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Today's parents are constantly pressured to be perfect. But in striving to do everything right, we risk missing what children really need for lifelong emotional security. Now the simple, powerful "Circle of Security" parenting strategies that Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, and Bert Powell have taught thousands of families are available in self-help form for the first time.

You will learn:

  • How to balance nurturing and protectiveness with promoting your child's independence
  • What emotional needs a toddler or older child may be expressing through difficult behavior
  • How your own upbringing affects your parenting style - and what you can do about it

Filled with vivid stories and unique practical tools, this book puts the keys to healthy attachment within everyone's reach - self-understanding, flexibility, and the willingness to make and learn from mistakes.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2017 The Guilford Press (P)2017 Tantor

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Hard to listen to narration.

The narration sounds like it has been virtually generated. It’s hard to listen to for long periods.

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I love the examples across the lifespan, that are provided that are relatable. I will be listening to this a few times as I put it into practice. Thank you

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If you read one book about parenting, this is the one to read.

I have read many books about parenting. Some not so good, some excellent. If I read only one, it would be this one. The course they do on this subject is excellent too. Martina, Australia

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I think about this book everyday!

After listening to this book I find myself thinking what is the cause of this and what is my child going through right now, instead of me thinking how can I make a great mum out of this situation. I seriously look back and think of my shark music and its a slap in the face, I swore I wouldn't be like my parents but now being able to identify I can stop myself. I've stopped trying to think I am doing this for me to be a better mum or for my son to help him get through something.

I constantly go over this book as I find new things and ways to think. I am ever so greatful that I have a new way of thinking for myself (my confidence is getting better)and my child.

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Some useful insights but hard listen

I found some useful info in this book but was really hard to listen to. It was also quite repetitive.

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didn't get anything from this book

I normally get something out of every book I read, but not this one unfortunately. is more for people with babies, very small children.

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  • Emily
  • 01-11-2018

Practical and Awesome

I love the idea of the circle of security! The audiobook is a little rough at the end when there are so many examples - I feel like it would be better suited in a written book.

Also, if you can't figure out where to find the bonus material PDF, it's at Tantor.com. It was so hard for me to figure out what the narrator was saying! https://tantor.com/raising-a-secure-child-glen-cooper-ma-kent-hoffman-reld-bert-powell-ma.html

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  • Vero
  • 29-06-2018

where can I find the pdf??

Can anybody please write the source where I can find the pdf they mention at the very beginning of the auidobook?
For Audible: it would be so nice if you'd put a written note to the books. This is not the first time I have difficulties to find the attached files.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-11-2017

life changing approach to child care/relationships

Most wonderful book ive read on childcare and parenting (and ive read many). A must read for any new parent and a refreshing read for more experienced parents looking to connect more deeply with their children (and other significant relationships) and resolve relational conflict in a meaningful way. I will be listening again many times and can highly recommending this book to anyone interested in deepening connections with the people they love and in depth reflections into their own childhood. Life changing information in a gentle and kind tone to support the reader during sometimes very touching topics.

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  • Mom2Boys
  • 03-11-2017

Important Self Reflective Opportunity

Bigger, Stronger, Wiser & Kind. This book is full of real life examples that supply the context for understanding how my own attachment style (and shark music) impact my relationship with my child as well as the relationships I have with everyone else in my life. It serves as a springboard for further self reflection. I will practice being with my child, keeping my hands on the circle of security and mending any ruptures that occur when my own needs cause me to take my hands off the circle.

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  • Lisha Hollars
  • 10-10-2018

Good start to understanding you and your children

at first i felt it wasn't the right book for me as it starts with early parents and i have older children. but as the book continues, it builds and prepares you to understand how your child reacts and their personalities are based on their personalities and reactions as they were infants and toddlers. it ends as children grow and how you as a parent grow. a nice transition that i didn't expect but needed.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-06-2018

The only book you need to read

This book is amazing!
It shows mang exemples and guides the parents in building a secure relationship with the child. It is easy to understand and a great tool! I loved it!

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  • Cariza
  • 16-07-2019

Profound and insightful!

A must read for every parent. This books provides an insightful and profound roadmap to parents for the most important and challenging work. I absolutely recommend this book!

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  • Jeannine Feasel
  • 30-09-2018

Immediate impact!

I saw an immediate change in the relationships with my kids from examples and lessons learned from this book! The anecdotes draw you in because they are relatable and current. You will vacillate between recognizing yourself and your parent friends, which is useful context. I found myself replaying certain sections to make sure I caught every word.

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  • Shailesh
  • 02-08-2018

If you are a parent or planning to be one, this is essential reading!

This book explains why our intentions of becoming more conscious parents are not always translated into action. What stops us are our attachment patterns and our shark music! This book has helped in de cluttering and identifying my triggers and in making peace with them. Such a fantastic book!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-03-2018

A must read for parents and professionals!

A practical guide - full of comprehensive information - about attachment relationships with babies, toddlers, young and older children.

Recommended!

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  • Vanessa L Folks
  • 07-02-2019

Listen to this!

Possibly the most practical and useful parenting book I have listened to. Thorough and therapeutic, looking at both the parent and the child and their needs. For someone who is ready to look honestly at themselves and their family.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-04-2021

recording not working

The recording won't play after chapter 3.
The research of the book is very interesting and up to date,.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-11-2020

I can’t find the attached pdf

How can I find the attached materials ? It is mentioned that there is an attached pdf

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  • G. G.
  • 08-07-2020

Must read

I really enjoyed this audiobook. The way it is narrated totally absorbed me in its contents and I was able to identify myself on where I am going wrong...from listening to this I learned that I am a safety sensitive parent and ways in which I can "react" by being with my children rather than always trying to get them to be self reliant and move on without beibg with them during their difficult emltions. In a way I could see that is how I was raised and now I was applying it in my parenting. For my children and their future I chose to listen to this book and I am so happy that I foind it!
Thank you for a great insight!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-05-2020

Brilliant

Very useful for everyone... To understand, learn and develop your skills as a person, friend or parent...

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  • Matthew Tennyson
  • 26-02-2018

This is the worst book I have ever read.

Scenarios and examples are cringy and ironically perfect to suit real life. Maybe this book could help others but it doesn’t help me.

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