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It's about time we made motherhood more diverse.... 

When Candice fell pregnant and stepped into the motherhood playing field, she found her experience bore little resemblance to the glossy magazine photos of women in horizontal stripe tops and the pinned discussions on Mumsnet about what pushchair to buy. Leafing through the piles of prenatal paraphernalia, she found herself wondering: 'Where are all the black mothers?' 

Candice started blogging about motherhood in 2016 after making the simple but powerful observation that the way motherhood is portrayed in the British media is wholly unrepresentative of our society at large. 

The result is this thought-provoking, urgent and inspirational guide to life as a black mother. It explores the various stages in between pregnancy and waving your child off at the gates of primary school, while facing hurdles such as white privilege, racial micro-aggression and unconscious bias at every point. Candice does so with her trademark sense of humour and refreshing straight-talking, and the result is a call-to-arms that will allow mums like her to take control, scrapping the parenting rulebook to mother their own way.

©2020 Candice Brathwaite (P)2020 Quercus Editions Limited

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Required reading for all people not just women not just people of colour

Highlights the disparities in the healthcare system for black mothers and society at large. Such an important read

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So Many Lessons

I learnt so much from this that I was not aware of even having lived in London and having love for the U.K. Eyes are now wide open.
I loved the format, style of delivery and that Candice narrates it herself.
Definitely one I will buy and re-listen to again.
If you want to get insight on a Black persons experience in the U.K with all aspects of life and the impact of racism on it, this is the book you need to read.

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amazing

loved the book! educational, eye opening and fun! a very inspiring book for mothers from all backgrounds.

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A story which extends beyond its pages

I laughed, cried and felt the sharp sting of anger which fell from every pronounced nuance of Candice tongue. Extending beyond a story of family, skin, motherhood and womanhood - this story is for everyone.
From the conversations about racism, the sexualisation of young black girls, to the talks about the abandonment of male black youth in the UK this book needs to be read by everyone.

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  • Maximo
  • 07-11-2020

A manifesto of division, hatred and ignorance

On the bright side this an authentic autobiography which clearly details the author’s perception of their experiences.

Beyond the anger and generalisations which ironically so frustrate the author when levelled against her home community, there is little evaluation, self-analysis nor any desire to understand the complex factors delivering such different outcomes to the minority communities in the U.K.

I genuinely hope this author’s views do not represent the community and demographic she claims to represent. That kind of silo thinking and bigotry will do nothing (outside the twitterari) but cement further division and poor outcomes.

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  • Hayley Hanson
  • 22-03-2021

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The story of Candice was compelling but the mix of race and unfortunate circumstance were sometimes a bit triggering. The child birth experienced was identical to my own as a white woman. I appreciate the underlying racism that every person of colour experiences but sometimes it also comes down to life being a bit shit. My story was unfortunate and I did not like it claimed as a race thing, white privileged women also get shit birthing experiences, I appreciate that I did not wonder if it was because I was white. All the same, it triggered me.

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  • Alli Nunes
  • 16-06-2020

Dispels some of the myths and legends

Thank you Candice for this book .
As a white women there are so many issues dealt with in this book , I had never even considered.
I originally grew up on a council estate in Hendon I feel very lucky that our local primary school was diverse , my friends were a girl from Ghana, a geek boy , an Asian girl and a girl from Japan .
Growing up in the 80s meant we experienced the hideous times of skinheads and race riots and all sorts of mayhem .
I am really grateful the hidden racism in this country , is finally being outed and we can all start to build a world we’re all people are respected and cared for .
Keep on writing
Thank you

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  • Allysa Rochelle
  • 28-05-2020

EXCEPTIONAL

I have never binged listened to a book in my life. This was that good!

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  • 31-05-2020

IANYBM

This book is absolutely fabulous, I finished reading it in one day! It's so needed!

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  • Rachael Broderick - The Real Life Fit
  • 10-06-2020

Fantastic listening!

Really enjoyed! Great insight into life as a black British mother. Thank you! Covers MANY important issues and has given me much more to research to understand.

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  • Mr GS Mccreadie
  • 16-06-2020

Where to Start...

This was a very illuminating and thought provoking listen. From growing up memories, through the experiences of pregnancy and childbirth, to the realisation of both home truths and dreams for a new generation. And the continuation of an increasingly (from this perspective anyway) evident fight against the suppression, challenge and imposition of tooling that can be used to shift understanding, denial, projection and even sanity of what is real, what is not, what is imaginary or illusory or even whether a thought that does (or does not) exist, could exist if it was articulated clearly and responsibly. Despite prejudice.

Still, to try and empathise or symathise or care with compassion is not tantamount to a lived experience and although theoretical or even academic endeavour of the well meaning and best intent may fall short of genuine reform (and indeed are even potentially counter productive beyond a certain unspecified point) there are messages of hope and for the sole purpose of resiliance, bravery, strength and ultimately love, it is clearly testament to the power of persistence (at least) that resistance won does not necessarily equate with resistance conquered (regardless of means)

This was a review of "I Am Not Your Baby Mother" by Candice Brathwaite as heard on Amazon Audible (16 June 2020).

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  • 16-06-2020

Every black mother needs to read this book!

I’m already regretting my title and thinking it should be everyone needs to read this book. When I fell pregnant with my first daughter I told my husband (then boyfriend) he could never under any terms refer to me as his ‘baby mother’ I cried as I said it with so much conviction but unable to articulate why. Candice has spoken everything I didn’t understand I felt and still feel about that term. Thank you Queen! This book is amazing! I hope it reaches every corner of the earth xxx

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  • Miss C Rolle
  • 15-06-2020

So much more than a 'mum-moir'

Insightful reading irrespective of race. Brathwaite talks with candour, intelligence and passion about black British motherhood and so much more.

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  • Miss K.
  • 24-01-2021

disappointing

I had high hopes for this book. It failed miserably. Read Akala's book if you want to read anything intelligent on the topic of race. Even just his first chapter alone is miles better than this slop.

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  • Pamela Baker
  • 23-06-2020

Very entertaining and quite informative

This is everything I expected from Candice - she is so funny, and it is fascinating to hear so much about her life.

I found the content on racism in the UK very educational and really useful. I found what she says about post natal depression a little light and not that well researched - it is such a serious issue and it could have been delved into a little more.

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