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How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen

A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7
Length: 10 hrs and 8 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (89 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of the international best-seller The Boston Globe dubbed "The Parenting Bible".

For over 35 years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele's daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk's powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven.

Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life.

What do you do with a little kid who...won't brush her teeth...screams in his car seat...pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.

This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.

©2017 Joanna Faber and Julie King (P)2017 Simon & Schuster

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Worth persevering with!

I found the voices reading VERY American, in tone and accent, which was a bit hard to slog through. And some of the comments seem snarky or sarcastic, to me.

However, persevering with the book was very worth it. I am now on my third reading of it, and am using as many of the "tools" offered as I can. I am genuinely seeing a difference in my emotional, stubborn, tantrum-y little 3 y/o boy. It is hard to remember in the heat of the moment, but I can feel it starting to become our "natural" way of parenting, and the more we practice the better we are becoming. I wish you luck with your parenting journey, and I hope this will help!

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Beautifully written & spoken

Provides helpful real life examples of parents using the techniques and carefully breaks down the learning tips at the end.

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loved it

This book is full of great tips to talk with little children. It is a wonderful parenting book.

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Loved it! So helpful and relatable. Having the tools repeated with relevant examples made the learning stick better.

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Life saver!!

This book provides great information on how to communicate efficiently with children. It also helped me see things from my sons point of view.

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Learnt so much from the book. The examples are SO practical and entertaining.

The voices were a little distracting but the book too good to miss out on!

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Not bad...

This book offers decent advice. There are worse books, I guess. It could've done without the different voices though.

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loved the tips in this book

I can't wait to try these techniques out on my 2.5 year old! they all seem reasonable and easy enough to implement

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Loved it!

I had been looking for practical strategies to support parents in dealing with childhood anger and anxiety when i purchased this book.
I'm so glad i gave this book a chance. The ideas offered are simple yet powerful in creating behaviour change. I also like the way the authours reassure parents that mistakes are ok and there is no such thing as a perfect parent.
I loved the narration too. i sometimes struggle listening to American narrators who speak too fast, but this one was perfectly paced. It also used several 'actors' which improved the clarity of the stories as well as making them very entertaining.
i will be purchasing the paper copy of this book and recommending it to all parents attending my programs. Thank you.

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Very Helpful & Comes With PDF Concept Summary

Rich in examples used by varied parents/kids. General applicability, less useful for behavioural disorders.

The PDF summary is a fantastic resource for time-poor parents.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 25-08-2017

Interesting, practical, useful.

Thank you for writing this! I recommend to any parent. Was extremely helpful. Already seen improvements and got me thinking about it scientifically again instead if just flabbergasted parent.

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  • Brittany Vickers
  • 05-05-2017

Changed my life

This book completely changed my perspective about how I should talk to my children. It radically changed what I say to my children. I have both the print and audio editions and really enjoyed listening to it so the parental voices became someone else's besides my own.

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  • Anonymous
  • 10-07-2017

I want to be just like the authors

These authors emphasize the importance of remembering what it's like to be a kid. Big takeaways for me were to acknowledge feelings, describe what I see, be playful, give choices, and describe their wish fantasies. I've used these tools--now my daughter is hopping into her pajamas and likes to be carried to bed upside down. Really resonated with me and made me re-think how I talk to my daughter. Thanks!

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  • Gustavo Romo
  • 21-03-2017

It works

Just by starting to acknowledge feelings there is a noticeable progress. I am happy the authors noticed the previous book was neglecting children in the age range.

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  • SweatyStallion
  • 01-12-2017

Loved the book! Not so much some narration parts.

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The person who narrates "Sarah" uses mutliple upward inflections in the wrong places and emphasizes parts of speech that shouldn't need it. It becomes so annoying that I began skipping her stories altogether. This is still a great listen/read and I would still recommend it to any parents with a toddler.

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  • Cellery
  • 23-07-2019

The message is great but the narration and writing style cringey

I love the message of this book and the way it is telling you to communicate etc, that is spot on and helpful

However the way this book is written is so cringey.
Constantly hearing “and the group replied back “
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“Insert a bunch of replies that sound so made up and straight out of a 80s sitcom over and over”


It just makes it SO hard to listen too. I hate it, I’ve stopped listening about 3 hours in.

The narrator voice also compounds this problem, I’m sorry to say.


Coming from listening to Laura Markhams audiobook really highlighted how hard this is to listen to or read.

