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When a relationship with a narcissist ends, the caretaking partner is often left confused, deeply hurt, and often still emotionally connected, while the narcissist seems to easily move on to the next relationship. Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship offers guidance about what to expect as the relationship unravels and how to cope with the fallout. It also helps the reader learn to truly disengage and move through the grief process.

Presenting techniques for healing and rebuilding self-esteem and self-confidence, this book offers a guide to developing emotional strength and encourages forgiveness and reconciliation with the past. It shows the reader how to increase emotional self-protections, quit caretaking in relationships, and become more independent and self-loving. Using real stories, Margalis Fjelstad offers a process of healing that can direct the reader away from former patterns of inequitable relationships and toward loving, caring connections that can truly grow healthfully and flourish. It shows that ending a relationship with a narcissist may be the best thing that ever happened.

©2017 Margalis Fjelstad (P)2017 Novel Audio Inc.

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A confirmation to your doubts

This book will put everything into perspective. Why narcissists behave the way they do and why caregivers behave the way they do. With this knowledge you can heal, distance yourself and move forward. Excellent advice.

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Saved my sanity

This book changed my life, I feel free, I feel sane , my pain is gone... it was not my fault, i cant change him, I could not have tried harder, I deserve better.

For the first time my eyes are open and I am free of the misery. He is mentally unwell, I can't save him, but I can save myself.

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BRILLIANT

This is such a great informative, DEFINING, easy listening audio book with great recovery suggestions. HIGHLY RECOMMEND

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fantastic content difficult to listen to

the content of this book was detailed practical and highly useful for a person wanting to rebuild after a Narcisistic relationship
unfortunately the fast reading of the book without appropriate and necessary stops and change of pace when a segment of information waa given meant the listening creared a feeling of anxiety and distress .
in future i will purchase the books in paper back.

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  • megan
  • 16-01-2018

Finally...

Although I’m an intelligent, caring, successful businesswoman, it took years for me to realize what I was dealing with in my abusive marriage. In my post-breakup research I read several books on narcissism to better understand what the h*ll just happened! All of these books were focused on the narcissist (not like that wasn’t how I’d been living as it was...) and I was tired of wasting more time on better understanding him when I needed to better understand me to heal and prevent this from happening again. This book FINALLY addressed how I could’ve fallen prey and what I can do to overcome the damage that was done. Whew... thank you.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 24-05-2017

Good follow up to the first book

I listened to the first book by this author, Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist and it really helped me see what kinda of relationships I tend to get myself stuck in.
My best friend (since childhood) is very hurtful and narcissistic and it's been a struggle to force myself to step back and not "caretake" as the author has put it.
This book is empowering. It's nothing that isn't within common sense, but having someone who has a) gone through the same thing and b) treated multiple caretakers and narcissists just really provides a nice perspective and makes you feel like you can truly take her advice and things might work out.
I'm not 100% finished this book yet, but I already love it!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 03-01-2018

life-changing!

if you are leaving or thinking about leaving or have left a narcissistic relationship, or if you're not even sure if you're in one, you need to read these books. I say these because this is the second one in a series that starts with a book called stop caretaking the borderline or narcissist. Read that first if you haven't left. If you have left, read this. I seriously cannot think of a single thing that helped more than this book. I have listened to it over and over and over again on Audible and it is like it is washing my brain from the years of emotional abuse.

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  • pokethebadger
  • 10-05-2018

This is the ammunition you need

I was in a long-term relationship with one. I didn't know it until I listened to this. Not only are the hallmarks of a narcissist easily and accessibly explained (and it's absolutely alarming how "textbook" it will all seem), but the healing process is mapped out. The tools you'll receive from this book are necessary—not just to reclaim your sanity, but your sense of self.

The lack of intimacy, the push/pull, the devaluing, and inevitable discarding. It was all here, but there is so much more. This book invites you to find your own instincts again, to love yourself for who you are, to celebrate your value and to respect yourself. It helps you understand the external barrage from the narcissist, helps you evaluate your own obsessive thoughts and panic reactions, and turns your focus to something much more essential and worthy (and something you've forgotten in all of this)—you.

