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The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.

Narrated by: Joe Hempel
Length: 3 hrs and 15 mins
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Stand your ground without guilt, fear, or awkward tension. Finally get what you deserve and stop letting it slide.

Who is making your life choices for you? Make sure you possess the everyday assertiveness to choose for yourself and resist the pressures from all angles of life. You’ve put yourself last your entire life. It’s time for that to change.

Stop enabling, people pleasing, and being so agreeable. The Art of Everyday Assertiveness is a guide for the chronically nice, overwhelmed, and accommodating. It is a deep psychological dive into what makes us lack assertiveness and how to systematically combat those compulsions. It’s a book that stands apart from others because of the plethora of real-life examples and solutions. 

If your problem is assertiveness, you’ll find the step-by-step answer in this book. Included is a 28-day assertiveness action plan unlike any other. Gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want.

Patrick King is an internationally best-selling author and social skills coach. His writing draws on a variety of sources, including research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience. He’s also a recovering people pleaser who knows exactly how it feels to feel unable to speak his mind.

Stop putting others first and being taken advantage of.

  • How to balance assertiveness, accommodation, and agreeableness
  • How to practice self-acceptance, prioritization, and empathy
  • The instinct to over-apologize and how to fix it
  • The reasons that keep you compliant and willing
  • How to decisively say NO and reclaim your time and energy
  • How to ask for exactly what you want, when you want it
  • Saying NO with impact and grace
  • Understanding your subconscious thought patterns and beliefs
©2018 Peter Hollins (P)2018 Peter Hollins

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Great book

Really great read. Inspiring and insightful with practical tips for conquering the ability to be assertive. Found the narrator very robotic though.

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  • cheri
  • 03-02-2018

standard eighties self help baloney

the narrator was monotone and dry, no excitement or enthusiasm in his voice, but what was worse was the actual content. Patrick King is in no way an authority on this topic, his advice seemed like he took what sounded good from other books and presented them here without significant change or improvement. they sound good in theory, but they don't have much value in practice. don't waste your money or time.

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  • Girard
  • 13-03-2018

what?

Would you try another book from Patrick King and/or Joe Hempel?

This is the worst advice anyone can give on assertiveness, it will do more harm in your interactions than good!

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  • TB
  • 01-04-2018

Too Macho

What disappointed you about The Art of Everyday Assertiveness: Speak Up. Say No. Set Boundaries. Take Back Control.?

From reading this book, Patrick King came off a bit chauvinistic...maybe his last name has gone to his head - King. As a woman, couldn't get into his book. I think it's geared more for men. I have to say, if a man did some of the things he suggests, I would slap him. If you are a woman, I recommend The Assertiveness Guide for Woman by Julie de Azevedo Hanks

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  • Mr. O Aromire
  • 13-05-2018

great and practical

loved the book. just what I needed to help me become assertive. will recommend to anyone who wants to come out of the trap.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-11-2019

Very practical

Clear, valuable tips. Well worth reading to improve your assertiveness skills. Nicely structured. I'll re-listen for sure to absorb the ideas fully.

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  • Hayley Murphy
  • 03-11-2019

Just what I needed.

The activities at the end of the book at just what I needed. It’s been interesting to learn how I’ve been approaching issues from a passive perspective and that being assertive isn’t all that scary. Would definitely recommend! 👍

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  • Aerts Florence
  • 04-10-2019

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I just enjoyed it all along ,a bit technical but factual , great support to learn to stand up for yourself.

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  • Diana S.
  • 02-03-2019

Excellent book, very relatable, time4me2takeAction

Excellent book, very relatable, time4me2takeAction.

I will be trying the action plan, I scored assertive on the self assessment but the others weren't far behind....