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Publisher's Summary

What if making one tweak to your day-to-day conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life?

In this three-hour, conversational listen, you'll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable (yet surprisingly little-known) communication skills - validation.

Whether you're looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on a deeper level with friends and family, this book delivers simple, practical, proven techniques for improving any relationship in your life.

Mastery of this simple skill will enable you to:

  • Calm (and sometimes even eliminate) the concerns, fears, and uncertainties of others
  • Increase feelings of love, respect, and appreciation in your romantic relationships
  • Quickly resolve, or even prevent, arguments
  • Help others become open to your point of view
  • Give advice and feedback that sticks
  • Provide support and encouragement to others, even when you don't know how to "fix" the problem
  • And much more

In short: this skill is powerful. Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you'll be amazed at the difference they can make.

©2017 Michael S. Sorensen (P)2017 Michael S. Sorensen

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Eye Opening

Great advice and insights on the human mind and emotion. Highly recommended. I am currently putting into practice in the workplace and it's great.

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  • Emily
  • 02-09-2017

Book helped solved a problem I didn't know existed

What did you love best about I Hear You?

This is a PHENOMENAL book for anyone that wants to improve their relationship with others and even more specifically with themselves. Several months ago, I got a difficult medical diagnosis which was life changing. Michael, the author, a friend of mine gave me this book to read unknowing of my current situation.

For me the most powerful concepts I learned from this book was validating my own self. I had been going through quite a range of emotions as I was dealing with the potential effects this new medical diagnosis was going to have on every aspect of my life. I learned as I read this book that I hadn't been validating any of the “negative” feelings I was so strongly feeling but was suppressing them all. I started to vividly see the damage and harm this unknown behavior of not validating all of my feelings had been causing me.

I learned to see that what I have needed most from myself and others was validation of those feelings of frustration, anger, sadness, and fear etc. After finally realizing I needed to validate those feelings that had been festering inside, I felt this huge sense of relief and calmness in my life. I can honestly say I use the act of validating all my emotions on a daily basis. I am able to process things better, move forward with more hope and a better attitude even though my life is not what I want it to be at this time! This is a MUST READ for everyone!

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  • Erica DeLeone
  • 25-06-2018

LIFE CHANGING....

I had always believed myself to be a good listener, but i had no idea how to respond. I couldn’t stand the generic responses you hear people tell one another everyday, ““ I know how you feel”, “it could be worse”, or “you’ll get over it”, uggghhhh, I am not a lier , im more of a straight shooter, but sometimes honesty is harsh. I feel like I have always tried to avoid a lot of certain situations where I would be forced to either lie or be brutally honest. This book opened up a new chapter in myself. I couldn’t wait to start using the method. I am making my 16 yr old read it. This book is something to live by for anyone who wants to be a better person. That’s intense but I too believe that people want actually they need to feel validation. It’s crazy what a few simple words can do to someone’s day. It’s books like this they should be reading in high school, it really could do good things. I must also say I listened to the audible and there is something soothing about Michaels voice! 👍🏼

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  • Scarlette
  • 23-05-2018

Everyone Should Practice these Principles

This book is very well performed. The author is clear and succinct. He does not try to streatch a few solid ideas into 20 chapters, when he can cover them in a handful. This book has a focused principle it describes, then it instructs you on how to implement the principle using several techniques and examples. I really enjoyed the style and structure of this book. It is very user friendly and teaches communication strategies to help understand and better communicate with others, while validating their emotions. This book highlights something society has forgetten, that we are allowed to feel.

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  • Ben Huff
  • 13-05-2018

for a self proclaimed non "authority" on the su

on the subject, this guy not only gets it, he gets what most people miss and wash over, and he very clearly dismantles our preconceived notions of empathy, with such simple language, and relatable examples, that not only clear up the misconceptions, but internalize the subtleties that are a make-it-or-break-it reality when it comes to getting what you need to understand about understanding people. Carl Rogers would weep tears of joy if he could read this book. Absolutely required listening for anyone who wants to be around humans. Life improves in all areas when these truths are finally grasped, and your understanding of yourself will deepen so much that it could be a reason in and of itself. Just awesome.

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  • John B. Waits
  • 01-04-2018

Quick and effective read

Quick. No fluff. Very effective techniques and examples. Great read. Highly recommended book on communication.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 05-03-2018

Makes a GREAT Gift!

I gave out several copies of this book to close friends and neighbors over the holidays. No matter how good our relationships might be, this book helps improve them and take them to a more connected level. I’ve never had so many heart-felt thank yous for a simple gift!

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  • Kayla Anne
  • 24-02-2018

Very helpful

The skill of validation is surprisingly important and overlooked.... The author does a great job of explaining how we can use it to improve our lives and relationships. He does so in practical terms.. I recognize countless times that I unknowingly was injuring relationships even with something as (seemingly) simple as not showing enough interest in my partner’s success or passing comments about his day. I also like that this book is short enough that I could listen again without much stress to refresh the ideas. Thanks!

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  • Summer
  • 13-01-2018

Gain a superpower!!!

I cant wait to get better at validating others and myself. I truly wish I had heard this book 13 years ago. My husband has fallen out of love with me because I haven't validated him enough. Validating others is truly the key to intimate connection and trust. This book helped me understand clearly what it is, isn't, and how to do it effectively and sound natural. I liked the reader too. his voice was genuine, natural and easy to listen to.

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  • Alan St. Andrew
  • 13-01-2018

Much better results than "active listening" can provide.

As a chaplain I find much here that helps in my work with the people I'm called on to walk through some of the overwhelming incidents in their lives. This validation serves to foster rapport quickly while giving "stuck" emotions safe room to start moving toward the "new normal" that is needed after a critical incident has been experienced.

This material is well thought out and we'll presented so that just about anyone can quickly employ it for great benefit in their lives, and in the lives of those with whom they interact.

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  • rob herold
  • 13-08-2018

So good, I bought the Kindle...

I wish more non-fiction advice books were as concise and to the point as this book. Michael doesn't waste time getting to the point or expanding on the concept ad nauseam. To accelerate my adoption of these counter-intuitive but straightforward practices, I purchased the Kindle version after completing the audible book.

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  • 09-10-2017

Simple yet powerful <br />

This book is a hidden gem. I've realised past experiences where conversations have gone sour because I wasn't giving validation to the person I'm listening to and thinking I'm helping offering advice. The idea is so pratical yet so powerful and can completely change how people may talk to you if you understand when and how to validate.