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Differently Wired

Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World
Narrated by: Deborah Reber
Length: 8 hrs and 19 mins
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Today millions of kids are stuck in a world that doesn't respect, support, or embrace who they really are - these are what Deborah Reber is calling the “differently wired” kids, the one in five children with ADHD, dyslexia, Asperger’s, giftedness, anxiety, sensory processing disorder, and other neurodifferences. Their challenges are many. But for the parents who love them, the challenges are just as hard - struggling to find the right school, the right therapist, the right parenting group while feeling isolated and harboring endless internal doubts about what’s normal, what’s not, and how to handle it all.     

But now there’s hope. Written by Deborah Reber, a best-selling author and mother in the midst of an eye-opening journey with her son who is twice exceptional (he has ADHD, Asperger’s, and is highly gifted), Differently Wired is a how-to, a manifesto, a book of wise advice, and the best kind of been-there, done-that companion.     

On the one hand it’s a book of saying NO, and how it’s time to say no to trying to fit your round-peg kid into society’s square holes, no to educational and social systems that don’t respect your child, no to the anxiety and fear that keep parents stuck. And then it’s a book of YES. By offering 18 paradigm shifts - what she calls “tilts” - Reber shows how to change everything. How to “Get Out of Isolation and Connect.” “Stop Fighting Who Your Child Is and Lean In.” “Let Go of What Others Think.” “Create a World Where Your Child Can Feel Secure.” “Find Your People (and Ditch the Rest).” “Help Your Kids Embrace Self-Discovery.” And through these alternative ways of being, discover how to stay open, pay attention, and become an exceptional parent to your exceptional child.

©2018 Deborah Reber (P)2018 Audible, Inc.

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And then this book came my way...

I loved this.
Spoke to everything I wanted - no, needed - to hear about what it means to have a brain that works uniquely. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to understand and tune in to the world of a child born spectacular. Attitude is everything. Loved this book.

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  • LCP
  • 21-12-2018

Most amazing parenting book I've read.

Parenting, especially parenting children who are differently wired, doesn't come with an instruction manual ... until now. This book won't solve every parenting dilemma, of course, but it will give you a solid place to start your journey with your differently wired child. Debbie provides SO many resources and tips in this book, but, more importantly, she gives parents the peace of mind that they are NOT alone on this wild and wonderful adventure. Moreover, she paves the path for EMBRACING neurodiversity. I wholeheartedly recommend this book to EVERY parent, teacher, coach ... basically anyone who ever interacts with kids.

I also LOVE that the author read her own book ... I so appreciate hearing the author's story in her own voice!

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  • Jolene R.
  • 05-11-2019

Great book!

I really enjoyed this book. It was recommended on a blog where I was reading tips on helping my child to focus at school. This book is a great resource. It really helped me with my perception of what could be going on with my son. I really enjoyed the more positive viewpoints when we are so used to hearing all the negative talk. this gives me hope and possibility. I am excited to continue learning in this direction.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 25-02-2019

Inspirational

I related so much to Deborah and Asher' s story and found so much inspiration in knowing that tilting my perspective as a parent and leaning in, we could find the right path for our differently wired girl. I highly recommend this book to any parents who are struggling to find the right path for their differently wired child.

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  • Trudy Owens
  • 01-01-2019

very well thought out but not for everyone

I came to this book hoping to learn how to better reach, teach, understand, and provide for my neurologically different students. This is not that book. This book IS for parents of the neurologically diverse.

I had to give up the book after several hours because the first half or more is a laundry list of the problems facing these parents. This was somewhat eye-opening for me, so that was good. Not until much later does Reber get into the solutions, which seem to be to organize, educate (yourself and others), advocate and be an activist, but you're still on your own. This may be true, but it was depressing for me (and probably is for these parents too) and ultimately not what I was looking for. I do not know how much help this book would actually be for parents of these diverse kids.

It seemed to me that Reber is trying to promote the concept that these increasingly numerous neurological differences (1 in 5 kids) are actually a step forward on the evolutionary path. I accept the possibility, but something in the presentation rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe I am just the type she has to fight so hard against, I don't know.

I am a strong proponent of authors never reading their own material. Reber missed some points of emphasis that another reader might have made, but she does pretty well almost all the time. My biggest gripe may sound petty, but if she hopes to get into public speaking as part of her advocacy, she needs to ditch the voice affectation called glottal, or vocal, fry. This is that unnatural creaky, lowest tone your voice can make that came into fashion among young women more than 10 years ago. Some researchers suggest that this is done to add weight to the words by giving them a man's voice. I don't know if that is true, but I do know that a woman with a message doesn't need a man's voice. This unnatural voice usage usually shows up at the ends of sentences but Reber starts in with it after just a word or two. The more I listened to the book, the more annoying it became.

To sum up, if you are parenting an exceptional child, you might find this book supportive of your struggle, but it is hard to get through if you are not that invested in the topic.

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  • A.L.K.
  • 19-06-2020

Incredibly helpful for all kinds of neurodiversity

I'll admit this book sat in my library for many, many months before I finally tackled it, but I am so very glad that I did. At some point I had gotten the idea that maybe the focus was on twice exceptional, "2E," kids. I am happy to report this is not at all the case, despite the author's son's 2E status. As a mom of two autistic kids (and one tbd) with many varied abilities, but a lot of academic and other struggles, I still found the advice and perspective shifts immensely helpful. At the same time as my middle child's "ASD level 3" diagnosis, I was also diagnosed with "level 1" autism (formerly Asperger's), and I anticipate using many of the strategies in my own life as well as my kids'. Truly cannot recommend this listen highly enough. This is my first time writing a review, it's so good!!

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  • Mama Yogi
  • 14-10-2019

Inspirational and encouraging

The author does a wonderful job of advocating for our children and families by helping us to feel more deeply connected to those who are living life differently wired or raising someone who is. Her experience comes from being a mother who is raising a twice exceptional child, so she REALLY is relatable and has a very approachable language. I found this deeply inspiring and motivational. Lots of joyful tears while listening to this book while walking and starting my day.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-09-2019

enjoyed and took notes

thank you! this was a great listen and I took some good notes and got inspiration to stick up for my 6 year old gifted child even though it's not the "nice" thing to do to stop being passive and fight for his success in the classroom. I am arming myself w the knowledge to help him find success and stop being punished for his boredom. I may start a FB page for gifted parents, or hopefully will find one.

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  • 28-05-2019

Excellent and inspiring

A great book filled with wisdom and practical advice. I could relate to the author’s experience with her child with that of my own two differently wired sons.

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  • 13-04-2019

great read for parents of not so typical kids

An uplifting and encouraging read for parents of "differently wired" kids (ADHD, ASD, gifted, 2e, LD, anxiety, depression, etc.). As a psychologist who works with differently wired kids, I found this to be a gentle guide for parents toward accepting, understanding, and supporting their children, as well as an opportunity to realize they are not alone.

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  • Clau M.W.
  • 25-03-2019

Inspiring and Contagious

Loved it! Deborah's passion is inspiring and contagious. The author gives a different perspective on parenting uniquely wired children. Allowed me to reflect and take action. A must book to read or listen.

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  • 11-12-2019

Very interesting

Very interesting and informative listen, even for parents without differently wired children. I enjoyed it a lot.

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  • Miss S Walsh
  • 29-12-2018

This book is a lifeline

If you have a child with SEN (or think you may have) this is a must read. It will restore your sanity. And calling all teachers and parents of ‘typicals’ -please read this too. With this book, along with Deborah Reber’s podcasts, you’ll have a mentor and friend with you all the way to give you advice point you in the right direction. Thank you Debbie, you are a star.