Ugh the voices

The narrator uses very annoying voices for interview subjects. Nearly makes me wish I was reading with my eyes instead

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Insightful

As a psychology student interested in alternative relationship studies, I found this book to be very interesting. I've also tried poly with really bad results and this book showed me a few reasons why that could be.

All in all, I found it to be very interesting. It is great for understanding the different ways poly can shape a family and does provide some tips on how to manage problems but not a lot.

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Great book on polyamory, WORST narration ever

What did you love best about The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families?

I really liked that this book uses real-life stories, interviews and case-studies to talk about polyamory. Pretty much every other book on poly is more theoretical, and spends a long time explaining what poly is for the uninitiated reader. This ones does that too, but it felt less tedious to listen to for someone who is actually poly, since they spent less time on that.

What other book might you compare The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families to and why?

The closest I can compare it to is More Than Two by Franklin Veaux. While that one arguably has more actual tips for poly relationships, it also did what I felt was a fair amount of brow-beating about things that could theoretically go awry in a poly relationship...I preferred this book approaching that topic via examples, instead of hypothetical scenarios. Overall this is a more interesting book, even though it might slightly less useful.

What didn’t you like about Johanna Oosterwyk’s performance?

Sorry, but to put it bluntly, this is the worst audiobook narration I've ever heard. I honestly thought it might be a computer generated voice for about the first hour, it's that robotic. Basically there are two modes of performance here: Over-annunciated robot voice, and then absolutely god-awful 'character' voices for the various people interviewed. Just like, cartoonishly bad. I physically cringed every time she does a new voice; impossibly, they actually worse as the book goes on. I really and truly do not understand how anyone ever hired this voice performer to narrate anything. Many times throughout the book, I contemplated turning it off and returning it, I don't know how I made it all the way through. Had the subject matter been less interesting to me, I definitely would have.

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This is non-fiction, based on wonderful research

I've completed this audible book and have ordered the hard copy for our lending library. Elisabeth discusses her contemporary research on modern polyamory relationships, she reports on the experiences of persons within these new relationships, including those with a long term family unit structure, but of a non-monogamous style. There is a growing library of how polyamory works, but few have taken the time to do skilled and ethically based research into this not so new type of relationship, dare I say family structure, that is coming our of the shadows. Please give it a read. Share with others.
Anne R Harris, LCPC
Executive Director of the Montana Family Center

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Good research, mediocre book

I’m happy that Sheff is doing sociological research on an understudied population, and I think she does a great job with her methods and interviews. The book, however, is somewhat uninspired. The first section, which tries to explain what polyamory is, was so concerned with normalizing it for a monogamous audience that it failed to capture the excitement that the polyamory community feels about the radical possibilities of this relationship model. I skipped ahead to the portion that was more interview-heavy and was happy with that, since it really is cool to hear people’s words reproduced in print. The book also suffers from quite a lot of grammatical and stylistic errors that should have been cleaned up during revision and copy editing. Hindering the experience further, the narrator is extremely dry, with an affect that could easily be confused with Siri. Not sad I read it, though! It’s worthwhile if you’re a sociology nerd like me.

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Well written.

I felt the narrator should have used more inflection, but it did not subtract from my processing the information.

If you're interested in Poly variations this is a great listen.

If you want to be poly try "More Than Two" or "Ethical Slut".

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a story of peoples destruction.

Listened to it all. Very long and not connected together as a story line. Filled with leftist woke bribble. Was very disturbed my the authors flippant ideas of separation and creating new relationships just because the old ones are old or need work. The refered to subjects were hard to trace over the book. Confusing. Learned what not to do and what not to be. Poly in the form described is not recommended.

Wish there were more like this

This is the only book I've found on this subject which attempts to be objective and inclusive. Still, it only scratches the surface in it's review of a very diverse group of people living in a variety of non- traditional, non-monogamous familial arrangements. It does not consider at all polyfidelitous families, although somethings could be inferred. I hope the author continues her research and continues to publish.

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Good for information.

Loved it. Wish there was more research not just ethnographic. But to the authors credit the data doesn’t yet exist.

Well-researched, given limitations imposed.

Appreciated the "warts and all" evaluation, also recognition that many problems attributed to "non-traditional" families are just as prevalent (or more) in conventional families, and emphasis on clear, honest and loving communication is key.