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  • A Neurodivergent's Guide to Embracing Your True Self and Finding Your Happily Ever After
  • By: Chloé Hayden
  • Narrated by: Chloé Hayden
  • Length: 7 hrs and 2 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (427 ratings)

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Different, Not Less

By: Chloé Hayden
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A neurodivergent's guide to embracing your true self and finding your happily ever after.

Growing up, Chloé Hayden felt like she'd crash-landed on an alien planet where nothing made sense. Eye contact? Small talk? And why are you people so touch-oriented? She moved between 10 schools in 8 years, struggling to become a person she believed society would accept, and was eventually diagnosed with autism and ADHD. When a life-changing group of allies showed her that different did not mean less, she learned to celebrate her true voice and find her happily ever after.

This is a moving, at times funny story of how it feels to be neurodivergent as well as a practical guide, with advice for living with meltdowns and shutdowns, tips for finding supportive communities and much more.

Whether you're neurodivergent or supporting those who are,  Different, Not Less will inspire you to create a more inclusive world where everyone feels like they belong.

Chloé Hayden is an award-winning actor and disability advocate, motivational speaker and social media influencer whose story of being 'different, not less' has attracted a worldwide following. She stars as Quinni in Heartbreak High, the Netflix remake of the iconic Australian series.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2022 Chloé Hayden (P)2022 Audible Australia Pty Ltd.

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Hi Chloe :))

Thank you so much for the wonderful book it has helped me more than ever with my autism thanks again from Maddie:)) ps…I love the lion king

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INCREDIBLE 🙌🏼

Having an Autistic Daughter this book was EVERYTHING!!!
Chloe you are such an inspiration to our future generations of neurodivergent children!
Thank you so much for this incredible insight into your live!
I’m recommending this book to everyone I know to educate & built acceptance in our community.
Keep being YOU ! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!!

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Love this book

Love this book, thank you for writing it. made me realize I'm not alone. Great read

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A must read for neurodiverse folk

This really is a must read for any one who is neurodivergent or is a ‘side kick’ / support to someone who is. This raw and beautiful book provides comfort and validation to my everyday struggles. The way it’s written and narrated feels like Chloe is your personal cheer squad. Beautiful book, a must read!

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amazing

i love that it was written and narrated by chloe hayden. i really related to the book and thoroughly enjoyed it. i hope people take something away from it like i did.

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Loved it

In sharing her experience, Chloe not only provides suggestions for neurodivergent folk on how to live their best life but she also helps those around the neurodivergent folk to see life from a different perspective. Thank you for being you Chloe!

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Sensational

An absolutely phenomenal book by an amazing pioneer and advocate. You certainly will not regret reading this.

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Essential listening

This is a must read for n.divergent audiences of all ages as well as their friends and loved ones

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A rollercoaster of emotions

Such a beautiful story about strength. I learned a lot with this read, but related a lot to that made me feel like everything is going to be okay. I am weird, but, I am not alone.

Such beautiful narration, I could feel the emotions behind the words. I laughed, cried and felt such powerful emotions from her.

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Loved loved loved this book

This book made me feel so seen, made me cry, made me feel so many emotions! I’m on my journey I knew I have been different I have 2 kids on the spectrum but I have only been questioning myself in the past 6 months I resinate with this book so much! Thank you so much for writing it and sharing your story and knowledge!

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  • MackenzieHughes
  • 10-03-2023

Life changing

Chloe is such a sweet and important voice in the autism community. Her role in Heart Break high made me feel so represented as an autistic person so when I heard about this book I knew I had to read it.
Her story is so similar to mine and the way she sees our lives as fairy tales helps me to see our challenges in such a more hopeful light.
This book includes so much good advice and relatable stories for autistic people. I highly recommend it

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  • Leigh Benish
  • 10-03-2023

Must Read!

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and I am raising a child with ADHD as well. Neither of us have autism, but so many of the behaviors overlap. This book was fantastic for my personal growth and for helping me raise my kid. You can hear the passion in the author’s voice as she reads. Everyone - neurodivergent and neurotypical - should read this book.

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  • Heather & Jason
  • 06-03-2023

Wonderful book

I loved listening to this. As a mother of a two year old that was just diagnosed, this was such an eye opener. I laughed and cried while listening to this. It was beautifully written!

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  • Rainbow Brite
  • 03-03-2023

Best autistic book ever!!!

As a late diagnosed autistic, I loved this book so much! I’ve been recommending it to everyone I know and I just want to thank you for writing it!

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  • Jonathan Pinela
  • 23-01-2023

Amazing

I absolutely adored this book. I felt like I could really see myself in her words.

