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Publisher's Summary

The grieving process: Ty Alexander of Gorgeous in Grey is one of the top bloggers today. She has a tremendous personal connection with her listeners. This is never more apparent than when she speaks about her mother. The pain of loss is universal. Yet, we all grieve differently.

For Alexander, the grieving process is one that she lives with day-to-day. Learning from her pain, Alexander connects with her listeners on a deeply emotional level in her debut audiobook Things I Wish I Knew before My Mom Died: Coping with Loss Every Day. From grief counseling to sharing insightful true stories, Alexander offers comfort, reassurance, and hope in the face of sorrow.

Coping with loss: In her early 20s reality smacked Ty in the face. She was ill-equipped to deal with the emotional and intellectual rollercoaster of dealing with her mom's illness. Through her own trial and error, she found a way to be a caregiver, patient advocate, researcher, and a grieving daughter. She wrote Things I Wish I Knew before My Mom Died: Coping with Loss Every Day to help others find the "best" way to cope and move on; however, one personally decides what that means.

Mourning and remembrance: In the chapters of this soul-touching audiobook, mourners will find meaning and wisdom in grieving and the love that will always remain. Each chapter is a study and lesson in coping with loss: 

  • Chapter 1: We've been duped, everyone dies!
  • Chapter 2: When fragmented families grieve
  • Chapter 3: The art of losing
  • Chapter 4: The how of grieving
  • Chapter 5: How to be obsessively grateful
  • Chapter 6: Things every mother should tell her daughter
  • Chapter 7: Dear Mommy
©2018 Ty Alexander (P)2018 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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A comforting read during a challenging time

A practical guide with steps and phrases to help you sit with your grief.

I wasn't sure what to expect from this book however I felt validated and comforted in my grief. I lost my mum whilst working through this book and still found it helpful to finish.

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loved it I really needed this, lost my mum just before Xmas 21 so this story helped

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Incredible

I related so much to Ty. Insightful and honest. Funny and raw. A beautiful breath of fresh air and relief to my soul.

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Good but not great

I'm not religious at all so I found it difficult to relate to a lot of things she felt and spoke about.

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  • Denise Rash
  • 31-05-2018

Helps to know there's someone who understands...

loved listening to this even though it was hard to listen to. it surprised me how similar my experience that I'm going through right now is with Ty's experience. my mom recently got diagnosed and is in Hospice Care herself they've given her 10 to 12 months and I'm dreading watching her deteriorate. my mom is my best friend my rock and I'm her little girl and I don't know what I'm going to do without her. thank you Ty for sharing your experience I will probably do many of the suggestions that you had just so that I can get through this it helps to know that I will get through this someday.

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  • Jess M
  • 08-09-2018

This was the most beautiful yet hardest thing to read

This book is amazing. I lost my mom hardly a year ago, and the things she was saying about the aftermath of that devastation really resonated with me. This book made me feel more hopeful, and gave me new ways to think about love and death. I connected with the author...and it made me think about my mom and connect with her, which I want to be able to do more often and I am so happy that this book enabled me to do that. This is a self help book, but it’s like someone who finally understands me is talking me through this pain....I sobbed through almost the entire thing, but it was incredible. I will absolutely be reading this again. I just finished it, but I am inclined to start it over right now....This book way exceeded my expectations (self help books can be kinda dry and forced. This one isn’t like that at all). Thank you so much.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 29-09-2020

Love the concept of the book. Too many filler words.. dragged.

As a motherless daughter I looked forward to listening to this book. I was very disappointed. It is as if the author had to write a book with a cartoon number of words and used way too many filler words. To the point that it became frustrating to listen to. It doesn’t flow well, it’s choppy. I was let down.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 15-07-2021

Comfort. A feeling of sharing in grief with someone.

Losing a parent has been soul altering. Feeling alone, helpless,and raging at the universe i stumbled on this beautiful writing. Ty is honest. She’s compassionate. She holds your hand in her own experience, and walks you along. We all lose, and we know it’s coming. Somehow when it arrives it feels like we were still robbed. I cried a lot, but i felt i was in my resilience as it ended. She is FULL to the top with courage, HUMOR, and wisdom. I loathe leaving a good book. Especially one where i feel held. If you found this book, and Ty, you really found a resource. You need only find her in social media, or sign up for her newsletter to keep growing. I have ‘Things i Wish I knew’ in paperback and audiobook. I return to it over and over as i walk through my own grief storm. Thank you, dear author. Sending love to my friends in grief. It’s sucks. I’m sorry. ♥️

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  • Monica Hoff
  • 07-07-2021

Helpful!...

