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Don't Bite the Hook

Finding Freedom from Anger, Resentment, and Other Destructive Emotions
Narrated by: Pema Chödrön
Length: 3 hrs and 2 mins
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Life has a way of provoking us with traffic jams and computer malfunctions, with emotionally distant partners and crying children - and before we know it, we're upset. We feel terrible, and then we end up saying and doing things that only make matters worse. But it doesn't have to be that way, says Pema Chödrön. It is possible to relate constructively to the inevitable shocks, losses, and frustrations of life so that we can find true happiness. The key, Pema explains, is not biting the "hook" of our habitual responses. In this recorded weekend retreat, Pema draws on Buddhist teachings from The Way of the Bodhisattva to reveal how we can:

  • Stay centered in the midst of difficulty
  • Improve stressful relationships
  • Step out of the downward spiral of self-hatred
  • Awaken compassion for ourselves and others

©2018 Pema Chödrön (P)2018 Random House Audio

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Useful for frustration rather than intense anger

This book has some good ideas, but we now know much anger is caused by depression, anxiety, sleep and PTSD this book will not help with complex causes.

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10 stars for Pema Chodron and those involved.

I cannot rate this highly enough, thoroughly enjoyed this and will return to it many times. As well as will recommend it wherever It might be of use. thankyou to all involved in bringing this teaching to us ☺️🌈

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Pema nails it for me every time

Pema Chodron’s wisdom and learnings are so enjoyable to listen to. Always a bit of fun humour in there too :)

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So many inspiring insights

i know that I will definitely come back to this one again. im fact it prompted me to sign up for her online course to investigate the topics mentioned further.

i always resonate with Pema's wisdom which she conveys with humor and passion.

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  • Barbara J
  • 09-12-2018

always inspiring

In a world filled with so many things that can "hook" us, Pema Chodron teaches us how NOT to bite the hook. Very liberating!

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  • Tawanda
  • 22-04-2018

Owner's manual for being human

Reading this book was like finding my Owner's manual for being human. It reminds us all how alike we are and how we can ease our own suffering as well as that of others.

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  • Kimm Harris
  • 23-05-2018

Always learning from Pema

No matter how many times I listen to this book, I learn. Thanks to Pema for making these teachings so much more available to me.

I like that Pema reads her work.

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  • Edie Pier
  • 10-04-2019

Reads well, enlightening, and informative

Reads like a lecture so it is very easy listening. I enjoyed most the question and answer session at the end of the audio. This book provides real answers and real tools that are changing my life.

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  • Sue Gambill-Read
  • 25-08-2018

Pema is my valium

She keeps me from being dark, morose and combative in my life. I can dip into any of her talks and get recentered.

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  • michael demangone
  • 13-02-2020

Vintage Pema!👍🙏

This was quite a treat. As Pema herself led the narrative in a conference style! Where she dissected some Buddhist teachings that I never would’ve understood without her interpretations! She breaks things down too simple and understandable and relatable instruction! Vintage Pema! She has the ability to explain things in such a humanistic and practical way. And she interjects such great humor at the same time! I just love her!

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  • Melissa
  • 11-07-2018

Short but packed with wisdom

I checked this out from the library a few years ago and was happy to find it on audible. I do not have a background in Buddhist thought and that was not a hindrance. I enjoyed Pema Chodron's delivery and her sense of humor shines through.

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  • Frederick Stewart
  • 13-02-2020

It is a nice long Dharma talk

It was a very informative, enlightening Dharma talk. Not an audiobook but still very good.

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  • Sequoya
  • 18-11-2019

Masterful!

Pema is a supreme educator that takes us into a powerful journey...hate and anger are “unmasked” and the need to run away from “them” will vanish. This is 3 hours of pure wisdom for all ages! Prepare yourself to listen to this course hundreds of times.

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  • SD
  • 15-11-2019

Engaging and powerful

Engaging and powerful, the talk gets at the roots of anger and destructive emotions and provides pragmatic guidance based on ancient wisdom

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  • SJRod
  • 18-01-2018

wow... excellent

I really needed this and it covered all the bases. definitely a must listen to again. pema as always in her great style delivers the message

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  • Writer/reader
  • 08-07-2019

Excellent life guidance.

We all need help with managing our reactions to everyday situations. This shows that by working with the small stuff we can train in our ability to be resilient when the big stuff happens.

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  • Marija
  • 02-04-2018

So happy to have it in my library!

I'm in awe with Pema Chodron's ease of explaining concepts and her humour. I have a feeling it's one of those multi-layer books that you get back to over and over always with new understanding of what was mentioned.

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  • Yoshay
  • 20-02-2018

Helpful

Insightful and great explanation to Shantideva's teachings. Wonderful guidance on how to work with anger and other negative emotions

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-09-2019

Amazing, truly wonderful listen. so wise, so funny

This is a great production of Pena Chodron take on Anger and suffering. Funny Wise

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  • GERALDINE BLAKE
  • 19-08-2019

Excellent book

I loved this book. Pema Chodrun has a lovely voice. She is calm, practical and makes Buddhism easy
to apply. My favourite is her ‘ two minute ‘ recommendation!!

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