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Publisher's Summary

'I am from a family of strong women.'

Amani Haydar suffered the unimaginable when she lost her mother in a brutal act of domestic violence perpetrated by her father. Five months pregnant at the time, her own perception of how she wanted to mother (and how she had been mothered) was shaped by this devastating murder.

After her mother's death, Amani began reassessing everything she knew of her parents' relationship. They had been unhappy for so long - should she have known that it would end like this? A lawyer by profession, she also saw the holes in the justice system for addressing and combating emotional abuse and coercive control.

Amani also had to reckon with the weight of familial and cultural context. Her parents were brought together in an arranged marriage, her mother 13 years her father's junior. Her grandmother was brutally killed in the 2006 war in Lebanon, adding complex layers of intergenerational trauma.

Writing with grace and beauty, Amani has drawn from this a story of female resilience and the role of motherhood in the home and in the world. In The Mother Wound, she uses her own strength to help other survivors find their voices.  

©2021 Amani Haydar (P)2021 Macmillan Audio

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amazing work

this book was an insightful listen it covered topics of feminism more domestic violence trauma and overall a story displaying resilience.

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Incredible

Simply put, this memoir is a must listen to/must read. With grace and with poetry, Haydar traverses her story, her mother’s story, her grandmothers story and a raft of complex social and cultural and political issues in a way that is both personal and universal. This book is so thoughtfully and greatly written, and it is narrated by the author with a special audio excerpt which I won’t spoil. It is essential listening and I implore everyone to download it.

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The Mother Wound - Amani Haydar

Amani’s parents immigrated to Australia from Lebanon in the late 1980’s in the midst of the Lebanese civil war. In 2015 her father brutally murdered her loving mother, Salwa. During this unfathomable loss, Amani was working as a lawyer and 5 months pregnant with her first child. The grief and trauma that goes with becoming a mother whilst loosing your mother (and your father in another sense) is extremely hard to imagine.

In The Mother Wound, Amani shares very personal details of her family life growing up right through to the present day. She covers such a huge range of important topics such as feminism, grief and dealing with trauma, generational trauma, cultural and religious expectations, sexism, gender roles, racism, Islamophobia, domestic violence, the justice system and so much more. She adds social context by using the balance of her lived experience vs. facts, research and statistics (which are all extremely sobering).

Being a lawyer, Amani had a firm understanding of how the justice system worked and her breakdown of the murder trial was extremely interesting. She also talks about the many inadequacies within the legal system and policies relating to criminal justice and victim support. Legislation and support is seldom fit for purpose when dealing with victims and families who are are affected by Domestic Violence. Amani is a passionate advocate for change in these areas and her story highlights the importance of advocacy.

Parts of this memoir were extremely sad whereas others were inspiring. Amani’s mother, Salwa was an educated woman who’s life work was helping others in various job roles. Her tragic murder is difficult to reflect on and Amani talks about this. The guilt and pain that from wondering about the signs of abuse that may have gone unnoticed and the ‘what if’s’.

This memoir is as informative as it is heartbreaking. Amani is an incredibly intelligent and inspiring woman. The whole way through I was in awe of her resilience and ability to move forward while fighting for change and honouring her mother’s legacy.

I have never had so much trouble writing a review. This book is absolutely incredible and I fear I’m not doing it justice here.

I HIGHLY (and I can’t stress this enough) recommend this book. Hands down the most incredible memoir I have ever read.

This is a book that will stick with you for a very long time.

5/5 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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The mother wound

Without question the best book I have ever read.
I listened on audible and then purchased the book. Everyone should own a copy.
Amani is an incredible, amazing and inspirational women. What a story, I ll never forget it x

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Amazing!

What a brilliant piece of work. So honest and raw. A story that shares the heart break and experience many people can relate too.

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