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How to Know a Person

The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

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How to Know a Person

By: David Brooks
Narrated by: David Brooks
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A practical, heartfelt guide to the art of truly knowing another person in order to foster deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives - from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Road to Character and The Second Mountain

If you are going to care for someone, you must first understand them. If you're going to hire, marry, or befriend someone, you have to be able to see them. If you are going to work closely with someone, you have to be able to make them feel recognized and valued. As David Brooks observes, "The older I get, the more I come to the certainty that there is one skill at the center of any healthy family, company, classroom, community or nation: the ability to see each other, to know other people, to make them feel valued, heard and understood."

And yet we humans don't do this well. All around us are people who feel invisible, unseen, misunderstood. In How to Know a Person, Brooks sets out to help us to do better, posing questions that are essential for all of us. If you want to know a person, what kind of attention should you cast on them? What kind of conversations should you have? What parts of a person's story should you pay attention to?

Driven by his trademark sense of curiosity, Brooks draws from the fields of psychology and neuroscience, and from the worlds of theatre, history, and education, to present a welcoming, hopeful, integrated approach to human connection. How to Know a Person helps listeners become more understanding and considerate towards others; it helps listeners find the joy that comes from being seen. Along the way it offers a possible remedy for a society that is riven by fragmentation, hostility, and misperception.

The act of seeing another person, Brooks argues, is a profoundly creative act: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them, and in turn, see something larger in ourselves? How to Know a Person is for anyone searching for connection, seeking to understand and yearning to be understood.

©2023 David Brooks (P)2023 Penguin Audio
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This is a great book for developing your skills for getting to know people, in all parts of your life. The book weaves stories and personal experience with discussion of ways of developing those skills. If you only take away two or three things from this book, you will be ahead of the curve.

A good handbook for getting to know anyone

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While I have read and listened to several relational-enriching books - David Brooks with his wit and interesting true life stories has raised my awareness further. I have ordered the physical book and expect to enjoy it all again. ... multiple times.

valuble content

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A summary of the key lessons would be useful at the end as a reminder. So much is covered.

Really perceptive and practically useful

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I love the overall message and anecdotes. I recommended this book to my children and after reading it we have explored it during our conversations.

David's soothing and honest way of reading, love it.

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Thank you David ! I re started this book recently & got so much more from it. Thank you for your study & insight!

Such insight into US Humans

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