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The Dance of Connection

By: Harriet Lerner
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In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when:

  • We need an apology, and the person who has harmed us won't apologize or be accountable
  • We don't know how to take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate
  • We feel worn down by the other person's criticism, negativity, or irresponsible behavior
  • We have been rejected or cut off, and the other person won't show up for the conversation
  • We are struggling with staying or leaving, and we don't know our "bottom line"
  • We are convinced that we've tried everything, and nothing changes

Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new "voice lessons" that show us how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly.

Whether we're dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches us how to navigate our most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.

©1999 Harriet Lerner (P)2001 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. Emotions Personal Development Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships
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so inspiring, learning to have deep enduring connections is one of the most difficult and rewarding things we can do in life.

wonderful wisdom

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What an eye opening book creating a deep understanding of our human behaviour and how we can change it to effect the greater good. Completely loved this book. Highly recommended 🙏🏽❤️

So much wisdom

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My psychologist recommended I read this book and I’m so glad she did. So much great practical advice and insight- loved it!

Excellent Book

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Her books are some of the most insightful and empowering I’ve come across. This one is quite accessible and gives examples of lots of common dilemmas, plus the core substance of her approach to improving relationships of all kind.

Love Harriet Lerner

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Great insights. Thank you for sharing your wisdom helping us improve connections now and into the future.

Highly recommend

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Understandably not an unbiased book as it’s targeted for women but the subtle gaslighting throughout the book explaining so scientifically how men are still the problem and women are always just trying their best is remarkable

All about how men are the problem and women are just trying their best

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Unable to finish due to the slow and painful reading style. Everything she discussed was reasonable and even helpful but the narration was appalling.

The content is fine - the voice is unbearable

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