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Healing the Shame That Binds You

Narrated by: John Pruden
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Healing the Shame That Binds You is the most enduring work of family relationship expert and New York Times best-selling author John Bradshaw. In it, he shows how unhealthy toxic shame, often learned young and maintained into adulthood, is the core component in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and drive to superachieve. While positive shame empowers us and sustains the fabric of our social system, inappropriate or misdirected shame results in the breakdown of our self-esteem, the destruction of the family system, and an inability to move forward with our lives. In an honest and emotionally revealing style based largely on his personal experience with addiction and his decades as a counselor, John Bradshaw moves from the source and manifestation of toxic shame to the practical tools---affirmations, visualizations, inner voice and feeling work, guided meditations, and other healing techniques---that will release the shame that binds us to our past.

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Confronting but effective

Hard to listen to at times due to emotional discomfort. Brought a lot of family stuff to the surface I was unaware still affected me but also gave practical tools to deal with it.

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Excellent read

John Bradshaw has put together a masterfull introduction to the shame that binds us. Thought provoking and insightful in many ways, it makes me question the shame surrounding my experience and ways to work through it. Worth a second listen.

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...meh

He connects everything to ’shame’ as if it plays a role in every aspect of our lives but he lost me when he said it was impossible for someone who experiences shame to love them selves.

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  • Tim
  • 31-01-2019

Required reading for humanity

This book is in my view one of the single most important books for setting a foundation for spiritual growth. If spiritual growth is a journey, then this book is the bag which holds the nourishment you need to complete the journey

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A must read for self development

There's so much baggage you carry around lots can be shed off must read enjoy

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Parenting Manual

An amazing insight of the family unit for the recipient of the dysfunctional, as well as for the new or struggling parent. They say there is no manual to parent, I disagree.

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  • Mary
  • 18-12-2011

Wonderful information

Would you consider the audio edition of Healing the Shame that Binds You to be better than the print version?

Yes ---held my attention----my mind tends to wonder when I read and I find myself rereading certain parts

What did you like best about this story?

the truth about shame --the toxic

What about John Pruden’s performance did you like?

Really like Pruden's presentation-----the manner the book was read helped me visualize so many of the concepts

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Both....cry primarily ----I truly identified with the writings and work of James Bradshaw

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Truly the book I have searched for years to answer my questions about why I and others responds to situations the way we do-----Thank you so much for this informative and interesting audio book! I listened whenever I had a spare moment---then listened to the audio book a second time.....

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  • Charles Wurts
  • 08-01-2013

I thought it was worth my time

Would you listen to Healing the Shame that Binds You again? Why?

I am , it's difficult to follow everything so I'm listening to it again.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Healing the Shame that Binds You?

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Which character – as performed by John Pruden – was your favorite?

It's not that type of book - this is a textbook really

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

I am able to identify where I have carried shame in my own life.

Any additional comments?

Again, this is pretty much a text book. Don't expect it to roll like the catcher in the rye. There are parts that won't apply to you but the parts that do may make it all worth it.

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  • ADAM SPENDING MONEY
  • 10-11-2017

Do you feel like you're different than everyone else, if so, read this book.

I have never found so much helpful information in one location at the same time. Although some of it may not be pleasant, you will learn so much about yourself. I can accept anything, as long as I understand it. Not understanding has held me back for so long but not anymore.

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  • suzanne
  • 29-09-2017

One of the most insightful books I’ve ever read

This book needs to be shared with the all of humanity. John Bradshaw’s articulate, brilliant yet so tender explanations of how shame not only develops but can go from a healthy guiding force to the utter destruction of our authentic self to the whole of the way we can do torturously live out very sad, unfulfilling and harmful adult lives...

Where have I been that I only found this man and his pioneering work, now! What a gift.

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  • James Brown
  • 31-12-2013

A MUST READ FOR ANYONE WITH PAST PAIN

If you have experienced tragedy, in any way in your life, THEN READING THIS BOOK IS A MUST. It opens your eyes to understanding what you went through, why you went through it, and how to not only survive it, but overcome it and prosper. Great Book.

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  • joedt3
  • 15-10-2017

Incredible Revelations for Me

This book had so many revelations for me. I'm sure I will be referring back to it again and again. Will also be buying the hard copy.

