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Publisher's Summary

Do you know this person?

  • He eats cereal out of a large mixing bowl.
  • Her bedroom looks like a garbage dump... on a good day.
  • If there were an Academy Award for eye-rolling, he’d win.
  • She changes outfits three times before breakfast...

Congratulations! You have a teenager in your home. Life will never quite be the same again (of course, you already know that). But it can be better than you’ve ever dreamed. In fact, you’re just five days away from your teenager asking, “What can I do to help?” Guaranteed! With his signature wit and commonsense psychology, internationally recognized family expert and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Kevin Leman will help you:

  • gain respect - even admiration - from your teenager
  • establish healthy boundaries and workable guidelines
  • communicate with the “whatever” generation
  • turn selfish behavior around
  • navigate the critical years with confidence
  • pack your teenager’s bags with what he or she needs for life now and in the future
  • become the major difference-maker in your teenager’s life.

With Dr. Leman’s instinct and insight, plus an index with gutsy advice on 75 hot-button issues that keep parents up at night, Have a New Teenager by Friday will help you get real results - real fast.

©2011 Kevin Leman (P)2011 Oasis Audio

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Preachy, sexist, homophobic archaic views

Couldn’t stick with this one. Agree with another reviewer - this may be applicable in a back water, god fearing, smallsville but does not align with the real world.
‘Get a significant male in your daughters life to educate them in what men think like’ , to ensure they dress appropriately! How about ‘educate your boys to understand that women (like men) can wear whatever the hell they like’!
Women are portrayed as weak, stupid, and vindictive. The concept of sex before marriage unacceptable, and by default, non-Heterosexual relationships don’t exist.

Welcome to the 21st century, Dr Leman.

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Best advice

This audio book is great. Something work straight away and others take time. Be patient.

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Straightforward information

Easy to listen to, factual and tomthe point. No fluff in this book. Very reasurring that my teenager is normal and I am not alone!

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  • Paul O
  • 06-08-2018

Practical Advice That Actually Works

We have a 15 year old boy who has been giving my wife and I quite a challenge. He's been openly defiant and having tantrums that were getting out of control.

Have a New Teenager by Friday was just what I needed to hear. My wife and I both listened and we quickly could see that our strongarm tactics weren't working for many reasons. We changed our approach drastically by removing a lot of the limits that we had previously on his cell phone, video games, and his chore list. These steps were big steps forward in improving his trust level with us.

But the biggest improvement was seen when we both stopped engaging him in arguments. In the past it was like arguing with an alien--because he didn't make any sense and we were trying to point out all the holes in his argument. It just escalated and it didn't ever result in a good solution.

Dr. Leman's advice to stop arguing, just remove yourself from the situation is genius. We've found that after our son calms down we can actually have a real discussion and move forward. He doesn't have animosity, just a logical brain again. It's made it much harder for blow-ups to get out of hand.

This is a very good book and it has improved things around our house greatly.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 13-02-2020

advice seems ok if you get passed author's issues

Don't bother to read this if you can't stand religious based sexism and homophobic stances. I had to stop a few chapters in because of the author's stance of hate.

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  • DJ
  • 12-04-2019

This book has changed me & my teen!

To be honest, I needed this book to acknowledge my poor parenting strategies and go to’s. I have shifted my approach and have seen great change in my kid because I am choosing to do the hard work and change myself first. I grew up without examples of healthy parenting so I am learning how to be the strong, loving parent that is not an authoritarian and is breathing life into my kids vs them filling my sails with the wind of anger. It’s hard but good! I just wish I started far sooner, but better late than never.

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  • Jacqueline
  • 20-11-2012

Great Help For Desperate Parents

If you could sum up Have a New Teenager by Friday in three words, what would they be?

Respond don't react!

What other book might you compare Have a New Teenager by Friday to and why?

The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers by Gary Chapman. Both books remind parents that our teens are going through many changes and we should be there to "guide" them to adulthood, not "dictate" them to it. Both books are Christian based without being "preachy".

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

"Purposive behavior" - what is it my teen wants to accomplish from her behavior?

