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Somebody I Used to Know

Narrated by: Rachel Atkins
Length: 8 hrs and 10 mins
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Publisher's Summary

When Wendy Mitchell was diagnosed with dementia at the age of 58, she had to say goodbye to the woman she once was. Her career in the NHS, her ability to drive, cook and run - the various shades of her independence - were suddenly gone. Yet Wendy was determined not to give in. She was, and still is, propelled by a need to live in the moment, never knowing which version of herself might surface tomorrow.

In this phenomenal memoir - the first of its kind - Wendy grapples with questions most of us have never had to consider. What do you value when loss of memory reframes what you have, how you have lived and what you stand to lose? What happens when you can no longer recognise your own daughters or even, on the foggiest of days, yourself?

Philosophical, intensely personal and ultimately hopeful, Somebody I Used to Know gets to the very heart of what it means to be human. It is both a heartrending tribute to the woman Wendy used to be and a brave affirmation of the woman dementia has seen her become.

©2018 Wendy Mitchell (P)2017 Audible, Ltd

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Poignant

A great way to approach this topic that touches so many lives, whether as the key person or their family and friends. Lots of people should read this book.

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Wonderful account

Informative insight into dementia. Having a mother of my own in the early stages of dementia I found this very helpful in what I should & shouldn’t do to help my mum.
Beautiful & honestly written & read.
Thank you for your story Wendy

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  • Anne H.
  • 07-03-2018

Very informative

I didn’t know if I wanted to listen to Wendy’s story I was a bit scared I suppose. I’m glad I did I think everyone should read it,it is the most informative information on dementia have heard on how it affects people who have it,both my mother and my mother in law had dementia I wish Wendy’s book had been around then I would have understood the disease better and approached some issues with more understanding.Everyone should read it,it should be part of the school curriculum to help future generations understand the disease.

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  • Cliente Kindle
  • 14-02-2018

Moved to tears and awe by this autobiographic account of the authors experience of dementia

Picked up the book to gain some insight into what Alzeihmers disease is doing to my husbands brain.Trying to help him and myself to adapt to this Tsunami that is Alzeihmer.
I gain compassion and understanding of his plight and mine.
Brave brave struggle that Wendy has put to the disease. What is more learn a lot of her coping strategies that are going to be helpful , for example the use of reminders in the IPad.

Thank you from the heart

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  • Kevin
  • 27-02-2018

Essential reading to understand dementia

This is a moving and inspirational (not words I use frequently or lightly) account of Wendy’s life with dementia (definitely not suffering from dementia). It gives a fantastic insight into what it is like, and also provides some great coping strategies that I’m sure many in a similar situation could benefit from.

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  • Lesley R.
  • 28-03-2018

an extra insight into this new world I am entering

Enjoyed very much. mixture of emotions as I am in early stages if dementia so could already relate to some of it. It put into words some of the situations and feelings I can relate to. will purchase book so can re read certain pieces and remember them. Thanku

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  • CbNFFC
  • 11-02-2018

A book all Health professionals and relatives and friends should read

This is a book that should be given to every person with dementia so they can give it to friends and relatives so they can understand how the person with dementia feels I so wish I had read it when my Mum and grandad was diagnosed it would have helped with my understanding them more able to help them.
Thank you so much to it’s Author Alice and her family

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  • Oldburkie
  • 25-03-2018

Fantastic, Eye opening, Inspiring

I am about the same age as Wendy. Whilst my heart goes out to Wendy and anyone who has dementia, I am inspired by this ladies frankness and willingness to help others during such a difficult time in her life. This book has rid me of the stereotypical view of dementia sufferers and made me think about how lucky I am not to be in that position.

The story is enthralling, I want to know more about Wendy. How is she now. Wherever she is I wish Wendy and her family well. Awesome read.

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  • Sue Le Heup
  • 20-02-2018

Inspirational and heartwarming.

I loved this. So well written and narrated. Thoroughly recommend. A superb insight into dementia.

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  • Nekir
  • 25-06-2018

Life-affirming, educational, touching

One of my favourite books so far this year.
I found this very engagingly written and extremely well performed. Rachel Atkins gives a humorous, touching reading that really brings Wendy's story to life. I especially enjoyed her nuanced performance of the dialogues between past Wendy and present Wendy.

Wendy's account of her life with early onset dementia is intelligently and beautifully written, and gives a real insight into her daily struggles with the disease. Reading about how she perceives the changes within her (her personality, her behaviours, and her thoughts) and other people is fascinating, educational and extremely touching.
The writing of this book is a remarkable feat in itself, but I was particularly impressed by the ways in which Wendy managed to "trick" the dementia in order to continue living an independent life. I was deeply affected by her positive outlook and her way of focusing on the silver linings and the small victories, and particularly her appreciation of how her life has changed in positive ways.

A life-affirming, uplifting read that will stay with me for a long time.

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  • David M
  • 17-06-2018

Excellent writing by Anna Wharton, (Ghost Writer).

Great insight into the experience of living with dementia. Since diagnosis Wendy has been determined to accept every invitation to help in Alzheimer's research, give talks to various groups, travel, live independently, devise coping strategies etc. An inspiration to the rest of us whether we have the disease ourselves, have some other problem, or even just want to improve ourselves.
Wendy Mitchell and Anna Wharton (the one who actually did the writing), really worked well together on this. Anna should have been given more credit by the publishers.

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  • Bex
  • 20-05-2018

great insight into a mind with Dementia!

loved this book. it showed a great insight into a mind with Dementia. it also taught me not to 'cross over' the road (ignore) a person who has this. Definitely recommend this book!

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