The Secure Self
How to Free Yourself from Anxious Attachment and Transform Your Relationships from Within
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The Secure Self
Narrated by:
Stephanie Rigg
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Narrated by:
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Stephanie Rigg
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By:
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Stephanie Rigg
Summary
Relationship anxiety doesn’t only surface during conflict. It lives in the waiting, the monitoring, the second-guessing, and the quiet exhaustion of trying to feel safe with another person. For the anxiously attached, connection can feel fragile—something that must be continually secured through reassurance, proximity, or effort.
In The Secure Self, Stephanie Rigg, a relationship coach and host of the world’s leading attachment podcast, On Attachment, offers a different pathoffers a different path—one that guides readers not to “fix” their relationships with others, but to build a strong foundation within themselves. Drawing on psychology, nervous system science, and years of guiding thousands of clients, as well as her own lived experience of anxious attachment, she reframes this attachment style not as a flaw, but as a pattern rooted in the need for connection—one that, once understood, allows relationships to become steadier and more secure.
Throughout the book, readers are guided to:
- Understand how anxious attachment fuels overthinking, hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and emotional reactivity
- Build internal safety through self-compassion, nervous system regulation, boundaries, and self-trust
- Navigate dating, relationships, and breakups with greater steadiness, clarity, and self-respect
- Create healthier, more balanced relationships from a grounded sense of self rather than fear
Rather than focusing on fixing partners or managing relationships more carefully, Rigg guides readers inward, step by step, toward building the internal foundations that anxious attachment erodes. With warmth, clarity, and practical tools, she leads readers on a journey from external reliance to internal steadiness—showing how to become a reliable source of safety for oneself so reassurance becomes supportive rather than necessary.
Grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical, The Secure Self invites readers to stop chasing security in others—and begin cultivating the inner foundation that allows love to feel stable, mutual, and sustaining.
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