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Mastering the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense

Narrated by: Suzette Haden Elgin
Length: 4 hrs and 14 mins
Categories: Business, Career Skills
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Is verbal abuse ruining your business, your personal life, or even your physical and emotional health? With a little help from Suzette Haden Elgin, you won't have to put up with it anymore. She'll show you how to create an environment in which verbal abuse almost never happens, and how to take complete control of your language behavior. Once you've mastered the techniques, you'll be able to defuse a verbal attack before it can even be completed, and deal effectively with the rare attack that cannot be avoided. You'll never be at a loss for words again.
©1995 by Dove Audio, Inc. (P)1995 by Dove Audio, Inc.

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  • Pat C Reedy
  • 20-11-2004

Disappointingly Executed on Audible

I have the paper based version of this book, so I was naturally thrilled to see it on Audible. Yet I was disappointed in the sample and then to read it is available in Format 1 quality only. Dr. Elgin wrote an excellent book that I have found extremely useful in dealing with people.

Another reviewer said SEEING what was said was not effective--he missed the point. You have to match the perspective of the person you're talking to in order to help them understand you. Moreover, that is only the basics of the book, which then goes into how to parse (or dissect) the statements people make and then use specific techniques to prevent yourself from taking the bait and falling victim to verbal abuse. One favorite of mine is when someone baits you into an argument and you can ask them a simple question that not only ignores the bait, but places them and everyone around you on notice that you will not be abused in such a way. And a welcome side-effect is to take the agressive assertions they make away from them while //placing them on the defensive.//

This book is well worth your time, but I am disappointed that the audio quality is so low. My recommendation is to buy it in the bookstore or check it out at the library if you can find it (it's been out of print for several years now.) Otherwise, this might be the only place you can get it. Either way, it is a very worthwhile read.

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  • Brett Johnson
  • 11-04-2009

Great Information

This book has very valuable information about dealing with people--especially those that are attacking you. Sound quality isn't that great, but it's a lot better than a poor book with great sound quality.

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  • EGB86
  • 24-03-2011

Terrible audio quality

The copyright says 1995, but the audio quality made me feel like I was in 1982. While this book had some good points, it really wasn't what I expected and I don't feel overly prepared to defend myself verbally. Also, I felt the examples stopped short. I wanted to hear the next step in the example conversations, not just the attack and initial defense. Overall, I hoped for more.

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  • Wilfred
  • 11-08-2015

Verbal Defense?

What made the experience of listening to Mastering the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense the most enjoyable?

Nothing! Its a fantastic book, but the audio is terrible. Sounds like it was recorded in an empty room with a cheap mike on a tape deck. Really prehistoric audio quality and sound level. BUT THE BOOK. Great book.

Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Suzette Haden Elgin?

Anyone louder.

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  • Ali
  • 27-09-2012

good topic to talk about professionally

This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

every one who seeks to live peacefully in our crazy world !

Would you be willing to try another one of Suzette Haden Elgin’s performances?

NO !

You didn’t love this book... but did it have any redeeming qualities?

just the subject

Any additional comments?

YES, GET A PROFESSIONAL NARRATOR !

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  • Daniel
  • 28-09-2011

linguistics applied

First impression- audio quality is terrible, simply unacceptable. Others have mentioned this before, I didn't care so much but it is so bad sometimes I have to rewind just to acoustically understand what the author is saying. Imagine an old audio cassette on the dashboard of your car for a summer, then sticking it into an 80's low-cost cassette player that has never been cleaned.. you get the idea.

Contents wise- very interesting, inspiring. The author establishes a very logical system of linguistics that aims to help in everyday communications, especially in situations when you have to deal with 'difficult' people. I have yet to try the techniques, but the mere awareness of the principles established in this book makes me more aware of communications and language. Recommended, but perhaps I would go for paper version due to extremely poor, insulting audio quality.

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  • Jide's Mom
  • 19-03-2018

Only part of the book on audible ???????

I read this book many years ago, and was happy to see it on Audible. but audible only had 3 chapters of it??? something is way off here! I don't mind the author mentioning it's time to turn the tape over, and the lousy audible quality, but a large part of the book missing is unacctable. do not waste your money/credit in this one!

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  • R. Gnar.
  • 02-08-2017

Record quality

Absolutely terrible, nigh unlistenable. Had to turn all the way up and eq out noise.

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  • Leeie
  • 16-05-2019

Great teachings

Excellent tools! To benefit, you will need to be open to change, listening to the advice, and taking action on them. However, if you find yourself judging the book negatively, you may not have the desire to change your personal habits and therefore are probably not ready to benefit from this book. If you sincerely want to improve your relations with others, and are willing to make changes--the wisdom in this book is extremely valuable.

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  • Coffee Luvr
  • 08-03-2019

One of the best books on verbal abuse

Must buy! My favorite thing about this book is the author doesn’t separate verbal abuse into the abuser and the victim. The truth is the same person can be an abuser in one case, and then a victim of abuse in the same day. We have to both learn how to respond to it and not perpetuate abuse towards others. The performance does sound a bit outdated as it was originally a tape recording, but some of the reviews exaggerate how bad it is. I had no problem hearing or understanding the material.