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Mating in Captivity

Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

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Mating in Captivity

By: Esther Perel
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When you love someone, how does it feel? And when you desire someone, how is it different? In Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel looks at the story of sex in committed couples.

Modern romance promises it all - a lifetime of togetherness, intimacy and erotic desire. In reality, it's hard to want what you already have. Our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. And often, the very thing that got us to into our relationships - lust - is the one thing that goes missing from them.

Determined to reconcile the erotic and the domestic, Perel explains why democracy is a passion killer in the bedroom; argues for playfulness, distance and uncertainty; and shows what it takes to bring lust home.

Smart, sexy and explosively original, Mating in Captivity is the monogamist's essential bedtime listen.

©2006 Esther Perel (P)2006 HarperCollins Publishers Relationships

Critic Reviews

" Mating in Captivity...articulates a poignant and unacknowledged modern crisis for the first time." ( The Evening Standard)
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Esther is a gem in the relationship field! This book should be read by anyone who wants to understand themselves, relationships, infidelity and more in order to have a more fulfilling relationship.

Essential for all couples

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Wow! What an incredible book, and yes it has unlocked my erotic intelligence. In the suave of reading this book, it has strengthened my relationship and open me to new possibilities in the space that I once was closed to.

Exceptional book

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well worth listening to.. this is insightful and helpful
it brings light to many variations of what relationships endure and work to overcome..

intriguing and enlightens on a taboo subject

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Wow, everyone in a long term relationship should read/hear this book!! Such valuable incite. Thank you

life changing

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This book could be more accurately marketed - rather than unlocking it’s kind of more observing. While it’s really interesting, it’s hard to apply much of it unless you see your own self in the case studies. Some good key takeaways, but generally not a book of advice but more a book of challenging you to think, and then maybe go and see your own therapist to work out your issues.

Interesting, but not a self help book.

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A must read for singles as well! Provides interesting introspection regardless of relationship status

Partnered or unpartnered

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Throughout history we hear stories of different matrimonial arrangements from King David and his wives and concubines to much simpler Isaac who had Rebecca, the parents of Jacob and Esau, the ultimate founders of the Jewish, Christian and Islamic faiths, the dominant moral religions today. I am not sure where this author is anchoring her moral anchor, which is perhaps one unsettling aspect of the book. Lots to learn hear from a thoughtful author.

Interesting perspectives on human relationships

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Overall, I found this book very insightful with insight on reasons and ways for sexuality.

A good perspective when delivered along with other resources on relationship psychology

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Great book for couples, especially after children. Many ideas how to practice eroticism & not just wait for sex. Thx E 🙏

Great insights

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simple: read (listen) to this book. the earlier in life, the better. you won't regret it

a mature perspective on love

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