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Parenting can be such an overwhelming job that it's easy to lose track of where you stand on some of the more controversial subjects at the playground (What if my kid likes to rough house - isn't this ok as long as no one gets hurt? And what if my kid just doesn't feel like sharing?). In this inspiring and enlightening book, Heather Shumaker describes her quest to nail down "the rules" to raising smart, sensitive, and self-sufficient kids. Drawing on her own experiences as the mother of two small children, as well as on the work of child psychologists, pediatricians, educators and so on, in this book Shumaker gets to the heart of the matter on a host of important questions.

©2016 Heather Shumaker (P)2016 Dreamscape Media, LLC

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  • Kara F. Poorbaugh
  • 19-07-2021

liberating advice for parents & children alike

Smart, observant tools for dealing with conflict, setting limits, and using direct, respectful communication with our beloved kiddos, handfuls they may be!

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  • AHK
  • 14-02-2019

Wonderful book

I love this book and bought the hard copy so my husband can read it too (and we have a paper copy for quick reference). So many new tools for me to use. "Take off your adult lenses" is a superb idea to better understand the minds of our little ones. Highly recommend this to all parents.

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  • Melissa Watson
  • 14-11-2017

knowledge is power

when dealing with a non articulate screaming toddler it's hard to know what to do. it's hard to understand what they're thinking how they're developing we are all not all child psychologist and yet we have children. I love this book for its ideas on how to help Kids. On letting go of filling their lives with activities and learning or else they'll be left behind thoughts. it helps you find places where you can be loose and where you need to tighten up that will best help your kids. the author openly admits that this isn't the perfect set of rules but a good guidelines to start with. Just take what you want and leave the rest.

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  • orly
  • 09-11-2020

Great book.,a written file for appendix recommended reading should be added to audio version

Great book.,a written file for appendix recommended reading should be added to audio version

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-10-2019

Amazing book highly recommended

Very practical and easy to follow. I have read a few child development books but found a lot of new information here.

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  • Hannah
  • 16-09-2019

Has some good information.

Has changed my perspective on a few things. I appreciated the logic and have already started implementing some of the ideas in my own parenting.

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  • Dawn
  • 29-05-2019

Every caregiver and parent must read this book!!!

This book contains essential knowledge for modern child rearing of competent, autonomous children. An antidote for our current crisis.

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  • Kyle and Dawn Christerson
  • 28-03-2019

Wonderful Book and very insightful

If you have young kids and want some good advice on raising them this is your book!

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  • Sam
  • 06-08-2018

Terrific Advice for New and Seasoned Parents

What a refreshing, helpful book! I loved the focus on letting kids be kids and not forcing supposed "adult" behavior on our little ones. It was enlightening and encouraging.

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  • Deborah Fradelis
  • 16-05-2018

Read It!

Addresses common parent concerns in a developmentally appropriate, kid-centric way. Arms you with the reasons why doing things "different" is beneficial, giving parents the confidence to go against the grain.

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  • 09-06-2020

I love this book

I have come back to this book many times! It has great examples on how to help young children navigate through conflict.

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  • Aneta
  • 17-07-2019

Excellent!

* * * * *A very good book with excellent ideas! * * * * *

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  • Mr. O J French
  • 04-11-2017

every parent needs this book

the narration is spot on. A very enjoyable listen with immensely important information to benefit any caring parent.

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