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In the Absence of the Ordinary

Soul Work for Times of Uncertainty—Essays on Grief, Change, and Sacred Transitions

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In the Absence of the Ordinary

By: Francis Weller
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We are at a threshold. As we face uncertain futures, the familiar is falling away. This book invites us to embody new ways of being and connecting so we can navigate troubled times together

From the bestselling author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow, a beautifully packaged collection of 17 essays on meeting this moment with clarity, care, and skill

Praise for The Wild Edge of Sorrow: "It blew me away. I underlined things on nearly every page."—Anderson Cooper

In his singular and inimitable voice, psychotherapist and author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow Francis Weller offers 17 soulful essays to help us move together through the anxieties, difficulties, and sacred transitions of 21st-century life.

In the Absence of the Ordinary frames our current era as a rough initiation—an upending experience of profound trauma and transformation that demands we reorient our ways of thinking, being, and relating. Through essays like “Some People Wake Up…,” “The Gift of Restraint,” and “Gratitude for All That Is,” Weller offers clarity and wisdom on how to face the sobering stakes of our time—while offering the nourishment and support we need to embody the new roles this initiation requires.

  • Section 1, “When the Bough Breaks,” names our collective traumas and peels back the false armor of modernity. We’re called to the depths, to understand the power of descent, and to cultivate the necessary skills of initiation.
  • Section 2, “Care of the Soul,” differentiates between the connected soul and the individualistic self, inviting us back into alignment with the wider world of belonging. We learn to approach our experiences with reverence, work with our grief, and develop restraint, repetition, and self-compassion.
  • Section 3, “Meanwhile, the World Goes On,” gives shape to the emptiness we carry and the ways modernity has severed us from our birthright of interconnectedness with the natural world. It offers rituals of gratitude and practices of kinship to restore our bond with the living Earth.

In each essay, Weller fortifies us to become immense—to meet these unpredictable times with presence and faith, to restore our souls’ place in the soul of the world, and to hold steady, amid and for it all.

©2025 Francis Weller (P)2025 North Atlantic Books
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Critic Reviews

"In partnership with poets, places and practice, Francis Weller teaches us that it is time to know nothing, time to become immense, time to become seasoned adults through ritual and initiation, time to do our soul work, time to apprentice slowness and listen to trees, and time to, in the words of Rilke, let the future speak ruthlessly through us."—adrienne maree brown, author of Emergent Strategy and Loving Corrections

"Come on down to the river. Pull up a log. Lean into the fire. Francis is here, casting spells and opening a hidden door to the animate underworld and to the unremembered sacred. This book is visionary, heart-rooted, nature-inspired, psyche-shifting."—Bill Plotkin, author of Soulcraft and The Journey of Soul Initiation

"With poetic and penetrating insight, Weller invites us on a journey of the soul, one that reveals—in the dark passages of loss and grief—our collective immensity, belonging and luminosity."—Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance and Radical Compassion

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