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See What You Made Me Do

Power, Control and Domestic Abuse
By: Jess Hill
Narrated by: Jess Hill
Length: 16 hrs and 42 mins
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Publisher's Summary

At the office of Safe Steps, Victoria's dedicated 24/7 family violence response call centre, phone counsellors receive a call every three minutes. Many women are repeat callers - on average, they will go back to an abusive partner eight times before leaving for good. 'You must get so frustrated when you think a woman's ready to leave and then she decides to go back,' I say. 'No,' replies one phone counsellor, pointedly. 'I'm frustrated that even though he promised to stop, he chose to abuse her again.'

Domestic abuse is a national emergency: one in four Australian women has experienced violence from a man she was intimate with. But too often we ask the wrong question: why didn’t she leave? We should be asking: why did he do it?

Investigative journalist Jess Hill puts perpetrators - and the systems that enable them - in the spotlight. See What You Made Me Do is a deep dive into the abuse so many women and children experience - abuse that is often reinforced by the justice system they trust to protect them. Critically, it shows that we can drastically reduce domestic violence - not in generations to come, but today. 

Combining forensic research with riveting story-telling, See What You Made Me Do radically rethinks how to confront the national crisis of fear and abuse in our homes. 

©2019 Jess Hill (P)2019 Audible Australia Pty Ltd

Critic Reviews

"A shattering book: clear-headed and meticulous, driving always at the truth." (Helen Garner)

"One Australian a week is dying as a result of domestic abuse. If that was terrorism, we’d have armed guards on every corner." (Jimmy Barnes)

"Confronting in its honesty this book challenges you to keep reading no matter how uncomfortable it is to face the profound rawness of people’s stories. Such a well written book and so well researched. See What You Made Me Do sheds new light on this complex issue that affects so many of us." (Rosie Batty)

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Astoundingly good

As an audio book, this is fantastic. As a book, in general, this is quite an undertaking. Breaks are necessary. It goes deep into domestic violence and presents balanced, quantifiable viewpoints.
As grueling as it is, there is hope in it, which makes the effort worth it.

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Outstanding, utterly devastating and inspiring

A heart felt thank you, Jess Hill, for opening my eyes to this national crisis. After reading your book, I feel a burning desire to be part of the solution in some way. I want to help. You could not have told this story in a more compelling, sincere and inspiring manner. I wish every Australian would read this book.

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Must read for literally everyone

I have been incredibly invested in the subject of men’s violence against women for quite some time now (to the point where I’ve decided to study social work next year so that I can actively work to combat it) and this book both reinforced my existing knowledge of the key drivers behind mens’ need for control, along with the societal structures that facilitate said control, and added to my understanding of the subject as a whole through the examination of things like wartime brainwashing techniques, impacts on children, and the horrendously under explored topic of how colonisation has created a climate of violence among indigenous communities.

This book seriously needs to be on school reading lists so that everyone can be aware of how they (and their immediate circles) interact with the problem, and how we as individuals and as a society can go about fixing it.

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Devestating, harrowing and tremendously important!

A shocking and painful journey of women and families suffering from domestic abuse and control. With personal stories of abuse weaved into the bones of the book, it really transported you into the homes of the people suffering. It was a completely visceral and often disturbing experience, which makes this book so powerful. It inspires you to think deeply about domestic abuse, to walk in shoes of the families suffering at the hands of controlling fathers and partners, and somehow beyond all the twisted and harrowing stories the author makes you see the potential for serious change to occur. I am so disturbed at the system which has severely failed victims of domestic abuse. The author brings to the fore how extreme the injustice and prejudice is that is still cemented in our society and the systems responsible managing domestic abuse, its both shocking and heart wrenching. As an attachment style parent, the thought of having my children taken from my care within itself is difficult to digest, let alone at the hands of an abuser. Narrated by the author, she is a fantastic story teller and despite the harrowing content, I couldn't put it down. I believe this book can cause the urgent and needed change of how domestic abuse is dealt with in Australia, and beyond. This is extremely important work and I can't recommend listening to it enough so we all become part of the cultural shift which is drastically needed. ("Living is easy with eyes closed" John Lennon).

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Stunning and Mind Opening

A well put together and well sourced book that has not only opened my mind towards the reality of domestic violence but gave me insight to where it comes from and how we all should combat it.

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a must read for every Australian

amazing, inciteful - full of information and very engaging. excellently researched and written. a must read.

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Compelling, harrowing, vital

So hard to take in at times but important to hear. Compassionately written and orated.

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Exceptional

Jess Hill does an incredible job of exploring the depths of this topic. She traces its recent history and colours it in with real stories. The best book about domestic abuse since Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?

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Difficult but necessary

This book was shocking and confronting. It opened my eyes to the horrific plight of far too many families. I truly hope that our Govt works to mend broken families and provide the proper supports and preventative programs to stop the abuse. Thank you Jess Hill for writing this most difficult book.

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A must read

Easy to understand. Jess Hill makes you understand the issues of domestic abuse in Australia in a constructive and sensitive manner. I wish everyone in Australia would read this book.