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No Bad Kids

Toddler Discipline Without Shame
Narrated by: Janet Lansbury
Length: 3 hrs and 29 mins
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Janet Lansbury is unique among parenting experts. As an RIE teacher and student of pioneering child specialist Magda Gerber, her advice is not based solely on formal studies and the research of others, but also on her 20 years of hands-on experience guiding hundreds of parents and their toddlers. No Bad Kids is a collection of Janet's most popular and widely read articles pertaining to common toddler behaviors and how respectful parenting practices can be applied to benefit both parents and children. It covers such common topics as punishment, cooperation, boundaries, testing, tantrums, hitting, and more. No Bad Kids provides a practical, indispensable tool for parents who are anticipating or experiencing those critical years when toddlers are developmentally obliged to test the limits of our patience and love. Armed with knowledge and a clearer sense of the world through our children's eyes, this period of uncertainty can afford a myriad of opportunities to forge unbreakable bonds of trust and respect.

©2014 Janet Lansbury (P)2014 Janet Lansbury

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generally very insightful

This is one of those books where you take from it what you need.. A lot of good stuff here, but also a bit of fluff that does not resonate with me and maybe over-simplifies things at times.. In general as a dad i am impressed and will no doubt listen again when my 6 month old little monkey starts gets a bit older..

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Very easy to listen and take note from. Useful!

I found this a text I could digest between awake times with my son. Easy to understand and in bite size portions

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Practical guide

Found the advice easy to understand and implement. Guidelines for how to handle a toddler to grow happy self confident children

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Highly Recommend

These principles flat out work! Has totally changed my perspective and expectations of parenting. Not just for toddlers either!

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very helpful, detailed with practical advice

very useful strategies to help with my 2.5 year old son.This book can be life changing if you are parent.Highly recommended it.

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Read It!

This has been such a great read. I feel like I almost need to listen to it on repeat, as we are currently in the thick of the “trying two’s” and wanting to parent him with respect, maintaining connection, and keeping our cool whilst doing so. It’s a very trying season, but Janet’s book provides heaps of helpful examples and techniques to do so. I’ve just finished this book and am now going off to buy her other one. Thank-you Janet for your wonderful work.

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Best Parenting Book i've Read so far

Everything i've heard in this Book has been exactly what i have been looking for.
It us going to take some time to learn to implement, but i know i'll return to this Book often for Guidance.

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enjoyed this and very helpful. thanks

Thank you, really helpful to a new family of 2 young toddlers. happy I was able to finish this (So many interruptions with toddlers)

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Makes a difference straight away

This book has given me the confidence to be the leader my children need and I am seeing the benefits immediately

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extremely useful parenting tool

really enjoyed this. it's benefited myself in the way I parent everyday with my daughter responding positively.

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  • Jess
  • 16-07-2015

Absolutely worth it!

This book is so wonderful for me, as a parent of an 18 month old. Love the principles and I've seen positive results to the application. She doesn't just talk method, she shares specific examples, which I find invaluable. Highly recommended!

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  • Rahma S.
  • 23-06-2016

Changing Lives

This is the best book on toddler discipline I have read. Janet's instructions are easy to implement. This book changed our family dynamic in just a week!

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  • Ben Caparoon
  • 19-10-2016

Wow! I can't believe it works.

I was a bit skeptical in the beginning since I've been given several books with contradicting advice. I'm a first time mom/SHM and my son is now 16 months. I began using the practices in this book a few days ago and noticed a major change in our interactions. I would get frustrated with myself and with him when he would throw, hit and spit - and just about every normal toddler behavior you could think of. I've finished the book and now have a completely different perspective on parenting and i just a few days of work I feel like I understand my son and he understands me. I don't use third person narratives like "Mommy doesn't want you to hit" instead I just say, "I won't let you hit me". I recommend this to all. Thank you, Janet, for really helping me to change my entire perspective on parenting.

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  • Kyliak
  • 14-06-2019

Basically her podcast again

You can save $10 and just listen to her podcast. Its the same info even many chapters are question an answer format.
I was excited hoping the book would go deeper or be better organized but its not. Its just her podcast stung together in chapters.

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  • Kevin Beal
  • 26-07-2018

Useful

I got useful things from this book, primarily regarding the perspective on button pushing and how much children actually want to be told "no".

However, the book neglects to make important distinctions which make for a confusing, seemingly contradictory read at times.

"Treat children like adults because they have dignity, but don't treat children like adults because that isn't fair to the child."

"Don't tell your children 'no' too much because it will be a source if needless conflict, but definitely tell them 'no' often because they need to know you are in charge in order to feel secure"

You have to work hard to figure it out without much help from the author.

