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What is the boy crisis?

It's a crisis of education. For the first time in American history, our sons will have less education than their dads.

It's a crisis of mental health. As boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women.

It's a crisis of sexuality. Sex is a minefield for our sons. They're bombarded with mixed messages, afraid of being either too sensitive or not sensitive enough.

It's a crisis of fathering. Boys with less-involved fathers are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison.

It's a crisis of purpose. Boys' old senses of purposes, being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner, are fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a "purpose void", feeling alienated, withdrawn, and addicted to immediate gratification. Compounding this issue are addicting video games that lead to distraction and ADHD.

So, what is The Boy Crisis? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policy-makers can do to renew our sons' sense of purpose to help them become men, fathers, and leaders worthy of our respect.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2018 Warren Farrell and John Gray (P)2018 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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First half great, second half terrible

Warren Farrell in the first half was amazing, all the ideas made sense and were things I've kind of thought about but he put into words really well. The second half was trash including homeopathy and "detox" remedies for ADHD. The lack of science in the second half made me question all the research in the first half. It is a weird collaboration because the halves are seemingly by different people, each with a distinct focus.

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Can't recommend it enough!!

One book I know will be re reading. I was pleasantly surprised by the wealth of information in the 2nd part on ADHD. Both co authors are easy to listen to and have their own way of exploring this subject.

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Great antidote to the entitled female narrative

For men everywhere (and the men in your lives if you’re female).

Factual, data driven and fabulously informed insights to counter the current vogue for men bashing and labelling any male behaviour as toxic masculinity when it doesn’t fit a feminism doctrine.

Hopefully opens societal eyes to the hidden challenges men and boys face in today’s world... if of course anyone actually cares to be informed or accept that men are not all privileged and toxic.

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Amazing every needs to read this

Everyone again needs to read this wow I was so impressed. I have already recommended it on and will read again

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Excellent Content Until Pseudoscience At End

Very well researched and important content that is dramatically overlooked in today's world. Must read for anyone concerned with men's health in the modern day.
The book is tainted, however by yhe preaching of Pseudoscience such as homeopathy and other quackery in the last quarter of the book. Leaving you questioning the validity of everything you just read.
Despite this, the first part still withstands criticism (unlike homeopathy) and is an important read.

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A great book, that every parent should read.

I loved this book. I think the problems that are represented in this book are correct and in desperate need of fixing. The title could of quiet easily of been called the Human crisis.

While I agree with the problem, I don’t think the cause of the problem are social constructs or bribes. I fundamentally believe the causes are much more to do biological structures instead of social structures.

The book was very well written and narrated just as well.

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A compelling & thorough analysis

Examined from every angle while bringing to bear the most up to date research. You will be amazed by this expose of the current issues facing boys & the role of fathers in what they can bring to the lives of their children that is absolutely crucial to their success.

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essential reading for all parents

A brilliant piece of work. Insightfull and professional. Helped & Improved my understanding of myself and how important it is to be an attentive father and essential role model. Do the world a favour, absorb the teachings of this book and raise your son to be prepared for our new world.

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Great guide to being a male in today's society

What an excellent book a must read for any guy and girl out there looking to become part of the change for society

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its to stories in one. physical and mental...

twonstories brought together in one book. I really enjoyed it, and so many new things I never thought about in this way before. Thank you for a great book!

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  • Kirk
  • 07-04-2018

Healed a Deep Wound with my Daughter

Would you listen to The Boy Crisis again? Why?

Yes, as it The Boy Crisis does a great job of describing what the boy crisis is, and how it has become one of the greatest hidden secrets of our time. It explains that this is a crisis of Education, Mental Health, Fathering, and a lack of Purpose.

This book is priceless. I believe that if it were available during my marriage, I would have my daughter in my life today.

Who was your favorite character and why?

The stories about the young men that carried out the school shootings.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

There were too many to list as the book is filled with data and insights that describe what the Boy Crisis is and what needs to be done to address the serious issues facing them.

Any additional comments?

This book enabled me to heel years of deep sadness and hurt. Written about the boy crisis, it is just as relevant to a girl crisis. As a father who saw his teenage daughter grow up fatherless due to divorce, I am so very grateful for Warren’s immense amount of research and reference to numerous studies that helped me to understand the causes and the impact of children losing a parent. If you are a fatherless child or a parent of a fatherless child, be prepared to feel sadness, anger, and even shed some tears, but don’t stop reading. By the end, it is possible that you can heal a wound that has affected your entire life.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 14-04-2018

This is the reason men are going their own way

It is a book that everyone should be aware of. We as a society need to cure the issues in men, not cure the symptoms.

