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How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk

Narrated by: Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
Length: 3 hrs and 18 mins
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Internationally acclaimed parenting experts Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish have helped millions of families with their breakthrough, best-selling books How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, Siblings Without Rivalry, and Liberated Parents, Liberated Children. Now, they return with a lively, down-to-earth guide that tackles the tough issues teens and parents face today. After years of research, lecturing, and feedback, Faber and Mazlish have developed an innovative approach to maintaining a candid, open, mutually respectful dialogue between parents and teens. It's a strategy that curbs conflict, reduces frustration, and promotes thoughtful communication about everything from curfews and drugs to schoolwork and sex.

Written in Faber and Mazlish's trademark accessible style, How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk takes you inside their acclaimed workshops where you will hear, in the words of both parents and teens, what's on the minds of families today. Packed with suggestions that are easy to implement, and reinforced with stories, this indispensable volume will help build a foundation for a healthy relationship that puts the emphasis on rapport rather than reprisals. From age-old concerns about cliques and dating to contemporary worries about binge drinking and cyberbullying, Faber and Mazlish help parents tackle problems before they get out of hand. In their warm, lucid, unpatronizing manner, the authors show families how to be supportive and stay connected during the challenging teenage years.

©2005 Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers

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excellent tools to navigate the teen years

great listen I wish there was more, maybe another book soon :-) I recommend to all parents.

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Just what I need.

After reading the hard copy of 'how to talk to kids' several times and still struggling to apply to my family, I was pleased to find this teen version on audio. I've listened to the full thing in one day, while my daughter is at school. Just what I needed to refocus and give me the encouragement needed to apply it to our daily challenges.

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  • Lea Zimmerman
  • 13-08-2013

Good basic info and somewhat motivational but....

It will make you feel like it is possible to interact with your teen in a more positive way.

I will finish this book, and I am sure I will even listen more than once so that I can apply some worthy ideas and techniques. But the reviews that say the authors were 'trying to act' and that they felt they were being 'talked down to,' those reviews were spot on. The narration is a turn off, unfortunately. Overblown phrasing when a nice simple reading would have conveyed the information so much better, and I don't hate accents but their accents are annoying. I'll listen in spurts!

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  • Robert
  • 06-01-2007

Got Teens?

Raising teenagers is a huge challenge in every way, but particularly with respect to communication. This invaluable book gives excellent pratical suggestions on how to communicate with your teen in all of the critical areas. Based on decades of experience, the two authors share their useful techniques and ideas. It is a resource I listen to over and over.

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  • AS
  • 08-05-2017

The authors are terrible at narration!

What would have made How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk better?

Use the book for facts and helpful advice rather than a play by play story of their visit to a high school to give a workshop. Hire professional narrator, the authors are terrible at narrating. To get the best info, just read their How to Talk so Teens will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk

What do you think your next listen will be?

I will try another book by this author as long as they are not the narrator!

How could the performance have been better?

Get a professional narrator and use facts rather than stories.

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk?

The book is written like a play in which the author reads all characters but in different annoying voices.

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I could not take another minute of listening to the author narrate the book. I returned the audio for my money back.

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  • N. Bickett
  • 05-11-2012

Felt like I was being talked down to

Is there anything you would change about this book?

I would make it more informational and not a story. I would also have it read by someone other than the authors.

Has How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk turned you off from other books in this genre?

I did not need a story to learn the concepts.

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The authors were trying to act and it was so unbelievable it turned me off.

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  • Michelle
  • 23-07-2008

5 Stars all the way

This was a fabulous book, chocked full of very specific details and directions on how to do what she is telling you to do. A lot of what she had to say I had already learned form other material that I have, but I will say even though I already had heard most of what she had to teach in this book (all wonderful, incredible, fabulous things by the way) she did give me many a light bulb moment and helped me to see where I could and should be using these skills more! This should be a 5 star book for any one else in need of a little parenting advice or help as long as you can ignore the voice! LOL

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  • J. Williams
  • 25-04-2013

Book was ok and provided good general guidance

Good techniques, but examples were "rigged". The author(s) would run through two examples one before the techniques were applied and one after.

In the examples without techniques, the teenagers were belligerent, defiant, and smart asses. In the examples with the techniques there was some of the same teenage activity, but they quickly complied, which I just found hard to believe.

Although the examples seem poor, the techniques do have use and can improve things. I suspect that there are things out there that are better, but until I find it, these are not that bad. I'd say C+ or 3/5.

Also, author(s) were very slow to talk. I started trying to listen at 1.25.

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  • Emelda
  • 13-05-2015

Thank you!

Although I do realize that in the end my teens will make their own decisions, this book has reminded me that to influence we must respect and listen first. Thank you!

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  • psu1989
  • 01-01-2020

What year is it?

I'm 50 and this was like listening to my grandmother talking about pre-teens. Might be better with different vocals and a timely refresh.

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  • SG
  • 24-06-2019

Terrible Narration and Outdated Stories

I really wanted to like this book and find good insight for dealing with my older teens. After the first twenty minutes of listening, I wanted to turn it off because the narrators were doing a terrible job. Their voices for other roles, both parents and teens, was completely unbelievable and the example stories they gave were woefully outdated. Worse than that, the quick resolution of how to handle various scenarios was laughable. The authors' general advice is sound, but so out of date. Will continue searching for better, more contemporary books in this genre.

Sadly, I cannot recommend this book in any form.

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  • Lisa S.
  • 04-05-2018

Insiteful, helpful & hopeful bk 4 parents of teens

Loved it!! The authors give real life examples of struggles between parents & teens. Followed with great examples of how to effectively communicate with your teens!!!

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  • Avido
  • 23-08-2017

Narration made me cringe

There are some useful tidbits in this book but the narration made me cringe. Really cringe! Also there doesn't seem to be any evidence to back up the theory. The story describes a few weeks of parenting seminars and it isn't clear what real issues the parents' faced or whether they were resolved aside from 'improved communication'.

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  • W. Reilly
  • 28-06-2019

Excellent and actionable

There are a lot of good examples and realistic scenarios to learn from. It's not easy to get something this simple right in reality but in the weeks since I finished the book I have found my relationship with my kids much better. Most importantly I'm not always coming across as angry or against them. I am very grateful for this book, simple!

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  • MR DAVID NICOLL
  • 16-04-2019

Great sensible advice

It was a very easy book to listen too. A bit short but very worthwhile. I'm looking forward to trying the advice with my children.

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  • abeer
  • 03-02-2019

wounderful book about parenting, l enjoy every part of it, must read book, thanks alot

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  • joan
  • 22-07-2018

expository analysis

hard truth and reality of dealing with teens. a reference to reckon with when overwhelmed

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  • Mrs. D. HANSON
  • 25-07-2017

Really helpful for teenagers

I would have liked some easier to find summary points or a pdf with them on but overall really helpful to stay calm and keep the communication going

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 23-01-2020

Excellent

Really helpful, easy to understand book. This book can be helpful by both reading the whole book or just some of the chapters.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 18-09-2019

excellent advise and examples

very well written and how to deal with those complicated questions and problems that we face with our kids.