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A courageous account of one woman's unflinching and ultimately hopeful journey through sex and porn addiction.

A fixation on porn and orgasm, strings of failed relationships and serial hook-ups with strangers, inevitable blackouts to blunt the shame - these are not things we often hear women share publicly, and not with the candor, eloquence and introspection Erica Garza brings to Getting Off.

What sets this courageous and riveting account apart from your typical misery memoir is the absence of any precipitating trauma beyond the garden variety of hurt we've all had to endure in simply becoming a person - reckoning with family, learning to be social, integrating what it means to be sexual. Whatever tenor of violence or abuse Erica's life took on through her behavior was of her own making, fueled by fear, guilt, self-loathing, self-pity, loneliness, and the hopelessness those feelings brought on as she runs from one side of the world to the other in an effort to break her habits - from East Los Angeles to Hawaii and Southeast Asia, through the brothels of Bangkok and the yoga studios of Bali to disappointing stabs at therapy and 12-steps back home.

In this remarkable audiobook, Garza draws an evocative, studied portrait of the anxiety that fuels her obsessions as well as the exhilaration and hope she begins to feel when she suspects she might be free of them. And yet there is no false or prepackaged sense of redemption here. Even her relationship with the man she will ultimately marry seems credibly, painfully rocky as it finds its legs with several false starts. Erica's increasing sense of self-acceptance and peace by journey's end feels utterly earned and absent of recovery platitudes.

In exploring the cultural taboos surrounding sex and porn from a female perspective, Garza offers a brave and necessary voice to our evolving conversations about addiction and the impact that Internet culture has had on us all.

©2018 Erica Garza (P)2018 Simon & Schuster

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  • PMC
  • 08-07-2018

Incredible Book

As a writer, I like to tell myself that I don't have a filter and don't care what anyone thinks about the words I write and the stories I share. After reading Garza's tale, I realize I am nowhere near achieving the level of bravery and IDGAF that Garza obviously has mastered. Her tale is unique to hers, as all of ours our, but somehow, even without having been through any of Garza's experiences, I completely related to her feelings. The self-doubt. The belief that we're not good enough no matter what. The need to be loved. The automatic tendency to stay as far as effing possible from those who would love us as we truly deserve. Convincing ourselves that we've turned ourselves around and just know that *this* time, we won't let ourselves go back to the darkest places we've been - we're stronger now. Finding ourselves back in those dark places without really knowing how we fell back down there, and resigning ourselves to the fact that this who we are. Then finally realizing it's not us we need to change, because it's us we need to accept, imperfections and all.
Garza takes the reader on a story that is sometimes hard to hear, sometimes harder to believe, and sometimes even more shocking to think she put her name and face on it. The narration is spot on, makes it easier for the reader to listen to what we may shy away from reading.
I walked away from Getting Off with an incredible respect for Garza. Her story is a powerful one that took a very brave woman indeed to share with the world, and I am so glad she did.

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  • Brady Fehr
  • 27-01-2018

Fascinating venture into the mid of a highly sexual woman

I found this book to be very honest, raw, and very interesting. Extremely well written and superbly narrated. As a man who has crossed path’s with women like Erica this really helped explain much. Women are complicated so every time I read a book or meet a woman with such astounding honesty and insight I learn and understand more (last one was “Wild”). Despite the title this book this isn’t a series of graphic descriptions about raunchy sex, if that’s what you’re looking for then skip it. In my opinion this book is about the need to balance sexuality, whether you’re a man or a woman, the porn addition is just one part of the whole picture. I look forward to reading more from Erica, and not just about sex. She’s clearly very intelligent and I’m sure she’ll use that talent writing about all types of subjects.

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  • Dankster
  • 08-04-2019

A very intimate read

A very helpful look into someone who had suffered from sexual addiction. This book has helped me in understanding my own personal journey. :)

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  • Winton D Jones
  • 09-03-2019

...very forthright.

She is unflinchingly honest in talking about her insecurities and how she used sex to self-medicate along with alcohol.We are all flawed creatures,and are all seeking some type of redemption or peace.That is what she writes about.She describes her exhausting masturbation sessions; and using pornography and cumming to dose any relationships that she encountered or developed.

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  • Casey
  • 12-09-2018

Good book

I loved this book. It was so well written. It was also very well performed.

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  • Bernadette Banda
  • 01-05-2018

Finished it in two days

I found I could have been the one in this book. I no longer feel weird; thank you for bringing to light this unspeakable addiction

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  • Matthew Eckstein
  • 15-11-2020

Great listen for men & women

Amazing story with such honesty about the author's feelings which led to her ultimately to write this story. will recommend to many!!!

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  • Ifaré Nass
  • 12-02-2020

Interesting read

This was a very interesting story but I really struggled to finish it because it sounded so repetitive. Maybe it wasn't fully for me

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  • Stephen
  • 17-11-2019

Helpful

Our background demographics hardly lineup at all but Ericas story I think has enough universality that anybody who has dealt with some form of addiction can find a piece of this to relate to.
I wanted to read about sexual addiction and I got exactly what I was looking for.

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  • Britt
  • 06-10-2019

For the girl who needs to meet her inner woman

A very insightful book about a very real problem in our society. Men and women alike are faced with sexuality and pornography as a means of self identity. Erica Garza speaks about her truest experiences which can allow us to shed a light on our society. Today we face a constant stream of desensitization of sex, easily seeping into everything we do. Thus a sex addiciton can be born. Read this book but not with the gleam as someone may read getting to hear how someone gets off and their promiscuousity, instead as someone needing help from themselves. We are our own worst enemies in instances like this, and it is affecting young women everyday. It takes a strong and true desire to find the woman or man inside insearch of creating a healthy balance of sex and love. Thank you for sharing this taboo conversation of female sex addiction, as a means for normalcy so we can have the conversation.

The way that Erica shares and exposes her rawest self with a lack of checking in on herself sheds light on the unhealthy behavior patterns created, and the grasp it can have on your soul; Bringing you down and never letting you reach your truest potential, like with any true addiction. When you face her demons with her in this book it becomes a book of healing and confronting the demons that lies in this seemingly "cool" addiction.

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  • Louise arnold
  • 09-06-2021

wow

I was hooked from the start it was like you was reading my story so much truth honest and hope

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 14-01-2019

Far more than a book about sex

Much better than first impressions. A book about insight into destructive patterns of behavior and the journey to a more thoughtful relationship with yourself.

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  • s
  • 22-06-2018

A self obsessed weirdo

This weirdo doesn’t have any way to fix her as she is just an insecure white worshipping person who has a severe ingrained inferiority complex about being non white.

Just got bored of the endless stories of her shagging around and in the end she just learns to keep shagging around but not feel ashamed about it.

I didn’t know how insecurity can be linked to promiscuity . All you Can take away from this book is that if someone treats you like shit. They are a pile of shit themselves and there is no point beating yourself up about it. They don’t respect themselves and the don’t respect others.

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