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Constructive wallowing seems like an oxymoron. Constructive is a good thing, but wallowing is bad. Right?

But wait a minute; is it really so terrible to give ourselves a time-out to feel our feelings? Or is it possible that wallowing is an act of loving kindness, right when we need it most?

Almost everyone loves the idea of self-compassion. The notion that maybe in spite of our messy emotions and questionable behavior, we really aren’t all that bad. In recent years there’s been an explosion of books that encourage readers to stop beating themselves up for being human, which is terrific. Unfortunately, readers who aren’t interested in Buddhism or meditation have been left out in the cold.

Constructive Wallowing is the first book to cut right to the chase, bypassing descriptions of Eastern philosophy and meditation techniques to teach listeners how to accept and feel their feelings with self-compassion for greater emotional health.

It’s tempting to turn away from menacing, uncomfortable feelings like anger, grief, or regret; however, ignoring them just seems to make them stick around. By learning to accept and embrace, difficult feelings, listeners keep their sense of personal power and gain greater understanding and ultimately esteem for themselves.

©2014 Cleis Press (P)2014 Cleis Press

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In hindsight, I’d rather just read a hard copy

OK but not a great book for “listening to”. The narration itself was clear & friendly enough but WAY too rushed for this kind of information.
Come Chapter 4, I was searching for the speed function to slow the speech & manually pausing on a regular basis, (almost every sentence at one point)- which is fine in itself but, what the heck is wrong with natural pauses here & there? Why must everything be so rushed? It turned into hard work (for me anyhow ‘cos I don’t want to miss anything ‘key’).
This is info you need to absorb & reflect upon or else it just becomes “bambalamblah“.
I’d advise to get yourself a hard copy on this particular book otherwise it’s all too much at once therefore, you end up missing some important points that occasionally crop up.

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  • Max
  • 17-01-2017

A very important read

Where does Constructive Wallowing rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This ranks as one of the best. It's an entertaining and insightful read about the importance of being true to your feelings, no matter what

Who was your favorite character and why?

It's a how-to book. So, I can't say I have favourite character.

What does Kimberly Mintz bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you had only read the book?

She's a good narrator

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Too many moments to choose from.

Any additional comments?

This is one of the most important personal development books you'll ever read

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  • Mamie
  • 18-12-2019

My Kind of Self-Help!

Practical, funny and succinct. Good for those in therapy who want go deeper into feeling work or for those who have worked on “feeling their feelings” for awhile. The author offers clear, solid examples and applies her easy to remember strategy to a variety of issues people must work through in resolving feelings. I enjoyed the narrator’s sense of humor and real person approach to a professional narration.

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  • Allison Aley
  • 04-09-2019

Amazingly clarifying and actionable

This book illuminates and makes accessible the “how” and the “why” of allowing yourself to experience painful feelings and the healing that is possible when that becomes your practice. If you, like me, got good at not consciously feeling problematic feelings (in my case, anger, hurt, defensiveness), this book will teach you how to feel those and other feelings and to develop self-compassion in the process. The concepts are explained well, the exercises are inspiring and doable, and the examples are varied, interesting, and relatable. I appreciated the author’s humor and reassurances. I will wholeheartedly recommend this book frequently to friends and family who are stuck.

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  • QQ
  • 06-08-2018

Great book!

I would highly recommend this book! Great insight into the life cycle of feelings and the importance of allowing yourself to feel your emotions. A bit repetitive about the pros of why you shouldn’t repress your feelings, but ultimately drove home the point.

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