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Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

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Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences. 

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 16-02-2020

I finally found the book that helped after 20+ yrs

Omgosh, for 20+ years - even though I've read what seems like every personal development book out there - this is the first book that described my life to a T, made me finally see why I am the way I am and why I've done/do the things I do. This book is the biggest relief when I thought I'd never figure out what was wrong with me and is now the #1 book I'll recommend to ANYONE with issues because codependence is probably the underlying reason. Excellent! 👏👏

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  • Gina J.
  • 15-07-2020

Have not finished

Oh my goodness. The narration is horrible!! Sounds like a robot.. I am not going to be able to finish it on Audible... I am going to have to read it my self I guess. Should have tried the sample first😩

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  • Everett C Alexander
  • 05-05-2020

Excellent resource

As a mental Health therapist, I have found this to be an excellent resource that I have shared with my clients

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  • Hailey Hartley
  • 09-04-2020

Did not like the monotone narrator

I really enjoyed the overall content of this book, but I found the narrator to be very monotone and it made listening agonizing at times.

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  • Heather
  • 14-11-2019

Very informative

Very informative and well written. Great book. Highly recommended. Would be better with a female narrator.

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  • Guille
  • 04-11-2019

The Best for Codependency

Pia is the only one who’s been able to understand these disese sistematically and in a comprehensive way. Her approach is derived from a relational point of view and I have not found such a vision in the chemical field. It’s the only text to understand these complex and almost umposible fenomenon, but Pia us really a genius. My recovery comes from her acute observarions.

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  • Layla🦋
  • 14-10-2020

No advice on how to recover

So this book basically only defines the disorder and what caused it but little to no recommendations on how to recover from it!

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  • Debij
  • 24-09-2020

Such great info if you can get past the narration

I read the reviews on the lousy narration of the book but thought it couldn’t be that bad and I’d try it anyway.. Dang it I’m sorry sir but it WAS that bad! So monotone and robotic that I almost returned the book. If you can hang in for the first 3-4 chapters, the information is great. I too wish a female has narrated it.

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  • N. Murphy
  • 22-08-2020

A confronting read

I came to this book thanks to a podcast by Tim Ferris where his guest and friend Neil Strauss recommended this book among others. I found it illuminating and disturbing. Although the case studies and examples that author Pia Mellody cites are often extreme examples, I found myself reflecting profoundly upon my own behaviour and that of my own family. Milder and perhaps more socially acceptable aspects of this disease ( as Pia calls it) seem to be apparent everywhere. It has stimulated my desire to learn more and I compliment Pia and her team on describing the symptoms and behaviour of Codependence so specifically. Perhaps the extremity of some examples can hinder recognising how Codependence may play a lesser role in some of our relationships. I found myself saying a lot “that’s not me! I’d never do that.” Only to moments later say “gosh I do that!” I think this book is of enormous value to parents who may be floundering a bit as well. Many of the examples of mature parenting for guiding the growth and development of children were gems to me. We get very distracted in this modern world.

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  • Jess
  • 16-07-2020

Challenged my "reading" comprehension...

Though I agree that the narrator's performance was a bit off (he somehow managed to sound energetic and passionless at the same time. Also: "BOLTH"), the information was delivered in such a clinical and condensed way that it was difficult to relate to at times. I also feel that the Author's own limited and dated views on certain things was a bit distracting, because I had to try to see the information through the lense of her worldview and try to make applicable from a broader perspective. A few examples: She mentioned some gender stuff that had me rolling my eyes, especially on roles. The whole higher power thing definitely lacked a lot of explanation--I can't tell if she thinks anyone who doesn't believe in God is automatically broken by abuse, or if her own identity and progress are so entwined in her belief in a God that any beliefs outside of that just don't fall into her scope. It's important because I had to try to squeeze meaning out of much of her talk of spirituality. I am certain it will take another pass to really process the breadth of the information here, but I know I'm not going to have it in me anytime soon. I got a lot of valuable information from it, I'm just not used to having to work so hard to understand what the author is trying to explain.

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  • Amanda
  • 04-07-2020

outdated, but still helpful

this book is very oriented to cis heterosexuals, with only binary gender concepts. however, the concepts are still generally applicable, it seems.

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  • Neil S
  • 07-05-2020

Excellent introduction into Codepence

Loved it so going to listen again and also been to a CoDA meeting in between.

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  • Ruth Bennett
  • 23-11-2019

Enlightening

The content can be hard hitting and at times upsetting - just to warn people however it made me really take note of my codependency and take steps. My only critique, which is subjective is that I found the narrators voice monotonous and often switched off and had to rewind. Other than that I thank you!