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Publisher's Summary

The pioneering experts behind the bestselling The Whole-Brain Child - Tina Payne Bryson and Daniel J. Siegel, the New York Times bestselling author of Brainstorm - now explore the ultimate child-raising challenge: discipline. Highlighting the fascinating link between a child’s neurological development and the way a parent reacts to misbehavior, No-Drama Disciplineprovides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears - without causing a scene. 

Defining the true meaning of the “d” word (to instruct, not to shout or reprimand), the authors explain how to reach your child, redirect emotions, and turn a meltdown into an opportunity for growth. By doing so, the cycle of negative behavior (and punishment) is essentially brought to a halt, as problem solving becomes a win/win situation. Inside this sanity-saving guide you’ll discover

  • strategies that help parents identify their own discipline philosophy - and master the best methods to communicate the lessons they are trying to impart 
  • facts on child brain development - and what kind of discipline is most appropriate and constructive at all ages and stages
  • the way to calmly and lovingly connect with a child - no matter how extreme the behavior - while still setting clear and consistent limits
  • tips for navigating your children through a tantrum to achieve insight, empathy, and repair
  • twenty discipline mistakes even the best parents make - and how to stay focused on the principles of whole-brain parenting and discipline techniques.

Complete with candid stories and playful illustrations that bring the authors’ suggestions to life, No-Drama Discipline shows you how to work with your child’s developing mind, peacefully resolve conflicts, and inspire happiness and strengthen resilience in everyone in the family.

©2014 Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson (P)2014 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

"Wow! This book grabbed me from the very first page and did not let go. Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson explain extremely well why punishment is a dead-end strategy. Then they describe what to do instead. By making the latest breakthroughs in brain science accessible to any parent, they show why empathy and connection are the royal road to cooperation, discipline, and family harmony." (Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, author of The Opposite of Worry)

"Using simple and clear explanations, practical advice, and cartoons that make the how-to guidance come alive, this book is a rich resource for families trying to navigate meltdowns and misunderstandings. It explains how neurobiology drives children’s infuriating and puzzling behavior and will help parents make their way through the trenches of a typical day with grace, mutual respect, and a good helping of delight." (Wendy Mogel, PhD, author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee)

"What a relief! Siegel and Bryson take the difficulty out of discipline, for parents or anyone who has to help kids behave. No-Drama Discipline offers a research-based, commonsense approach that any grown-up will be happy to use, and any kid will benefit from." (Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence)

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This Works!!!

Coming from a fundamental christian upbringing the only way I knew how to discipline my kids was to threaten and spank. This book highlights how harmful this can be and now as I utilize the information in this book I'm finding a huge change in my children, and, me. Now my kids don't run from me when they make a mistake and thier trust is quickly growing. I love this book and would recommend it to anyone that wants to move away from harmful discipline to loving and caring teaching without the fear.

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A must for every parent

I found this book after not being able to sit down and read the whole brain child. I listened to it in the car, on walks, when my son was napping and every chance I could get. I got this book because my 2.5 year old son was biting, scratching and throwing epic tantrums that made me lose it every single time. The result was anger, wild emotions, lack of discipline, lack of growth, exhaustion and fear. This is how I grew up and didn't want my son to experience the same. In reading this book and taking the advice we have had a complete 360. My son trusts me, is calmer, more open to communication. I am calmer and more equipped and confident in my role as a parent. This book he also helped me have a better relationship with my husband whom I often treat like a misbehaving child. It's opened liens of communication between us and made me think about how I talk to him. Highly recommended for parents with kids of any age.

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Factual and easy to follow

Great book for any parent, I am a full time dad who wants to be a great dad and this book is the best I have read so far.

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It helped me

This book changed my parenting style.
It has made me more relaxed as a parent and sympathetic to my child's developing brain.
It did drag on a little bit and the narration was annoying at times but a good book none the less.

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A must for every parent

Fantastic and can be applied sole parenting....... all types of parenting especially high conflict co parenting

It’s also useful for everyday life and how we connect with those closest to us.

Just brilliant

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Excellent Book- loved it!

So many great practical examples backed up with research and useful knowledge in how the brain works. I didn’t feel judged about ‘messing up’ at times, but felt totally understood. This is definitely one of my fav parenting books!