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  • Kris
  • 27-06-2019

skip the section of woo

Doctor Farrell's portion of this book was wonderful. He gives a lot of insight into how and why boys and men think and act. Honestly, if all of the book other than section six (maybe it was five) was here I would have given the book a five star overall review.
The portions narrated by Doctor Gray are terrible. First, he has a voice meant for print. Second, and more importantly, the advice he gives is dubious at best. Does your child have autism? Get them some yogurt made from breast milk and they might just be cured. I wish I was joking. Oh, don't forget the supliments available for purchase on his website. Because the pharmaceutical industry is just in it for the money, not like the alternative medicine industry.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 13-10-2018

great writing and performance by Warren Farrel

I really enjoyed Dr Farrells writings and findings on how children, boys especially need their fathers to help them overcome the traps of modern society and avoid livingmeaning deprived lives. He is ofcourse very liberal and that seeps through his writing but i only found myself screaming at the car radio a couple of times while listening to this book.
John Gray's part of the book should be separated into a different book called 'John Gray kills your fun' or 'Stop having so much fun!' by John Gray.
If this book had only the part read by dr Farrell i would have given it 5 stars.

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  • ckayc
  • 18-01-2019

Good points ruined by social justice interlogs

The major point of this book would have been better presented without the author's prejudice against the second amendment and his entreat to get us talking about global warming at the dinner table. Inserting his own political/social agenda items just kind of discredited his authority, and my acceptance of his message was blunted.
I agree there is a boy/man crisis and Mr. Farrell makes some great points towards that effect. However I found him harder and harder to listen to as he began inserting non-facts and blatant agendized opinions. It would have been so easy to have left those parts out-but he didn't. And I would not recommend this book based on my wonderment at the authority of Mr. Farrell's opinions.
(I know the word 'agendized' is made-up, but I like it, and it expressed what I was trying to say exactly.)

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  • Matt Neal
  • 16-05-2018

Excellent Discussion of a Critical Topic

I’ll begin with a caveat: this review applies only to the portion of this book written by Warren Farrell. For more on John Gray’s (thankfully) small section of the book, see the final paragraph.

The Boy Crisis is an incredibly thoughtful book written by a man who has been actively working to improve the lives of every member of our society for decades. His more recent focus on the gender specific problems of men and boys came about because of the great need of men and boys for advocacy, advocacy at the level seen with certain women’s groups. I say certain to underline that some women’s groups view the denigration of men as equivalent to the elevation of women. The author is well aware of this trend of portraying men negatively and unfairly, but not once does he allow resentment or bitterness to slip into his discussion. Rather, Farrell’s equanimity and grace give further clout to his message. This is not about men vs. women. It is about men and women helping each other find better lives for themselves and their children.

Farrell brings to light the huge, but largely ignored, struggles that men and boys face in our society today. From the societal expectation that, “As a male, I am disposable,” to the terrible dilemma that fathers face where showing love by providing at work (as is expected of him by family and society) paradoxically alienates him from the family that gives his life meaning. Farrell also ties in, with a poignant story from his own life, the blatant discrimination against fathers in family and divorce court. This discrimination is also seen in the ACA legislation, in federal committees, and in popular media.

This book personally resonated with me. It gave voice to so many social injustices that face men and boys today. It also underlines, with statistics and stories of actual sufferers, how society today doesn’t seem to care about those injustices. Indeed, how does the “wage gap” still get so much attention when the “workplace death gap” and the “suicide gap” receive none?

The book gives a message of hope, however. Discussion of the importance of fatherhood, and of fathers, to our society leaves the reader with a renewed sense of purpose. Farrell also outlines strategies for fixing The Boy Crisis that extend to the personal, the familial, and the political. Overall, Warren Farrell’s “The Boy Crisis” is a fascinating, moving read, and I think everyone, both men and women, should give his ideas some real consideration.

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John Gray’s section on ADHD is less about the scientific evidence regarding ADHD, its causes, and its viable treatment options, and more about the presentation of data in a misleading way in order to support Gray’s narrative. John Gray’s section reads like a scaremongering tabloid, it detracts from the important social issues of The Boy Crisis, and could cause parents to seek medically unsound options for their children. Note that Gray is an author and a family/marriage counselor. He has NO formal pharmacological or medical training. His section of this otherwise well written, well researched book should be taken with a lump of salt, or disregarded entirely. Take your child to a certified medical doctor if you are worried about your child’s health.