I'm very early in the process, and I'm still a ball of fear, anxiety, and pain. But now I have hope that I can draw my own boundaries, trust my own gut, be my own caretaker, and find the other side.

Please give this book a chance. You deserve it.

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  • Carol
  • 23-06-2018

took way too long to get to the healing part.

narrator great. substance not so great. i expected less about the horrors of narcissistic abuse and more about healing. as in a book about healing. as in the title. people who want to relive the soul and spirit and life crushing experience of narcissistic abuse will like most of this book. i wanted it all to be about healing. otherwise, just another trigger, but to each his or her own. i see the rehashing as inhibiting healing and recovery and keeping you stuck. no thanks. i returned the book.

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  • D
  • 08-09-2017

Great explanation

This author explains experiences a person could expect when dealing with or living with a Narcissist. Understanding that you are not to blame should set you free.

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  • Philly Gurl
  • 16-04-2018

Life Safing Book!!

I absolutely loved this book. It was so very helpful with helping me to deal with the recent break up of a marriage of only 6 months with a narcissist. Each chapter amazed me more snd more at how it spoke exactly to the details of how "he" was and the things I went through with him. I'm still amazed at all the details. I NEVER would have placed "him" in the category of a narcissist but I'm so glad I havr a name for it now! Makes me feel so much better that it wasn't my fault and no matter how hard I tried, and Lord knows I tried with everything I had, it would not have worked. He would have eventually left anyway.. This book helped me so much with the guilt of being a "caretaker." It even helped me understand myself as a "caretaker" which I've been all my life. I have shared details of this book with everyone I possibly can. I'm about to listen to it again and sure many more times over the years. I'm still amazed that there is an actual name to "HIS" madness. I only wish the author was closer to me for personal counseling. Again, thank you so much for writing this book and bringing it to Audible!! I'm on my way towards a better, promising future!! Blessings

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  • Jamie Marie Brandau
  • 17-02-2019

A helpful way to intentify and rationalize them

I am so glad this title caught my eye because it has been so helpful in interpreting and understanding this behavioral trait in a lot of individuals that operate around the world. If you are searching for answers and don't want to give up hope just want to fix the problem you must be able to understand the full scope of what this behavior exhibits so you can rationalize staying or trying to manage this environment. If you don't want to feel like the bad guy but know there's something really wrong about the way your being treated that you try to believe that there's something your doing to provoke this toxic treatment.

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  • Prissy916
  • 01-07-2019

Self reflection book

Great book, its more of a self reflection book, and techniques on how to move forward!

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  • Yelena B.
  • 20-05-2018

Great book!

The information in this book should be thaught in schools to educate everyone about this damaging personalities. No relationship can ever be satisfying wuth a narcissist. Learn the red flags

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  • Amal Mosawi
  • 01-07-2018

great if you were dumped by a narcissist

good read. but if you gathered your strength and walked out on the narcissist.. this book is not for

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  • Shannon
  • 25-11-2020

Amazing

This book has been my absolute saviour after coming out of an extremely toxic and narcissistic relationship. It breaks every down and helps you make sense of everything and see things from an entirely different prospective. It gives you tasks and so much guidance on how to move forward with your life and regain self confidence and empowerment whatever your current situation. I have learnt so much about myself and I am so grateful to of found this audible.

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  • Brian Leslie
  • 05-05-2021

Good book!

Good book, with lots of good insights. However I struggled at times with the author's continued use of the term "him/he/his" when referring to the narcassist. Narcissist personality disorder is not gender specific and I although the author understands this, she at times allowed her dealings with narcissist to override what she was saying.

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  • Sherry
  • 11-03-2021

Great help

Very Good listen. Enjoyed it.
Found it hard to listen, as it rung so true.

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  • Chez
  • 30-11-2020

Thank you for this

This audiobook has changed my life for the better. confirmed my suspicions and have the information to make my decision.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-03-2019

hard to listen

was not a fan of the speaker found it hard to listen to rhe same tone all the time

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  • Daniel
  • 08-08-2019

it uses the term "him" constantly, unrelatable.

it uses the term him contasntly which made the book completely unrelatable in my situation. would give less starts if I could. This book also seemed really negative as far as I got without any positive response to even it out, couldn't get far enough to give it a longer chance because of these two reasons

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