Get Your Free Audiobook

Marriage, a History

How Love Conquered Marriage
Narrated by: Callie Beaulieu
Length: 15 hrs and 32 mins
Categories: History, World
5 out of 5 stars (3 ratings)

Non-member price: $41.73

After 30 days, Audible is $16.45/mo. Cancel anytime.

Publisher's Summary

Just when the clamor over "traditional" marriage couldn't get any louder, along comes this groundbreaking book to ask, "What tradition?"

In Marriage, a History, historian and marriage expert Stephanie Coontz takes listeners from the marital intrigues of ancient Babylon to the torments of Victorian lovers to demonstrate how recent the idea of marrying for love is - and how absurd it would have seemed to most of our ancestors. It was when marriage moved into the emotional sphere in the 19th century, she argues, that it suffered as an institution just as it began to thrive as a personal relationship. This enlightening and hugely entertaining book brings intelligence, perspective, and wit to today's marital debate.

©2005 SJ Coontz Company (P)2016 Tantor

What members say

Average Customer Ratings

Overall

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    3
  • 4 Stars
    0
  • 3 Stars
    0
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    0

Performance

  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    1
  • 4 Stars
    1
  • 3 Stars
    0
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    0

Story

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    2
  • 4 Stars
    0
  • 3 Stars
    0
  • 2 Stars
    0
  • 1 Stars
    0

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

No Reviews are Available
Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for A. Fritz
  • A. Fritz
  • 27-04-2017

Nuke-you-ler

First, the narration was very dry. This is a much more interesting book than the narration suggests.

Also, the narrator pronounces nuclear "nuke-you-ler" about a thousand times. Nuclear families are obviously going to come up a lot in a book like this, and every time it did it made me physically cringe.

4 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    1 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Azzurro Lcubed
  • Azzurro Lcubed
  • 15-01-2020

Check out Franklin Schmidt's review on Amazon

I can't do better and more justice to the reviews than Franklin Schmidt did on Amazon. I'm glad I starting listening to this book before the one year return restriction as it's definitely going back.

  • Overall
    1 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    2 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Timothy Hanline
  • Timothy Hanline
  • 23-12-2019

Marriage from a secular feminist's perspective

I purchased this book to learn a bit more, as the title indicates, about the history of marriage, and the book provides plenty of insights, but beware: all of the information provided in this book is stacked on one side of the -- what has now sadly become an -- argument. The facts presented prop up a certain world view that I personally do not subscribe to, secular feminism. The author presents fact after fact and study after study of how horrible marriage has been for women. I would have liked to have been presented with facts that are not so biased towards one side. For example, the author points out that now that we have no-fault divorce and women's liberation, and therefore, women are much happier now than they ever have been; but that are also studies that point out that women are not as happy now as they were in, say, the 1950's. Furthermore, the author fails to offer any objective critique of feminism and its negative effects on marriage and children, although the author does intimate that this has caused a rise in the divorce rate, a worthy sacrifice, in the author’s view, on the altar of progressive feminism. Of course, feminist are quick to shout “correlation not causation,” but frankly, we get a strong sense, after pondering their rhetoric, that even if causation were proven, feminists would regard the harm done to children as justifiable to meet the emotional needs of women. (No; feminists have not done a good job offering evidence, and yes, given the radical changes to the institution of marriage that they demand, the burden of proof is on them, too). And then there are the dogmatic assertions made by the author, such as “gay marriage is here to stay,” and “alternatives to traditional marriage are here to stay,” assertions that are made without any historical context, which offers strong evidence to the contrary (see “Family and Civilization” by Carle Zimmerman). The author also ignores gender differences, and especially the emotional needs of men within marriage, although the author gives copious print to the emotional needs of women. In fairness, there are some thought-provoking interesting historical facts brought to light in this book, but in light of the author’s obvious bias, the reader is left with an entirely incomplete picture of the history of marriage. If the book were instead titled “The History of Marriage from a Feminist’s Perspective,” the book would have been more honestly and appropriately titled.

  • Overall
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Gab Beckemeier
  • Gab Beckemeier
  • 10-12-2019

Solid History Narrative Centered Around West

This book is great because it gives an expansive review of the institution of marriage across thousands of years and many cultures. However when we get to modern(ish) time around 1700 and onward, it fixates on the United States and western Europe rather than continuing to provide a holistic review of marriage across the globe. I think I heard about West Asian traditions a handful of times and legitimately never when the time period became modern. This is no fault of Ms. Coontz as I know she was proving her argument that 'western' societies are experiencing unprecedented marriage evolution. I did learn a lot. I will turn my attention to other authors to get a better handle on other global regions' marital history into the modern age.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Hayley Kleppin
  • Hayley Kleppin
  • 17-11-2019

interesting info

I loved the information presented in this book, but the reader was a little too monotone for me. It was like listening to Siri read.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Brett  V Kensington
  • Brett V Kensington
  • 21-07-2019

Narrators Need to Educate Themselves

The book is excellent. The narrator is horribly unprofessional. Don't guess at pronunciation if you are narrator! The reader evidently knows nothing of history and keeps referring to "Samuel Pepiss" for Pepys. It's grating and embarrassing and detracts from a valuable text.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Elena Macias
  • Elena Macias
  • 23-11-2018

I wish l had heard this book before I married!

Finally, a researched explanation of what most take for granted. Should be read by high school students.

  • Overall
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    3 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Ky
  • Ky
  • 16-11-2018

Educational heading into wedding season

The story was good. A bit long in places and a little repetitive. I thought the history would include where modern traditions (something blue, something borrowed) would include more of. But overall a good listen.

  • Overall
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    2 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for HMB
  • HMB
  • 18-09-2018

Robotic performance, interesting info

I nearly deleted this audiobook over the poor performance. It makes the author seem clinical and unfeeling. I saw a video interview with the author, however, and realizing she is in fact human and has passion for her work, so I decided to see what else she had to say within this book.

That said, the narrator is horribly robotic. I’m sure she could be worse, so I won’t give one star. But I find myself sometimes struggling to pay attention. Also, she pronounces the word nuclear “nuke-u-ler.” Embarrassing. I am shocked no one bothered to correct this.

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Marco
  • Marco
  • 30-08-2018

Coontz is so good!

Coontz is great! I felt like the narration was a little drier than I would have liked but I got over it quickly because I was captivated by the writing.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars
Profile Image for Aztec
  • Aztec
  • 24-06-2019

Brilliant!

This book was so interesting from start to finish. Every chapter, from the ancient world to the 21st century, was riveting. I had no idea how much and how frequently our ideals of marriage change and continue to change. It has really made me feel differently about marriage as a whole, but on a much more positive level than I expected. It is fascinating how much marriage affects our society, and vice versa.
TIP: Listen to it a x1.5 to stop the narration from dragging a bit.