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  • Midwest north
  • 14-05-2018

Warren Farrell good John Grey bad

The Warren Farrell sections of this book that take up its majority are pretty darn great but when it switches to the John Grey chapters near the end I was taken aback. John Grey continually states that homeopathic treatment is FDA-approved which is a blatant lie, pushing for limited studies and experimental treatments. While there are certainly unique cases the research in these areas indicates that individuals can be harmed by such treatments and more research is certainly needed.

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  • Platano86
  • 09-05-2018

Please read if you have boys!

A must read if you have kids and especially if you have boys. Eye opening information even for those educated in this field.

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  • Carlos
  • 03-05-2021

The most important book I've read a life changer

I grew up surrounded by single mothers. My grandmother and her daughters were all single mothers. All my life I've struggled to find out why I was the way I was. This book finally answered so many of my questions. Every single negative consequence of single motherhood that a young boy might face as stated in the book from video game addiction to ADHD to involvement with radical ideologies, I experienced. This is the single most important book I have ever read in my life. It is like waking up from a dream finally achieving self-awareness and understanding what happened to me. This book changed my life and hopefully I can start living a more healthy life now that I know what went wrong. I urge any man who grew up without a dad or someone who has a son to read this.

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  • Bryan G
  • 21-03-2021

Lots of information

The first 3/4 of the book is great the last part will push you up against your wall of beliefs. The dr John Gray talks about how you can cure your sons adhd and Autism with homeopathic treatments. It’s a little hard to swallow but who knows.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 03-09-2018

Great book, very intense and emotional at times.

This should be a must read for every person in government and the legal system. It is time for society to open their eyes to the problems faced by boys in today's society. Let's stop listening to feminist lies about toxic masculinity and tackle the real problem of fatherlessness.

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  • Santiago
  • 23-01-2019

Moving fresh perspective.

Warren Farrell makes a very well reasoned case describing problems boys in particular face nowadays, discussing ways to solve these, and challenging some cultural presuppositions most people have. It's a balanced, positive, compassionate essay, derived from many years of professional experience and research. And well written.

I gave this review less than 5 stars because the 2nd part, written and narrated by John Gray, advices BS alternative medicine such as homeopathy and other dubious methods, mixed together with some good advice.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-01-2021

Great book, eye opener!

Loved it, it has general advice beside the topic that will enrich everyone's life!

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  • KBam
  • 17-11-2020

Very enlightening analysis.

Guaranteed to make you a better father for not just your son but also your daughter!

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  • Mokey Jones
  • 07-10-2020

eye opening

as a father a great source of information not always convenient but needed. many thanks

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  • P Iveson
  • 13-02-2019

A few hiccups

Mostly a good listen. Had a lot of quality, future proof information which will hopefully aid the development of men for years to come.
However, I felt his approach was an extremely soft one, the approach to literature on ADHD was missing an adult lot of views on the effects of the educational system on children, and the final chapters were like listening to a series of adverts for homeopathy.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 05-06-2021

A lot to say.

This is a fantastic book, it covers some hard question with very good theoried answers. Loads of information, can be a little drawn out in places. It is a very good listen/read.

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  • David Martin
  • 07-05-2021

Essential reading, but skip the last few chapters

The 80% of the book is essential reading/listening for everyone, especially parents of boys. It covers how and why men are discriminated against, the specific hardships that boys have to endure, as well as how best to help them.

However, the last few chapters are almost a separate book, complete with a different narrator. This "second book" comes across as a sales pitch for John Gray's holistic medicine shop, and are only tangentially related to the boy crisis. Unless alternative medicine is something you're interested in, just skip these chapters.

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  • Gerry
  • 10-04-2021

One of the most impactful books I've ever read

Even as a feminist, tons to learn and think about here. Incredible book that I will be recommending to everyone.

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  • Paul Russell
  • 20-09-2020

Deeply schewed view of the world.

This is a version of the world i recognise but it is far from the norm for boys.
The author and most of the evidence used to push the narrative of the book have a gigantic blind spot. It is all taken from the cerebral academic world. Or as the old Italian saying goes " too much brains, not enough balls".

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