to begin to do a good work in our home. I am full of hope upon finishing this audiobook. Thank you Amber and Wendy!

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  • Michele
  • 02-09-2019

Insightful

very insightful...authors did very well to articulate what I struggle myself to say and define... good read

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 01-09-2019

Just What I needes!

This book is amazing. I felt like the authors knew me and were able to help me grow as a parent. The book felt real, convicting, heartwarming, informative, helpful, and most of all, full of grace. This was just what I needed.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 30-08-2019

More than expected

When I heard the title, I expected another self-help, pragmatic “count to 10” kind of anger-management book. I read (listened to) the book because I respected the friend who recommended it and wanted to spend time with her discussing it. I have been thoroughly blessed by the real, biblical, truth-that-sets-free approach taken by the authors. I recommend this book to anyone (dads and singles is included), who want to draw closer to God and line up their lives according to His Word and ways - even if it means deep repentance and strengthened faith as the starting place. Very grateful for this tool.

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  • tiffer
  • 04-07-2019

Life changing...

I read parenting scripts first which is also a life changing book. I would recommend reading this one first...