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The Science of Self Talk: How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence and Stop Getting in Your Own Way

Positive Psychology Coaching Series, Book 18
Narrated by: Randy Streu
Length: 1 hr and 37 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Talking to ourselves - and learning to listen

We all speak to ourselves on a daily basis. Whether it’s out loud or an internal (or infernal) commentary, we all practice self-talk, and how we speak to ourselves can have a significant effect on our emotions and subsequent actions.

Some people’s self-talk is mostly about the future while, for others, it’s an internal dialogue about the past. Some self-talk is positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh, critical, or defeatist. Self-talk can focus on other people, but, more often than not, it is about ourselves - and is often negative.

If you listen carefully, you’ll notice that your inner conversation reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn’t random. It exhibits patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs.

In The Science of Self Talk, mindfulness expert Ian Tuhovsky explains how we can rewrite the script when it comes to our internal communication. Through a series of simple exercises for use in daily life, you can understand your own self-talk in order to change the conversation.

This unique book covers:

  • Constructive self-talk and dysfunctional self-talk - and knowing the difference
  • The impact of negative self-talk
  • Learned helplessness
  • Positive self-talk - challenge or threat?
  • The Pareto Principle which says that, for many events, roughly 80 percent of the effects come from 20 percent of the causes
  • Creating the right circumstances for motivation
  • Getting to know yourself
  • Loving yourself - emotional intelligence
  • Turning down the volume on your self-talk

Self-talk is a little like turning on the director’s commentary on a movie. You can simply watch the movie, or you can add in commentary about what’s happening in it - this is, in a nutshell, what most of us do in our daily lives. The Science of Self Talk can help you to rewrite the script of your movie and improve the way that you - and others - see yourself.

©2018 Ian Tuhovsky (P)2018 Ian Tuhovsky

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Wow! Fantastic!

I have just listened to this book in one sitting. I followed all of the suggested exercises and plan to do them again and again with greater depth.

I have always thought that it would be impossible to rewrite my negative self-talk and now I am extremely inspired and feeling a lot more positive and confident, that it can be done.

This book offered great examples which would relate to everyone in some way, with practical ideas on how to change your thinking and become the better version of yourself, which you deserve. Thank you!

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A must read


It's an easy, short read and if you get the audible version, the narrator is one of the best I've heard. If you're going through depression and/or anxiety and the little voice inside your heard is running your life, this book really makes you aware of your bad habits. Already I've started to break the patterns.

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Loved this...

I enjoyed this...It's up there with Joseph Murray's book about the same topic.
I shared this with a good friend...

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  • Rabbit
  • 19-03-2019

Enjoyable

I enjoyed this audiobook. The writing was easy to follow and the narrator presented that well. Useful tactics. Cheers!

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  • Greg
  • 13-07-2019

Very helpful

What a great, practical book on self talk. I finished this book encouraged and equipped with new tools.

Thanks to the author for creating this content and sharing it with us.

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  • Jason p staub
  • 30-06-2019

Fantastically said and easy to follow.

Loved it and I hope there are more to follow. The book touched on many things I do that I realized I must correct related to negative self talk.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 03-06-2019

Good Overview of Subject Matter

I have done a lot of research in this area lately. I feel the book was a digestible summary of the basic concepts for someone who has not thought about negative self talk much. I liked the suggestion to think of your inner thoughts as some type of "Crazy Uncle Joe." That kind of helped me re-frame the voice and not take it so seriously. The book is a good starter pack for an average interested reader.

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  • Vvirginia
  • 04-05-2019

The best book ever. Knowledgeable straight forward and very easy to understand

This book is incredible...I started feeling better just by listening to the content...I keep listening the book several times after the first day even repeated the characters. I would recommend purchasing this book!!! Best ever. Straight forward and simple ideas.

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  • Phil
  • 21-04-2019

Wisdom...to the point

Great little book! A lot of great stuff in a small package. Highly recommend. in fact, I ended up buying the paperback.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 14-04-2019

This helped my negative thinking so much. <br /><br /><br /><br />

The part about labelling negative dialogue and family members was great. A great read. Straight to the point. Relatable and honest.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-04-2019

Short and sweet

A very quick and helpful introduction to the topic that inspires more research. It includes great practical ideas to start using off the bat.
I found the Narrator very pleasant to listen to as well.

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  • Qingyao Li
  • 21-02-2019

Great book.

This book is very helpful for people who is seeking self- improvement. Easy to read and understand.

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  • jim cavaness
  • 20-02-2019

Self talk

Loved it! Will recommend and share it! Every one should be aware of how they talk to themselves.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 27-02-2019

Inspiring, easy listening and funny

Ian has a great reading voice and a great way of explaining things. His audio book is humorous in its truthfulness which I really appreciate. Looking forward to the next one!