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  • maria elena gonzalez
  • 30-07-2017

Love it

Great book and it really helped me understand lots of my feeling and behaviors. Thanks

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  • Amy Snyder
  • 12-06-2017

great book!

I loved the experience of Being! I feel transformed. The whole world needs this book!

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  • Melony R Weathermon
  • 03-04-2017

Must have book, deep read

This book was suggested by my therapist. It's pretty deep and heady. At times I wished the author would speak more to the regular fellow vs the psychologist, but still a great read.

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  • Constance
  • 11-12-2016

Excellent narration

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I believe this book is like a perfect recipe.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Healing the Shame That Binds You?

Finding the why then now what and what to do

What about John Pruden’s performance did you like?

His articulation and voice tone

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

Stay in the now

Any additional comments?

Schools should integrate books like this one into their program. Start sooner then later

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  • MR J C WESSON
  • 12-01-2017

A Genuinely Enlightening Experience

Bradshaw combines his many experiences and knowledge into a real, raw and gut churning adventure into oneself. I became aware of parts of me I hadn't noticed before but recognised instantly. The way Bradshaw identifies the spiritual malady is excruciatingly accurate and painful, I felt forced to stop listening on many occasions so that I could process the information and come to terms with the newly discovered parts of myself.
The good news is that the second half of the book is all about solutions and healing. It's worth persevering, I thank myself for doing so.
To summarise, Bradshaw beat the crap out of me emotionally by waking me up to my inner shame and then taught me how to heal my psychological wounds.
I now have the confidence to look forward to enjoying my life by using the techniques provided in this book.
Thank you John Bradshaw RIP

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  • O. Earle
  • 17-10-2016

One of the most profound soul searching books there is

I am amazed by the depth of this book and the knowledge it contains. This is an absolute must read for those in search of deep meaning of life. I have particularly enjoyed the solutions healing techniques offered by the author. The book left me with the sense of self-acceptance and inner peace.

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  • abbey
  • 05-06-2013

Great Discovery

I really really enjoyed the book and found it helpful to understand my issues I was struggling with.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 25-09-2017

Streight to the point!

Great book for personal development!!!
Love it!
I saw myself in this book, I felt that this book really got me! It was about me!
Very practical and the exercises are very useful.

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  • Rebecca
  • 30-11-2017

Truly eye opening and healing

I’m in recovery from complex PTSD after an event finally triggered me to find out about codependency from a narcissistic mother. This book explains so much about how I have developed and goes into such detail about each developmental stage as you grow up. It goes on to explain what’s involved to heal with many practical meditations outlined. There is so much in here I feel the need to listen again and take notes and also use the exercises. Thank you for providing some really ahaaaa moments especially when it comes to thinking about our calling.

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  • andy 1971
  • 27-12-2015

Enlightening read

This it seems taboo subject is well tacked by Bradshaw. The book covers many elements of shame and will assist the reader who needs greater insights into how such a powerful debilitating emotion can grip ones life. First steps to healing are in understanding.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 28-11-2017

Enlightening

I would highly recommend this book, it explains so clearly the dynamics of families and gives a clear path to untangle our ‘false’ selves, and start to heal and find equanimity.

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  • Rafe Bundy
  • 27-07-2017

A book of wisdom

John Bradshaw'd book is immense in its scope and depth, covering so many angles and facets relating to healthy shame and toxic shame. There is a gem on every page and anyone would benefit from listening to this.

My only comment is John narrates the book at a very fast pace and with little intonation, so I needed to stop/rewind very often to absorb the information.

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  • Matt
  • 20-12-2016

Seriously good and detailed

this book was really good it outlines key principles around shame toxic shame and various methods and lots of research on how to heal. I would definitely recommend this to anyone who has a terrible past and wishes to move forward.

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  • Abbi A.G
  • 24-07-2019

Too much reference to the bible/faith.

Preaching to the point it becomes annoying. Almost as if he is using “toxic shame” on the readers that don’t follow his path to healing. If Spirituality means only the bible to you, you might find the book interesting. Otherwise don’t waste your time on this book.
I got the book after reading all the good reviews. I wish I checked the 1 star reviews.

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