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The Dance of Anger

A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
Narrated by: Barbara Caruso
Length: 6 hrs and 50 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel - and certainly our anger is no exception.

"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.

For decades this book has helped millions of listeners learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

©1985 Harriet G. Lerner (P)1999 Recorded Books, LLC

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Great book!

As always, Harriet Lerner gives so much excellent practical advice, shares many stories & communicates very clearly. Loved this book!

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Wish had read it years ago

I have enjoyed this book so much. I learned so much and I wish I had read it years ago. I recommend it to any man or woman who feel stuck in a relationship with their partner, parents, children , or colleagues. I think the discussions apply to both gender, and men can benefit as much as women.

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Good info narrator not so Much

The information is great but the narrator sounds like a school madam a bit off putting. Maybe I need to work on my anger around that.

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  • Charlie P
  • 03-10-2017

A wonderful, insightful book

This is the 3rd time I've returned to this book and each time I find new insights. Harriet Lerner has helped a great many people with this book, the discussion on who is responsible for what, the questions she guides us to ask ourselves and the position of being for ourselves and not against others is just what I have needed time and again in my life.
Harriet helps us to see that as women we're often encouraged to feel responsible for the thoughts, feelings and wellbeing of others but not for our own, she calls this being in a de-selfed position. By owning the responsibility for our own wellbeing, seeing where and how our actions are part of the patterns in which we are entrenched, we can choose new behaviours breaking the cycle of impotent anger and using our anger as a tool for transformation and self empowerment.

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  • Zahra
  • 27-04-2017

absolute gem of a book

Dr Lerner's understanding of human relationships is second to none, investing your time in listening to this book means improving your understanding of yourself and others

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  • Sj
  • 13-02-2019

Brilliant!!

As a relationship Counsellor I highly recommend this book to everybody, not just women. It covers all the things I cover with my couples so it was great to listen and be nodding and agreeing everything!

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  • Pete
  • 18-01-2019

Not for men

As a man, I got a whole 3 minutes in before the anger started to dance. Chauvenistic to the extreme, which is a shame as some of non gender specific insight in the first minute was useful.

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  • Trusted buyer
  • 24-12-2018

Fantastic book

Absolutely loved this book. Will be reading it again (and again). Brilliantly insightful. Packed with wise insight.

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  • lawrie minty
  • 09-01-2017

life makes more sense

well written, really to the point. excellent real life examples. no messing around. much clarity gained

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