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Makes so much sense.... Clear and actionable help

Excellent research and experience backed up by excellent narration by the authors. I loved everything about this book and immediately tried the strategies over the month it took to complete the book. I have started to see small changes in all of my kids. I have reverted back to old ways, where I handle problems sub-optimally, then I come back to the book and listen to the encouraging and non-judgemental advice. I have copped a little sly commentary from 'well meaning' grandparents about being 'too soft' and 'lack of control over your kids' and 'needs a good smack' but I'm letting them 'judge away' while I work on building my whole brain skills and enjoy my 4 kids.

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Luke warm

I know I'm meant to think Dan and Co. are wonderful. But honestly: this doesn't do it for me. The whole brain science and evidence based approach sounds very modern and scientific but verges on scientistic all too often. It's also very North American. This guy might deliver to sell out seminars, but I'm more convinced than ever that this reflects a well targeted product to the the shortcomings of the target market rather than the genuine merit of the ideas - not that these are bad. They're just a bit... flat.

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Excellent book!

Very good information, nice narrating and as long as it should be! thank you, I got a lot from that book!

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  • Jo
  • 17-07-2017

Will listen to this one again and again

This book has invaluable information for every parent. Will help me with my parenting journey.

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  • Mark Anderson
  • 15-05-2015

It will change the way you parent!

If you could sum up No-Drama Discipline in three words, what would they be?

This book helped me with my daughter in so many ways. I have a new understanding of why certain things I did didn't work. This book is priceless for parents in my opinion.

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  • G Busi
  • 23-02-2015

I Can See Light At The End Of My Tunnel

I had reached the end of my rope with my 11 year old daughter's disrespect and defiance. After listening to No-Drama Discipline and using some of the technics taught in it I feel empowered! I actually understand my daughter's behavior much better and I now have the tools to direct and teacher her the proper way to handle herself when she doesn't want to do something. Instead of battling with her and handing out a punishment I'm able to step back and recognize which part of her brain she is using and help her move to the part of her brain that allows her to make better choices!! Thank you Drs Daniel and Tina!

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  • Yui094
  • 05-03-2015

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Thought provoking book. I have already implemented some of the techniques in the book. I'm trying not to be reactive but rather I'm trying to connect with my child.

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  • Ian Mcewen
  • 14-06-2017

most helpful parenting book I've ever "read".

I will recommend this book to anyone that is struggling with their parenting or is having issues with their self confidence with their parenting.
Daniel and Tina comfort you while also providing insight into the mechanics of brain development and invite you to be more curious about why our children behave the way they do. they give you strategies paired with questions/comments to ask and make. I've used them in moments of upset with my 5 year old and have had beautiful moments of connection after she has settled her big feelings. There was one day, where she cried for 50 minutes. First it was because it was time to get on the bus (no Wi-Fi for the iPad) then it was that she wanted to go for dinner, and then she wanted a treat. It was loud and unrelenting. I struggled to get through it and my internal dialogue was less than positive at times (brat, ungrateful, spoiled) but it also included sympathy for her big feelings and an understanding that it was probably about something else. In the end, through her tears, she said, I just want a big big big big... hug. I held her and she said, I don't know why I'm crying. I don't know what's wrong with me. such simple words but they made me realise that there are moments we all have that we are confused and lost. me getting mad at her for that would have made me feel like a terrible mother. I'm still learning to stay calm and allow my kids to have those moments of loud and intense emotions so will definitely listen to this book when I am struggling.

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  • Jesse
  • 04-08-2015

Terrific book, terrific narrators.

I have listened to both The Whole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline and look forward to Brainstorm next. This book has helped me identify things I do correctly and not only things I can improve on but things I can repair. It has already impacted my relationship with both children (12 & 8), my wife, and business colleagues. I can't recommend these books enough. Thank you to all involved.

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  • Daniel
  • 13-01-2015

Great!

Recommended by a friend who is herself a child psychologist. Really enjoyed it and helped me understand the concepts she talks about.

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  • parmed
  • 22-04-2015

Will refer to it again and again

I think this will be helpful. I appreciated the science and it resonated with my anecdotal experiences. I am glad I read it and think I will refer to it often

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  • Anastasia
  • 03-02-2018

I'd like my parents to discipline me like that when I was a kid!