Also, it's largely material from her blog and podcast so it feels a little like a cheat, but perhaps I'm being too stingy there 😅

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  • Rafaela Walker
  • 15-07-2016

great!

this was a great book. it contradicts many other books I read but it has helped me with realizing I shouldn't lose my cool with my daughter. the only complaint I have is that it was too short lol

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  • Thea
  • 12-01-2016

A must read for every parent

This book is simple to listen to accessible and hugely important. This is life-changing material and I can't wait to put these practices to use with my toddler.

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  • Caitlin Cotton
  • 07-07-2015

Powerful

I can't wait for to put everything into practice with my 18 month old. Thank you!

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  • NotMyName
  • 04-07-2019

Doesn’t work as an audiobook

I have a toddler so I’m very busy, and I thought it would be easier to listen to this book rather than read it, but the format of the book does not work as an audiobook. It seems to be a lot of lists, and it’s hard for me to keep track of what the author is telling me. I do think the book has good advice, but I think I need a hard copy rather than audio.

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  • Liron Koren
  • 26-09-2016

Good advice, but way too long

Janet Lansbury's approach to parenting toddlers works, and it's actually very simple. So simple, in fact, that it doesn't take a whole book to explain. Large parts of the book are repetitive, and also delivered in the form of numbered lists, which gets to be disorienting.

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  • C
  • 24-02-2017

A poorly assembled collection of blog posts

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The core thesis of this book can be summarised as: accord your child's feelings, opinions, needs and wants with the same respect you would give any other persons. This is a compelling proposition, I've read the primary research that substantiates it and, because my initial, uninformed opinion was more "authoritarian", I've seen the happy, emotionally mature and thoughtful children its progressive adoption has created in my own family.

So the idea behind this book is good. But the book itself is terrible and best described as a "listicle of listicles". As the introduction notes, the content is mostly sourced from the author's blog posts and it shows in the low quality book that results.

Consisting of about 30-35k words, the book is divided into 35 short chapters. Whilst these are loosely grouped into themes it's hard to find an arc to the book. Certainly none is articulated. What's more, most of the individual articles are themselves nothing more than lists. Whether it's inability, lack of effort or a genuine, unarticulated impossibility, the author has not attempted to synthesise any overall conclusions or connect chapter to chapter. The resulting text is, quite literally, a list of lists:

"Chapter 1. First, XXX. Second, YYY. Third, ZZZ. Etc"

Some of the more interesting content are the letters from parents with the author's response. Whilst the responses almost always devolve to a list, prefaced with "Dear" and suffixed with "Warmly", the case example provided by the initiating letter provide context to an otherwise platitudinous flow of words.

And this is the deeper problem. Whilst I agree with the author's mindset and perspective, an agreement based on my own independent reading of the research, she presents no research or arguments for why her view is right. An endless sequence of platitudes and appeals to the authority of someone else who says the same thing is no more convincing than Gina Ford's (antithetical) arguments for scheduling and authoritarian discipline.

To summarise: A book is much more than a collection of chapters. An argument is much more than an assertion. Other books ("Raising Boys" and "Raising Girls" come to mind) put this poor effort to shame.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-09-2016

A must read for all parents and carriers of toddlers

A well written and read book that is to the point with clear examples. Buy this book before you buy any other.

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  • Fiona Leal
  • 16-11-2019

practical, loving, parenting without fear or doubt

helped me understand the difference between disiline and punishment . How to lovingly and confidently set boudries.

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  • Duncan
  • 11-07-2019

Extremely helpful parenting tool

Loved the book - have listened to some of the chapters two or three times. techniques are very helpful and works wonders with my 2y.o.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 19-06-2019

Useful and straight to the point

Janet uses examples throughout to explain how to best engage with your child. I found it fuss free and useful. I am using methods from this book when speaking to and disciplining my own child.

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  • miss s j lai
  • 06-04-2019

life is

life enhancing, must listen for families, I recommend this to all parents and those who work with children

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  • eggnutter
  • 26-02-2019

a must

absolutely brilliant. I love this approach to parenting. firm but fair. respectful. very useful techniques. I'm very happy I found this book. particularly recommend it to all parents with children aged 3 months to 3 year.

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  • Kat M.
  • 17-01-2019

Such an invaluable guide

This is such a great guide to how to bring up kids in a loving secure way with clear boundaries. It's made such a difference to me and my family.

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  • Josh
  • 15-09-2018

Clear and concise

This book is a must for anyone looking for answers to the most perplexing questions of toddler behaviour.

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  • Tristan
  • 01-08-2017

unruffled parenting approach

love how Janet takes the pressure and guilt out of parenting to help us become better.