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  • Stephanie
  • 25-03-2013

Listen with a Critical Mind

This book is okay. I've read many parenting books and there's little here that's good that I haven't heard before...but some of what's on here is just...not good.

Example: The writer portrays a parenting scenario of a child being disrespectful to her mother on a Saturday morning. The parent does nothing, keeping a cool head and ignoring the teen. Saturday evening when the teen asks for mom's car keys, mom has made sure to have them in her pocket, and says "no." "But why," the girl inquires? "Because I didn't like being disrespected this morning," the parent replies.

This is supposed to be an example of an effective deterrent...waiting 9 hours to stick it to a kid is not likely to improve their relationship, or teach self-control or respect, in my opinion. And there are a number of similar suggestions that I might find laughable in a parenting book, if it wasn't all so disappointing.

Then there's the fact that the author mentions your child may need to be moved to a different school or even a different city for any changes to work with him/her...so much for having a new teen by Friday.

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  • Chris McCain
  • 22-01-2021

Not Scientific and Largely Inaccurate

Science: social media leads to anxiety in adolescents; birth order doesn’t determine personality; abstinence only education doesn’t work, cohorts have a greater influence on teens than parents. Author: social media is innocuous, birth order determines personality, abstinence only is what you should teach, you have more influence than your child's friends. The author seems oblivious of solid research out there even I am aware of that shoot down his trite parenting clichés. This book has some decent advice which I appreciated, but it was mostly gender stereotypes and religious nonsense. Far from scientific studies that can help you guide your children. The author seems out of touch with the latest research on the subject and gives flagrantly incorrect advice. I guess it is fitting that he constantly refers to what a bad student he was.

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  • Ingrid
  • 01-02-2017

Narcissistic overly-christian pandering drivel

All about selling his other books and saying his own name. I couldn't get past chapter 12. It just kept getting more self absorbed and more about his religion. a typical sentence included his name, a bible quite, and a recommendation to buy a book. In other words, I'm a Dr and smarter than you so God and I decided you should give me more of your money.

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  • traci buller
  • 28-04-2016

Wonderful resource!

My boys are 14, 12, and 10 years old. This book has suggestions that I have used for all three boys, and they have worked! My only regret is that I didn't know about Kevin Leman years ago. I cannot wait to start the birth order book next!

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  • Suzy Oreb
  • 26-02-2016

A book every parent with a teen should have!

Fantastic
I was able to listen to this book while I was doing my daily chores. The only reason why the formants didn't get a five from me was the recording was a bit robotic. Otherwise the narator did a great job telling the story.

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  • M Wesley
  • 20-05-2012

Are you Kidding?

Is there anything you would change about this book?

While I like Dr. Leman, the title and premise of this book is ridiculous, unethical and dishonest. You cannot change anyone, including yourself and especially your teenager within 5 days. Dr. Leman states that parents hold all the cards to change the teen. This is not true. While parents hold significant influence, parents are not the only variables in the lives of teenagers.
Some good practical advice but often simplistic answers. Again, I like Dr. Leman as a person and therapist, but parents should not believe this is all that needs to happen for significant change to occur. Beware of parental guilt if things do not work out by Friday afternoon.
Dr. W.

What does Kirby Heybourne bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Well read.

Do you think Have a New Teenager by Friday needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

No.

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  • S
  • 07-12-2012

Have a new teenager by Friday ....I. Wish!

Easy to listen too and entertaining .some things difficult verges on homophobia

So loses credibility .my teenager got worse !

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  • Anon
  • 08-09-2019

Some helpful ideas

This book has given me some helpful ideas, although it’s out of date and very conservative and very American, dealing a lot with driving. I found the frequent referral to his own kid’s patronising and irritating.

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  • Aleksandra
  • 13-09-2017

Useful and practical advices for patents with teen

I listened it in 2 days and completely love the content covered. Very well explained every day situations parents face , with advises that bring solution to different issues in teens upbringing.

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  • joanjava
  • 10-07-2016

Just. No.

Love your kid; use your common sense. Realistic scenarios with unrealistic outcomes. This book is not to be confused with James Lehman's views on more effective parenting for parents of difficult teenagers.

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