I've read lots of parenting books and so far encountered only two (including this one) which technics not only work but help to bond with your child. This book focuses on not how to make your child to do what you want, but how to teach your child so they understand why they need to behave that way. And this is one of the biggest parenting goals to make our children independent adults, who knows how to make good choices whether they are with us or not.

Sometimes it's a bit repetitive but this makes you see author message from various sides and remember it.

The second best book about parenting is "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Kids Will Talk" Adele Faber. Another book about respectful parenting. Strongly recommend both books!

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  • Andrew G. Hammond
  • 30-03-2018

Unfocused presentation of great ideas.

While ostensibly written for parents, this book is wordy, repetitious and unintentionally condescending. The authors have enormously valuable information but fail to present it in a concise and direct format. There is so much repetition and careful couching of concepts that I found it difficult to stay focused on the book.

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  • 09-02-2015

Best book on parenting

Loved it. When i listened to an idea of discipline and the examples and my kids would do something similar, i applied some of the methods and they helped us greatly. When i mean us i mean me as the parent and my kids.

Going to read more and more until i get the hang of these principles.

I wished i was given this book on my way out of hospital when i had my kids .

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  • M. Sheleg
  • 09-08-2016

Dry content for an audiobook

I don't doubt that the authors know what they're talking about or their research, but I struggled with the format of an audiobook for this type of book. I personally found their voices quite monotonous. The book also spends a lot of time explaining the brain which is necessary yet seems to go on for a long time before you get to any tangible strategies for actually dealing with behaviour. I would have liked for it to be shorter and more concise, as I think that would have made the audio aspect more easily digestible. As a result I have bought a physical copy of the paperback which I find more useful.

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  • Gupster
  • 02-12-2015

Challenged the way I thought about discipline

I admit I was sceptical when my wife suggested I read this. However it seems to make sense and it feels like it's making a difference with my son. If I think about it, there is commonality with some concepts and things I covered when doing a coaching course in the past.

Having now listened and seen improvements I'd recommend people try their approach.

Fyimthere is a useful crib sheet on their website that is useful to remember some of the techniques post listen.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 13-04-2017

Well worth the time & money

A must for all parents who struggle to connect to their children or feel they shout too much

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  • Jocelyn Beales
  • 08-03-2016

Fantastic and insightful

Highly recommend this book for all parents or caregivers. This has made me rethink my approach to discipline and I've already seen the results in my daughter's behaviour. I can't be sure I'll always be able to stick to their guidelines, but I'll definitely try to come back to the techniques.

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  • Christiaan W.
  • 04-07-2017

Great advice

This book backed up with scientific evidence what my gut feeling had been - that shouting and punishments are not the best way to discipline children. It made me feel that you can be a non-shouter and a compromiser without being a pushover and has given me the confidence to continue with what I was already doing plus provided some very helpful new strategies.

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  • H figg
  • 10-05-2015

brilliant

As someone who works with children it was a fresh reminder how to help children grow emotionally through discipline rather than falling into the trap of just telling children what to do.

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  • Jojo
  • 31-05-2016

The most cohesive and compassionate parenting book I've ever read

And I read a lot of these books both for professional and for personal means. It is beautifully organised and is affirming of all the whole drama of being a parent including the chaos and struggle that inevitable occurs along the way. This is a book that's pitched to all parents and I even played some of it to my seven year old daughter and she took great pleasure in saying "hah you do that sometimes mummy" but I know she felt affirmed hearing what she heard. As a parent I feel calmed just listening to the calm and kind voices of the authors but most importantly, as this is a whole brain approach (read whole being approach) what they say not only makes wonderful sense but it actually works. I cannot recommend this book enough.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 20-07-2018

Good stuff

Useful, empathic, practical advice that we can put into practice straight away. Loved how authors used examples that didn't 'work', that there's no magic wand but that we can still have an approach that keeps the child's developing brain in mind.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 14-01-2018

Fantastic

A completely new approach to the way we can teach our children. It is interesting and informative without being too technical.

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  • olivier
  • 14-12-2017

A loving approach to discipline a child

I have a very strong-willed child and i have tried different ways to discipline him including time-out and consequences but they are only effective in the beginning. When I read the part "we want to show our kids our love even at their worst not only when they are happy" i was very moved. It is so true that at their worst they need us the most. The book indeed opened my eyes about a whole new loving way of disciplining our kids. Love it. Thanks the authors.