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Publisher's Summary

Kiera Van Gelder's first suicide attempt at the age of 12 marked the onset of her struggles with drug addiction, depression, post-traumatic stress, self-harm, and chaotic romantic relationships - all of which eventually led to doctors' belated diagnosis of borderline personality disorder 20 years later.

The Buddha and the Borderline is a window into this mysterious and debilitating condition, an unblinking portrayal of one woman's fight against the emotional devastation of borderline personality disorder. This haunting, intimate memoir chronicles both the devastating period that led to Kiera's eventual diagnosis and her inspirational recovery through therapy, Buddhist spirituality, and a few online dates gone wrong. Kiera's story sheds light on the private struggle to transform suffering into compassion for herself and others, and is essential listening for all seeking to understand what it truly means to recover and reclaim the desire to live.

©2010 Kiera Van Gelder (P)2017 Post Hypnotic Press Inc.

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Very relatable on some parts

I really enjoyed this book.
Don’t be put off from part of the title “online dating” as I originally was- it’s just about her way back into dating, not about online dating itself.
Hard to relate to the buddisim side of things with wording that I did not understand due to not practising Buddhism
Though really enjoyed her story, helped me to realise I need a support group in DBT which I’m
due to start soon- so thank you xx

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  • Bob
  • 31-10-2017

Clarity for a parent

As the parent of a 14 year old with BPD. Kiera gave me a clear picture of whats going on inside my daughter and the hope DBT therapy may help! As well its opened my eyes on how to listen in a different way. Fingers crossed for my daughter and for Kiera.

Thank you Kiera my heart is with you as well.

R's Dad

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  • Stittsville Shopper
  • 07-04-2017

useful book

So much useful information in the first three quarters of the book. The last bit goes way off track.

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  • Margie
  • 04-10-2018

Borderline personality disorder exemplified!

Cudos to the author! Great story. Entertaining and educational. A MUST read for anyone effected with borderline personality disorder.

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  • Anne
  • 02-09-2018

I was diagnosed

I was hospitalized and diagnosed in the hospital. When I came out I saw this book online doing research for myself so I bought it softcover and followed along while listening on here. It helped me a lot coming to rearms with bit all. Thank you

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  • margaret
  • 22-07-2018

The Path to Order in Life

Lots of questions to start off. Through the book most were answered, all but the ones I need to ask myself. Is living with serenity and being translucent to myself worth it? My recommendation read this book. You’ll possibly learn what the read experienced and be able to identify your own answered to the issues you have or someone you know are dealing with.

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  • troyohna
  • 12-10-2018

Excellent introduction and extremely well written

Such raw honesty with vivid details to really connect with readers, this book is a gift.

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  • Susan
  • 11-12-2017

Informative but repetitive

Until listening to this book, I was convinced that my mother had BPD. Now I know that is not the case. Kira is a good writer, but I got tired of listening to her problems while at the same time, feeling sorry for her. I don’t recommend this book to anyone except those who think they might have BPD or are involved with someone who has the disorder. Also, the book reinforced my belief that people who gravitate to Buddhism are often very screwed up. (That view is based on personal experience.)

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  • Amy
  • 30-07-2018

Meh

Some times I just wanted to slap the author, I deal with the same stuff she does and I felt a lot of her comments were VAST over simplifications.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 29-10-2017

Validating and inspiring.

Very validating to hear that somebody else has had similar experiences too me, some such minor details that ring so true. Has inspired me to visit my local Buddhist centre.

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  • Karen
  • 10-09-2018

This was okay, but it got quite repetitive

Lost interest about half way through as it just seemed to repeat itself. Shows the real struggle and a failed healthcare system, but wish it was more of a journey how she had come on and more of a positive spin on things

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  • bunny_girl
  • 25-02-2018

Inspiring

I LOVED this book! I could relate to it on an intrinsic level and found it insightful and inspiring. I’d give it 10 stars if I could!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 01-09-2017

Empowering!

I loved this audible book! I was interested in DBT and came across it. The title had me curious, the sample had me hooked. It's so descriptive open and honest I could relate to the behaviours, the processes and the journey. The narration and speed of the read seemed fitting for the borderline mind. I think that therapists would find this insightful and people who have wondered and reflected about their personalities and partners too would find this enlightening. An ongoing process. Felt really positive and a great listen.