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  • Megan
  • 21-01-2023

Love it

Echoes and gives voice to so many of my own experiences and that was really helpful and comforting

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  • Michelle Grondine
  • 19-01-2023

absolutely exquisite autism memoir by an actually autistic stunning writer

i am absolutely in awe of this beautiful audiobook which is memoir / non-fiction and read by the author, chloe hayden, an actually autistic accomplished, knowledgeable, educated young adult sharing her lived experience as an audhd musician, writer, actor, artist, performer, entrepreneur (amongst many other things) in a world that is designed for allistic people. it is such a beautiful listen and read, that covers a variety of neurodivergent identities but obviously centered around chloe’s personal experiences and studies into autism from a young age through now, weaving in writings from the time certain events happened in her life as well as hindsight understanding and interpretation. the book also includes chapters about burn out, work, creativity, friendships, sexual assault, bullying, family dynamics, and relationships—also including a beautiful passage written by her then partner, now fiancé, on their experience as an allistic person in a romantic partnership with and autistic person which i found so loving, tender, stunning, and just a beautiful inclusion on love, communication, and trust and vulnerability in partnership. highly recommend to all people, but especially to anyone who is on the spectrum themselves, loves and cares for anyone on the spectrum, or just wants to educate themselves better on autistic people. love chloe hayden so much and hope she continues to write because i am absolutely in love with her mind and how she writes and expresses herself and the enthusiasm, joy, and beauty she brings into the world. this book existing is such a gift and makes me so happy to be alive in a time where i have the honor and opportunity to read it. 5 stars all around!

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  • Luvpolkadots
  • 06-01-2023

Amazing!

Loved this so much! I’m a newly diagnosed autistic person and will be sending this book to my friends and family! Thank you!

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  • Rhiannon
  • 31-12-2022

So good!

Amazing book! I could listen over and over. Being able to relate and accept myself so much more.

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  • BookAngel_2319
  • 04-12-2022

Brought me to tears!

Thank you so much chloe for this beautiful, honest, and enlightening tale of not only your own life, struggles and victories but for bringing light to all of us out there who have similar struggles and telling us, reminding us that we’re not alone and that being ourselves is 100percent okay and encouraged. Thank you thank you thank you! Whether you dear listener are neurodivergent or know someone who is, please listen to this and spread the love!

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  • Sian Child
  • 27-05-2023

A bit of toxic positivity/privilege

Chloe Hayden has clearly found ways to be happy and successful in her life which is fantastic, but unfortunately this book drifts into toxic positivity. She encourages everyone to be unmasked in their autism and ignores that not all autistic people would be safe doing so (and some have been killed for doing so).
Talking about life as though it's a Disney story and as if everyone will have a 'happy ever after' could be quite harmful to some autistic people, as it just simply isn't true.
I think there's a balance to be struck between helping people see autism as 'different not less' and drifting into implying that life is fair and will somehow work out for autistic people. Unfortunately this book did not find that balance.

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  • Shauna Fennell-Neville
  • 06-03-2023

Amazing!!

I’ve both read the book and listened to this twice…
It’s both informative and I wish this book was available for me to give to my parents after my diagnosis.. it would give them a better picture of what I’m going through

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  • Charlotte
  • 08-01-2023

Might be my new favourite book

This is a brilliant book and I think everyone should read it, not only does Chole share her story in an honest vulnerable way, she gives so much information. I listened to this, originally to see if I could get more information about growing up autistic as my son is in the process of being diagnosed, but I also realised that Chloe faced a lot of the same experiences as I did growing up (undiagnosed) , and has made me feel understood in a way I didn't think I would ever experience. She has such a wonderful way of story telling and I love that her work is accessible and easy to understand. It's such a nice change to read about neurodivergence written by someone who is actually autistic.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 22-10-2023

Brilliantly spoken

This audiobook portrays the experiences of many neurodivergent people (including myself). A must listen for any neurodivergent person or neurotypical who wants to support them.

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  • antoniasaurous
  • 14-07-2023

Overall really interesting

It was really great to relate to the experiences of someone else with autism and have that idea that your brain does just work differently to other people and there were moments I got a bit emotional about it. The thing I kinda struggled with as the disney analogies and it could just be I am an overall fairly cynical person but yeah just struggled with some of the very apparent optimism but that is more of a me issue than maybe of the book. It was the first book I read about any form of neurodiversity since being diagnosed with ASD and ADHD and definitely in a frame of mind that the two are quite disabling together so finding other people who have these diagnoses is really helpful.
The audio aspect was really great and the sound quality was also fab.

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  • Punky
  • 19-11-2023

Just brilliant. Refreshingly open and thought provoking

This is one of those books you want to buy in hard copy too as there were so many beautifully expressed views and thoughts that I’d like to take into my life and work.

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  • L.Howarth
  • 26-08-2023

Enjoyed everything 🙌🏾

Absolutely loved everything about this book, I related to so much of her experience it was hard to hear, but I also found it exciting to know that she had found a way to love life, this brings me hope for my daughter.

Thank you for telling us your journey so far xx

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  • DickWhit
  • 27-07-2023

Chloe Hayden is a world asset: A true humanist.

I wish I learned 40 years earlier what Chloe Hayden teaches. She confirms my recognition that we are unapologetically who we are supposed to be and that we should be motivated by our individualism to benefit mankind.

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  • lynn shanks
  • 11-07-2023

Absolutely Phenomenal!

This book is so so so good. It felt like a warm hug from Olaf. In all honesty it has really helped me to have more courage in myself and understanding too. I have found it so difficult - like many - to find or listen to like minded people and feel that now, I am on a path where I am starting to do just that. Thank you so much Chloe for writing this amazing book and sharing your story. You are a jiminy Cricket. 🤗

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-07-2023

A great autobiographic/self help book by an autistic person for autistic people

Chloe’s storytelling is fabulous and this book is such a must read for anyone entering their journey as a newly discovered autistic person. It is also a fantastic resources for loved ones. If there’s one book you should read, or listen to, in order to understand a neurodivergent friend, colleague or family member, it is this one.

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