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Nice Girls Don't Win

How I Burned It All Down to Claim My Power

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Nice Girls Don't Win

By: Parvati Shallow
Narrated by: Parvati Shallow
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“A bible for badass women.”—SARAH MICHELLE GELLAR

“Gripping and liberating.”—ADAM GRANT, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Hidden Potential and Think Again

Survivor legend and gay icon, Parvati Shallow has won my heart all over again.”—BOWEN YANG

NATIONAL BESTSELLER • A bold, eye-opening memoir about survival, trauma, and healing, from one of reality television’s most talked-about stars

At twenty-five years old, Parvati Shallow was plunged into fame and fortune after becoming the million-dollar winner of the reality television series Survivor. But despite her success, the ghosts of her traumatic past, coupled with the harsh glare of the public eye, kept her locked in a survival cycle of fear and shame that sabotaged her self-confidence and eroded her self-trust. It wasn’t until a series of painful life events, including the death of her younger brother and a challenging divorce, that she found herself on a path of healing that would awaken her true power and reset the course of her life.

Shallow shares the stories that allowed her to transform her most difficult moments into potent catalysts for empowerment. From her childhood growing up in a Florida commune run by a tyrannical female guru, to her journey out of the South and into the L.A. casting rooms that would eventually drop her in the lush but brutal landscapes of Survivor, Shallow shows listeners what it took to build herself into the ultimate survivor—for better and, more often, for worse. She then reveals what it took to rebuild herself into something much greater.

As harrowing as it is healing, Parvati Shallow’s story is a testament to the profound lessons that can be found in radical self-acceptance and self-love.

©2025 Parvati Shallow (P)2025 Random House Audio
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Nice Girls Don’t Win is a bible for badass women. Smart, fearless, bold, and intimate, Parvati Shallow’s writing is a revelation and a rallying cry.”—Sarah Michelle Gellar, actor and star of Buffy the Vampire Slayer

“Parvati Shallow is the greatest player in Survivor history, but her book is not just for fans of reality TV. It’s a gripping and liberating read for anyone who’s ever been so desperate to please others that they’ve lost sight of themselves.”—Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Hidden Potential and Think Again

Nice Girls Don’t Win is a bold book, a chronicle of survival, the obstacles that hold you back, and the dreams that usher you forward. It is also a fascinating glimpse into the life of a reality television icon millions of people have gotten to know over the past twenty-five years.”—Roxane Gay, on her Substack The Audacity

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I was surprised how raw this was. Parvati is a fascinating, flawed and complex person. I really liked hearing her read it - I think it really is very honest and authentic.

Really insightful

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This book is such a welcome insight into the lived experience of such an interesting person, Parvati. Having followed her experiences through reality Tv and social media this book absolutely fleshes out who she truly is and her journey of finding herself. An absolutely wonderful, inspiring book!

Strong, feminist and truly inspiring

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while I get it's her book and she's more than just Parvati the Black Widow from Survivor, I really did want a lot more Survivor (& Traitors) content and ended up a little bit to self help and inspirational for my liking, but let's face it there was a tiny bit of her first season, a small bit on FvF, less for HvV and NOTHING hardly for S40. Didn’t even mention being in Into The Blue 2. unleash the Widow and give us more.

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