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Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? No one wants to admit that they possess these qualities, but if you find yourself constantly on the alert, anxious, or worried when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment, a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences.

In Insecure in Love, you'll learn how to overcome attachment anxiety using compassionate self-awareness, a technique that can help you recognize your negative thoughts or unhealthy behavior patterns and respond to them in a nurturing way - rather than beating yourself up. You'll also learn how insecurity can negatively affect healthy dialogue between you and your partner (or potential partners) and develop the skills needed to stop you from reverting back to old patterns of neediness and possessiveness.

©2014 Leslie Becker-Phelps (P)2015 Tantor

Critic Reviews

"A godsend for those who unknowingly bring a lot of angst into a relationship." ( Library Journal)

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Irritating narration

So hard to listen to the book when the narrator is doing that gross swallowing saliva sound every 5 seconds!!

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This book saved me!

This book was extremely helpful! Highly recommend. The narrators voice was also calming and soothing.

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Worth repeated listening. Potential to change lives.

Learned so much about attachment systems which help me understand the primal pain caused in/by/reactions to relationships.

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Helped alot

I loved it and listening to it again; especially chapters 3&10 that taught about pursuit-retreat behaviour.

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What did you like most about Insecure in Love?

It gives in-depth information and explains the different types of anxiety and personality types

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clear language

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just seeing that i do the things in this book and that can be a little confronting

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  • Danika
  • 28-01-2017

Excellent book

This book really helped me understand why I reacted certain ways in past relationships AND it has great exercises to help move toward a more secure way of thinking. If you've ever asked yourself, "Why did I do that?", or if you've ever felt you didn't deserve to be loved this is a must read.

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  • Ellice Tan
  • 30-01-2019

Narrator, Please Take a Drink—I Beg You

As far as the book goes, it’s amazing, and I highly recommend it to anyone—especially those suffering from an anxious attachment style. However, as far as the actual audiobook goes, I couldn’t wait for it to be over. It was so painful to listen to the narrator’s dry mouth. I cringed every time she swallowed or opened her mouth to read. It was extremely distracting. I had to force myself to listen to the whole thing.

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  • Bryce Dickerson
  • 05-07-2018

I don’t normally leave reviews

This book was absolutely incredible, so many powerful insights to help mainly people struggling with insecurity in love relationships. I can’t recommend it enough

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  • Corey
  • 21-06-2016

Great book!

Very therapeutic researched advice that helped me a lot in dealing with an avoidant female. Couldn't recommend this book enough for anyone.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-09-2017

Excellent read

I really enjoyed the book and was surprised at how much it knew about my anxiously attached behaviors. If you want to read something that will give you tools to get out of the anxious cycle you are and and have a healthy lasting relationship, buy this book.

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  • shandra518
  • 29-08-2017

great read

Definitely helpful for learning how to manage my own emotions and feelings. definitely recommend to others who want to have more self control and want to feel like they are empowered.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-03-2017

Excellent Book

So much great and useful information in this book. The exercises are very helpful in healing your heart and creating more secure attachments.

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  • Will Rodgers
  • 28-12-2016

This offers hope

If you have difficulty with relationships or pervasive patterns of problems in relationships, listen to the book. Twice preferably.

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  • R+G=N&EJ
  • 06-09-2016

Need a companion workbook or the written text.

Lots of excellent suggested self work but hard to stop what your doing when listening to audio Will be purchasing the written book and / or workbook if available

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  • Idalin Bobe
  • 28-04-2020

A must read for understanding attachment styles

This book discusses both anxious and avoidant style, and of course secure. The exercises allows you to dig in to any wound you may be struggling with and see it from a different perspective. You may cry while listening, or after doing an exercise, but more importantly you will feel yourself giving yourself a huge hug. This book is quite lovely! Very understanding on how it discusses attachment styles in a none judgmental way. Worth the investment!

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  • deathzerozero
  • 28-05-2018

Extremely basic.

Pick a partner you have things in common with and communicate is the message of this book. Not enough about why you might have an insecure attachment style in the first place or how to tackle that. The narrator sounds like computer generated sepeech. If you have done any kind of work on yourself or relationships this will be no help.

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  • nephetalie
  • 06-01-2021

Very helpful

Very eye opening it’s very relatable and made me realise and have hope of better relationships

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  • cmj123
  • 16-05-2017

Great relationship insight

It really takes two willing partners to build a secured lasting relationship. We have to be willing and accepting of ourselves and the other self.

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  • Pieter van Woerkom
  • 24-04-2017

Excellent self help book

Great practical advice for those people who feel insecure in love. Lays out theory in clear concise way and good practical exercises to develop a more secure style of relationship both towards yourself, your significant other and others in general. Highly recommended

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