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The Journey from Abandonment to Healing

Surviving Through and Recovering from the Five Stages That Accompany the Loss of Love
Narrated by: Randye Kaye
Length: 10 hrs and 11 mins
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Like Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' groundbreaking On Death and Dying, Susan Anderson's book clearly defines the five phases of a different kind of grieving - grieving over a lost relationship. An experienced professional who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than two decades, Anderson gives this subject the serious attention it deserves. The Journey from Abandonment to Healing is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups - whether they are suffering from a recent loss or a lingering wound from the past; whether they are caught up in patterns that sabotage their own relationships or they are in a relationship where they no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, this book provides a complete program for abandonment recovery.

©2000, 2014 Susan Anderson, CSW (P)2014 Tantor

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"If there can be a pill to cure the heartbreak of rejection, this book may be it." ---Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People

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Amazing

Randye has the most soothing voice, delivering some amazing messages of hope and methods for growth. A must listen for anyone suffering emotionally.

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great book, very transformative! didn't love the narrator but really enjoyed the content! I look forward to integrating the lessons into my everyday life

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A good book ruined by a terrible voice

This book would have been so helpful to me but I can't stand the voice over artist. Its a really wrong choice for this type of book. She has a voice suited to an infomercial, not a book that must sound, genuine, sincere and intimate. Really bad choice, casting agent.

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Helpful and Useful

I think this book aptly summarises and explains abandonment and there are lots of good examples in it. I particularly agreed with the explanation linking current experiences to past losses. It gives positive hopeful expectation to the reader that they can recover.

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  • Dan
  • 16-03-2016

Amazing Book

What made the experience of listening to The Journey from Abandonment to Healing the most enjoyable?

It's been five years since my 20-year marriage was destroyed one morning. I have searched for books, gone to counseling but nothing made sense until I started reading this book.

What did you like best about this story?

I wondered how my partner was able to move on so quickly while I was still in love and incapable of moving on. This book described my situation to a "T" and was the first book that made sense to me. It helped me to get on the road to recovery. It is a must read if you are grieving over a relationship and can't seem to move on.

What did you learn from The Journey from Abandonment to Healing that you would use in your daily life?

I cannot look to anybody or anything else for my happiness except inside myself.

Any additional comments?

I feel deep gratitude to the author for writing this book.

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  • owleyes1918
  • 21-05-2016

Excellent! A must-listen!

This book may be helpful for those who have issues related to abandonment, low self-esteem, negative cyclical thoughts, sustaining relationships, trust that loved ones/good things in their lives are steady and reliable, etc. I'm so grateful I listened to this, and have been recommending it to my friends. And now I'm recommending it to you! I hope it helps you. If not, please keep trying and looking.

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  • Seth's musica
  • 14-09-2017

I cried so hard for so much of this!

FINALLY! Explanations for why I feel panic every time I get close to someone, why my body reacts the way it does. I am gay and was raised in a fundamentalist Christian group, the threat of 'if you're gay, I'll disown you ' was always spoken.
At 34, I'm finally learning how to love that little boy inside who only wanted to be loved for who he was. Thank you so much!

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  • Kibosh
  • 06-07-2019

Read it, don't listen to it.

If you're in the middle of abandonment and grief, the contents of this book are invaluable. However, the narrator's performance couldn't be more inappropriate for this subject matter. I'm not convinced she knew what she was reading during the recording session. The narrator reads the book with a joyful, almost flirtatious tone, that is infuriating for someone who is struggling with the gut wrenching feelings of loss and heartache. It's like she thought she was reading a cheeky romance novel. The performance is so careless, it almost feels like it's on purpose.

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  • JZiv
  • 27-02-2016

You need this book.

This book helped me through a really difficult time in my life.

I had been searching for a therapist, and in the meantime I found this book. This book was so useful to me and what I was going through that I no longer needed to see a therapist so urgently. This book, by no means, is a replacement for therapy, but it has given me tools I connect with, and have been using regularly to better myself.

If you are the kind of person who is willing to grow and learn about yourself and others, read this. It provides really simple tools to help make difficult situations much better managed. I now have the ability to act with reason and logic when presented with difficult or upsetting information, rather than feeling anger or sadness. I understand my emotions much better now.

She also uses biological facts about how the brain processes information, which has provided some much needed justification.

I will keep listening to this book as a reference, and have recommended it with a few people already. I could not recommend it more highly.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 16-02-2015

finally! A book for our particular type of grief

Should be a mandatory reading for all mental health professionals. one size grief doesn't fit all.

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  • Anna O
  • 28-09-2017

Like talking to a wise loving friend

I highly recommend this book to anyone finding themselves in (and out of) relationships where they experience rejection and lack of caring. Reading this book is like talking to a wise and incredibly loving friend. The exercises help healing. I only wish Susan narrated it herself.

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  • OrangeTree
  • 28-08-2015

Outstanding

Thank you. this book has helped me to understand my past conditioning and rise above it.

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  • Pamela
  • 02-08-2016

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This book, I found very helpful to understand what is clearly going on for me in my life. I have been abandoned many times in my life. The last time was by my beloved friend and husband of 33 years together. I now am beginning to see how to deal with my feelings, thanks to the clarity I got from the book. I would need to listen to it again because I felt the big, little, inner child, outer child process, was confusing to me and in order to get more clarity on this process, I need to understand it better. It's difficult to take everything in clearly, the first time.
This book was recommended to me by my Life Practitioner/therapist. I really enjoyed the clarity and healing I felt from this book,
Thank you Susan.
I have forward the book to a number of my colleagues and hope it will bring some clarity to them as it has for me.
Regards,
Pamela

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  • Ann Taylor S.
  • 17-03-2016

So much great information!

there is so much great information in this book! You will want to have paper and a pencil to make sure you can take notes.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 03-01-2019

An antidote to abandonment suffering

A wonderful book that offers real therapy to those when they need it the most, as it did to me.

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  • L. M. Barber
  • 10-10-2016

Life affirming

I think Susan Anderson wrote this book after observing my first 50 years of life. I feel someone understands me & wants to put a caring arm around my shoulder.

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  • Luna
  • 24-07-2020

Read this if you need help with your breakup

Loved this book. Some solid advice on how to turn your abandonment wound into opportunity for growth and new love. I've struggled with my breakup for some time and this book has great techniques to help with that. I loved the true accounts of other abandonment survivors and it made me feel less alone and alien. I listened to the audio book and I loved the narrator's voice.

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  • Beverley Graham
  • 22-02-2020

Loved it

Loved it, recommend this book. Its helped me see myself in a better light. The only adjustment I have made is that I don't blame my outer child. I understand the communication behind her behaviour and her need for acceptance too

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  • shweta
  • 23-02-2016

good insight

really insightful with practical tips for someone who's going through abandonment. will recommend to friend's