I wish I could have found this book in the beginning of June before my mother died...I have found a bit of closure that is needed to start my new normal my new journey. I have been able to write more thoughts down and have more bubble snot moments that I have dearly needed. Thank you for sharing your story! It had helped me immensely, I am sure I'll listen again♡

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  • S P
  • 15-10-2019

From the heart of a hurting daughter

Ty, this book is a gift-raw and yet so insightful. I’m losing my mom soon to cancer so reached for something I could relate to and your book hit the spot.
Thank you so much for your courage in sharing your journey so people like me could receive hope through your words and encouragement to carry on.
I’m so very sorry for your loss, yet so grateful you shared. May God richly bless you in the days to come 🙏🏼❤️

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  • Heather
  • 21-06-2021

Extremely Touching

I started this book about 6 months ago when my moms health took a turn for the worse and hospice was needed. Though my mom isn't with cancer, it was still in so many ways, enlightening. The book made me realize that yes my relationship with my mom is one of a kind, as is hers with my siblings. My mom has been the glue to our family as well and I have been encouraged how to survive by this book. I believe this book can actually save people from losing themselves with grief. A must read/listen.

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  • kmomma1
  • 26-05-2021

She knows a thing or two

I was looking for a book that would help me explore the inevitability of my own parents’ passing, and I found it here. Although of course the author’s own journey is just that – her own – she has a way of broadening the application to many different sets of circumstances. The author’s mother died before the age of 60. My own parents are in their mid to late 80s. So, my story will be very different. I found myself questioning a few things, but often nodding and agreeing. If this is a topic you are exploring, or would be wise to explore, then this is not a bad place to start.

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  • Lisa Flint
  • 29-05-2020

Such an honest story of grief

I’m so grateful for this book. My mom passed 8 months ago from multiple myeloma. I, like many, have listened to so many books to help me through my immense grief and loss. This honest retelling of her loss and processing of grief resonated so much and the weight feels a little lighter after listening to it.

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  • DnTA
  • 27-06-2021

heartfelt and genuine

having lost my own mother this year, I was searching for a memoir of another motherless child looking for solace. this book forced me into some reflection that helped me through some of my grief. the narrator voiced the author's words with such passion that I often felt her words as if they were my own pain. sometimes too emotionally exuberant, sometimes just what I needed in that moment. her story is different than my own but her deep love, respect, and gratitude for her mother were my own sentiments exactly. this author is talented and worthy of applause for her soul baring memoir.

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  • J. Edwards
  • 14-03-2022

Maybe not for everyone but I love, love, loved it!

This is titled Things "I" wish I knew before my Mom died. Not what you should feel/do when your Mum dies. It isn't a self help book. It doesn't tell you what to do. She explains her experience and I found SO much resonates that I can see normality in my experience and emotions with the resultant lightening of my load to see that there is a tomorrow and another and another.

Family dysfunction, the emotions, the need to disconnect, the nitty gritty suckiness of death laid out to look upon from my own safety because this is Ty's story not mine and mine is a little too overwhelming but so much is the same. Makes it possible to shift the emotions and enable me to see options and ways to deal with it all.

If you are not keen on swearing this will maybe not be your thing but the swearing was, to me, the exact descriptor for this whole heinous experience.

I am sorry I am in the club, of having lost my Mum, but Ty's book has been exactly what I need today.

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  • J'dele
  • 26-04-2022

Utterly Soothing

I absolutely loved every minute of this book. I was nervous to listen just in case it was too depressing but it lifted me up and made me feel peaceful. So relatable, it makes you stop, think and feel. I’ll listen again one day.

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  • PoyserL
  • 12-04-2022

Emotional subject but sensitively shared 🙏

This was beautifully written and raw emotions shared. Definitely a difficult one to listen to but a reality as 1 out of 1 of us dies! A must fir all and should be read before we lose our mother. Thank you for a passionate book about a difficult subject. 🙏

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  • Janda
  • 18-08-2021

A helpful companion

Having lost my mum just four months ago and trying to make sense of my feelings I have found this book to be the companion I needed. It didn’t tell me how I should be feeling but echoed my own experience of caring for my mum as she died of cancer. Thank you.

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  • Hannah
  • 02-07-2022

I bubble snot cried

Having lost both my mother and my father by the ages of 23 this book was a whole deep dive back into my grief, but not in a bad way. Now, at 30, I have grown as a person and learned so much about myself. I could relate so much to Ty and her experience. A very realistic book about grief. Would recommend to anyone

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-04-2022

Loved this so much

This was an interesting listen for the first half. But the second part blew me away as it was so close to my own experience and resonated with me so much that I found it extremely comforting. Definitely worth a listen if you’re in the ‘lost my Mum’ club.

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  • Rianca
  • 18-11-2021

Excellent for newbies of the motherless tribe

Loved every moment of it. It was very recognisable, and yet hopeful. Had a laugh, and shed a tear

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  • Carla Lally
  • 14-11-2021

Knowing your not alone

My mother passed 3 years ago and it’s taken me all that time to be ready to listen to this book. Every word resonated with me and my own grief, beautifully read and moments that made me smile with the memory of my own mother in mind.

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  • Melanie McFadden
  • 04-03-2020

Many truths I can recognise.

Bitter sweet, wonderful book. Depicts many similarities to my experiences when my Mum died.

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