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How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen

A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7
Length: 10 hrs and 8 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (45 ratings)
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Publisher's Summary

A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of the international best-seller The Boston Globe dubbed "The Parenting Bible".

For over 35 years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele's daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk's powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven.

Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life.

What do you do with a little kid who...won't brush her teeth...screams in his car seat...pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.

This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.

©2017 Joanna Faber and Julie King (P)2017 Simon & Schuster

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loved the tips in this book

I can't wait to try these techniques out on my 2.5 year old! they all seem reasonable and easy enough to implement

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Loved it!

I had been looking for practical strategies to support parents in dealing with childhood anger and anxiety when i purchased this book.
I'm so glad i gave this book a chance. The ideas offered are simple yet powerful in creating behaviour change. I also like the way the authours reassure parents that mistakes are ok and there is no such thing as a perfect parent.
I loved the narration too. i sometimes struggle listening to American narrators who speak too fast, but this one was perfectly paced. It also used several 'actors' which improved the clarity of the stories as well as making them very entertaining.
i will be purchasing the paper copy of this book and recommending it to all parents attending my programs. Thank you.

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Very Helpful & Comes With PDF Concept Summary

Rich in examples used by varied parents/kids. General applicability, less useful for behavioural disorders.

The PDF summary is a fantastic resource for time-poor parents.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 25-08-2017

Interesting, practical, useful.

Thank you for writing this! I recommend to any parent. Was extremely helpful. Already seen improvements and got me thinking about it scientifically again instead if just flabbergasted parent.

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  • Brittany Vickers
  • 05-05-2017

Changed my life

This book completely changed my perspective about how I should talk to my children. It radically changed what I say to my children. I have both the print and audio editions and really enjoyed listening to it so the parental voices became someone else's besides my own.

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  • Anonymous
  • 10-07-2017

I want to be just like the authors

These authors emphasize the importance of remembering what it's like to be a kid. Big takeaways for me were to acknowledge feelings, describe what I see, be playful, give choices, and describe their wish fantasies. I've used these tools--now my daughter is hopping into her pajamas and likes to be carried to bed upside down. Really resonated with me and made me re-think how I talk to my daughter. Thanks!

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  • Gustavo Romo
  • 21-03-2017

It works

Just by starting to acknowledge feelings there is a noticeable progress. I am happy the authors noticed the previous book was neglecting children in the age range.

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  • Becky Fischer
  • 09-04-2017

Love All the How to Talk Books

There were so many times when this book anticipated my "Yeah, but..." thoughts and doubts. Well written, fun to listen to, and lots of tools to practice using with my 3 boys all 7 and under.

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  • SweatyStallion
  • 01-12-2017

Loved the book! Not so much some narration parts.

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The person who narrates "Sarah" uses mutliple upward inflections in the wrong places and emphasizes parts of speech that shouldn't need it. It becomes so annoying that I began skipping her stories altogether. This is still a great listen/read and I would still recommend it to any parents with a toddler.

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  • The Wang Family
  • 05-06-2017

Must read for parents of small kids!

Would you consider the audio edition of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen to be better than the print version?

I loved this book. My only regret is that I didn't read it earlier. My daughter is 5 and I learned a lot still.

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  • Sam
  • 06-10-2017

Wish every parent in the world could read this

I think a solution to world peace is if every parent could read and try to follow this book. Seriously. The skills taught in this book could be applied for a life time. Sometimes I feel like the book were a perfect parent speaking to me pointing out ways I could improve on my own life, learning with my toddler.

I've read the famous How to Talk book by her mother, but this is still an excellent read specifically targeted towards younger children's challenges.

What I love most is how practical it is, even acknowledging that kids do turn parents crazy sometimes and how to deal with those tough times!

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  • Marion Bartlett
  • 29-09-2017

Amazing!

I purchased the audio and paperback version of this book. I have read several parenting books and this is the best and most helpful one by far! I loved all the tools, scenarios, and stories. Even after only reading the first chapter our family life changed. We had known for a while that what we were doing wasn't working, but we didn't know what to do instead. I am so thankful for how empowering this book is for me as a mom! Our home life is completely transformed! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!!

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  • Daniel
  • 01-09-2017

I found the answer!

I knew there was some peaceful and loving way to treat my children and make them behave civilized without turning them into spoiled criminals in the process. This book changed my life and that of my kids for the good!!!

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  • Szabolcs S.
  • 11-11-2017

very-very-very good

Excellent performance from all the narrators and authors! Really enjoyable to listen and very informative. I'm still in progress to change how I'm with my kids along the advises from this book, but can say that after a week - loosely using the tools that are presented in the book - got some very positive changes.
It also had some life gems for me. Never really understood why I couldn't take praises when I was a child myself, but after listening the part about praises, now finally understood what mistakes most of us do when praising one and another.
The authors are not pretending to give you a 100% working examples, since all kids are different this would be impossible, but rather many-many good techniques and advises.

Must "read" for all busy/stressed/normal parents :)

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  • lv
  • 17-09-2017

Never too late to try different approaches

It's not a magic wound - nothing is. But there are some good tips and explanations. Happy I bought it.

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  • Gopal Peddinti
  • 05-07-2018

Very practical; I highly recommend

This is the best among the couple of books I read. The conversational style of the book makes content easy and interesting to follow. Advice is totally practical.

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  • StardustSalvage
  • 05-07-2018

Worth listening but overrated.

There are some valuables ideas and tips, however after finishing it it feels like I need some more.

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  • James K.
  • 15-02-2019

Brilliant book

I have two year old twins and if I had to recommend only one parenting book it would be this. I struggle sometimes to remember so I printed/ copied some tools/examples and stuck them all over the house. Now I’m getting my husband and au pair to read this so we are all aligned. Thanks it’s easy and helpful

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  • Miss Alison S Loram
  • 07-02-2019

Excellent

An excellent parenting book, great to listen to with real life, engaging stories. One of the best I've read so far.

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  • gaz
  • 01-02-2019

how to guide and speaking to your kids effectively

what I really love about this book is there are so many ideas and suggestions to help you on your way not just from a conversation tool but that also many of many examples on how to use these tools or what you could say or do to help communicate better to your kids

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  • Eliza
  • 24-01-2019

Brilliant

Loved it. Great tips that may or may not work however worth trying and not condescending. Good flow and the real stories from parents were very helpful and funny most of the time. I believe any parent can relate to the issues mentioned. I will definitely recommend this one.

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  • Justyna A
  • 18-01-2019

Very good!

I found this audiobook very interesting, funny and full of real life examples and stories. The examples and stories are this book's biggest advantage. The philosophy and approach are just pure logical once you start listening, its all about a viewpoint. I couldn't recommend it enough.

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  • Tammy
  • 17-01-2019

Wonderful tools and tips!

it's fantastically packed with many examples for how to use the tools and tips which has helped me to be creative in my own implementation. I've already tried many of the tips and excited to keep trying them.