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  • The Wang Family
  • 05-06-2017

Must read for parents of small kids!

Would you consider the audio edition of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen to be better than the print version?

I loved this book. My only regret is that I didn't read it earlier. My daughter is 5 and I learned a lot still.

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  • Becky Fischer
  • 09-04-2017

Love All the How to Talk Books

There were so many times when this book anticipated my "Yeah, but..." thoughts and doubts. Well written, fun to listen to, and lots of tools to practice using with my 3 boys all 7 and under.

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  • Sam
  • 06-10-2017

Wish every parent in the world could read this

I think a solution to world peace is if every parent could read and try to follow this book. Seriously. The skills taught in this book could be applied for a life time. Sometimes I feel like the book were a perfect parent speaking to me pointing out ways I could improve on my own life, learning with my toddler.

I've read the famous How to Talk book by her mother, but this is still an excellent read specifically targeted towards younger children's challenges.

What I love most is how practical it is, even acknowledging that kids do turn parents crazy sometimes and how to deal with those tough times!

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  • Marion Bartlett
  • 29-09-2017

Amazing!

I purchased the audio and paperback version of this book. I have read several parenting books and this is the best and most helpful one by far! I loved all the tools, scenarios, and stories. Even after only reading the first chapter our family life changed. We had known for a while that what we were doing wasn't working, but we didn't know what to do instead. I am so thankful for how empowering this book is for me as a mom! Our home life is completely transformed! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!!

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  • Szabolcs S.
  • 11-11-2017

very-very-very good

Excellent performance from all the narrators and authors! Really enjoyable to listen and very informative. I'm still in progress to change how I'm with my kids along the advises from this book, but can say that after a week - loosely using the tools that are presented in the book - got some very positive changes.
It also had some life gems for me. Never really understood why I couldn't take praises when I was a child myself, but after listening the part about praises, now finally understood what mistakes most of us do when praising one and another.
The authors are not pretending to give you a 100% working examples, since all kids are different this would be impossible, but rather many-many good techniques and advises.

Must "read" for all busy/stressed/normal parents :)

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  • PT Shaun
  • 08-07-2019

You have no idea what you're doing

You think you know how to communicate with your child effectively, heck, you even think you know how to communicate to your wife effectively. You don't. I didn't. I still don't, but I'm working on it. This book is one that I don't think I'll ever forget, and already at 19 months, we're seeing great benefits with our son. Every situation is a problem to be solved, and if you have an empty tool box then all you've got is what your instincts tell you, and what you were exposed to when growing up. Your mother read Mills and Boon, that's why you guys don't get on. If you want better relationships with the people around you, especially your child, this book will open your eyes. It's not preachy and doesn't pretend to have all the answers, but it's better than the answers you've got.

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  • lv
  • 17-09-2017

Never too late to try different approaches

It's not a magic wound - nothing is. But there are some good tips and explanations. Happy I bought it.

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  • LdC
  • 09-03-2019

High level sound advice

the main points the authors make are useful and I'll be implementing myself in my parenting. It was ironic that they recommend against commanding and using negative language, but the examples of what but to do and the key points section are presented in this way to the reader! I feel like more example of what parents could do should have been given instead, and using the word "don't" less towards the parents reading these books. We learn best by example after all!

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  • lami
  • 19-02-2019

Tools to navigate parenting

The stories in this book reflect everyday struggles I go through with my 3 hound ones. It has given me practical steps which I am able to use most of the time.

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  • Miss Janetta Chung
  • 16-10-2019

Some good tips

Some good tips on various scenarios. The overall message is that you have be creative in your responses, even if all you want is a simple task to be done.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-10-2019

practical and realistic

I liked to hear people’s experiences of what worked and didn’t work in the book. The clear, consistent steps were easy to follow and made sense. It’s a whole new look on positive parenting. Recommend for parents whose children struggle with expressing emotions.

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  • c j heaps
  • 02-10-2019

Great read for new parents

Lots of very useful stuff to be had here. Wished I’d have listened to it sooner, makes a lot of sense and really isn’t that difficult to apply. Highly recommended.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 29-09-2019

Useful!

Easy to listen to. Useful tools for parenting my toddler. It's like attending a parenting class without leaving the house.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 25-09-2019

Useful

It was very good practical advice that I can definitely start to use when communicating with my son Ben who is now 13 months old. Thanks for this!