For families of addicts, feelings of fear, shame, and confusion over a loved one's addiction can cause deep anxiety, sleepless nights, and even physical illness. And the emotional distress family members suffer is often compounded by the belief that they somehow cause or contributed to their loved one's addiction - or that they could have done something to prevent it.
As the heart-wrenching personal stories in this book reveal, family members do not cause their loved one's addiction. Nor can they control or cure addiction. What family members can do is find support, set boundaries, detach with love, and eventually discover how to enjoy life whether their loved one finds recovery or not. Addict in the Family is a book about sorrow, deception, and pain. More importantly, it is a book of comfort, hope, and understanding for anyone struggling with a loved one's addiction.
I never thought we would have an addict in the family - let alone which member of the family it would be! I was stunned when I learned, as well as how it had been hidden for so long.
No family is immune to this dreaded illness, but in time and working on communication, that person can once again be an active and loved family member. Forgiveness and living in the present instead of the past are key elements.
I found this book to be a helpful reminder of just how far we have come, although it is always a work in progress. One must look deep inside oneself, not focusing on the addict, to come out of the past with a positive look on the future.
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The book spends a lot of time on parents with addicted children and this is not what I need.
This book has provided me with the guidance that I have been seeking as the parent of an addicted adult child.
Being new in this field with a recently addicted daughter, this book has helped me tremendously. I would definitely recommend it to anyone who is supporting someone with an addiction.