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Most of us have heard of ADHD (Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder), so why is it so common for women not to be diagnosed until they are in midlife? While boys manifest their ADHD in hyperactive behaviors, female sufferers tend to internalize their symptoms, contending with anxiety, depression, demoralization, and self-esteem issues. Because of this, a woman's diagnosis often comes later on, with the realization that she is just not coping with life, work, and relationships as well as she should be. She's not meeting anyone's expectations, certainly not her own. So much has been discovered in the last 10 years about ADHD in girls and women, but a lot of it's still not commonly known. Awareness of your symptoms is the key to change, and it all begins with self-awareness.

Novelist Gabriella West is refreshingly candid about her journey towards a diagnosis of ADHD, which started a few years ago when she encouraged her female partner to get a diagnosis. She uncovers a family history of the disorder, looking back at her own mother's life as a divorced American in Ireland in the 1970s. In Connecting the Dots, she highlights common symptoms that women with inattentive-type ADHD experience, and shows that although getting a diagnosis is not necessarily easy, the relief of finding an explanation for things that previously just seemed "wrong" is enormous and healing.

©2013 Gabriella West (P)2019 Gabriella West

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beautiful

thank you! I myself have recently been diagnosed with ADHD at 35. wish I'd known long long ago

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  • Brandy Griffith
  • 23-09-2020

No strategies provided for coping w/ ADHD

This book is an interesting summary of the author’s experience with the discovery that she might have ADHD and her journey in obtaining an official diagnosis. In this regard, the book is very effective. However, as a newly diagnosed adult female, I was hoping the book would provide some helpful strategies, tips, and/or personal insights from a female perspective, on ways one might cope with and effectively manage symptoms in order to improve functioning in their daily lives. The book fell very short in this regard.

Although I could certainly identify with the author in many ways on coming to the realization that I have ADHD, other than a short summary of available medications, a few already well known websites, and a handful of recommendations on what other books to read on the subject, the author completes her personal account without providing the reader with any new guidance whatsoever. This exclusion may be due to the fact that the author is relatively newly diagnosed herself. Nonetheless, I would say that although the book is well written and effectively narrated, I felt it mainly consisted of only a highly relatable story, and failed to offer a more technical description or any helpful guidance for someone hoping to overcome these challenges.

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  • Always On the Move
  • 15-06-2019

It Connected to My Dots, Too!

Women with ADD or ADHD are a special type. Many of us are high-functioning and getting by... until we aren't. This thoughtful memoir by Gabriella West is about getting through the crisis point that happens when we realize we might need some help after all.

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  • That Grrrl
  • 18-05-2021

Good, wished it was an actual book

This was good, but I used my monthly credit, thinking this was a book, and didn't realize it was just a paper until I opened it to listen. That's separate from the content of the paper (again, it was a good listen), but I'm annoyed about that. I was quick to select it because I wasn't finding much specifically about women and midlife diagnosis.

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  • Sarah Rabot
  • 20-02-2021

I could Relate So very much

this book isn't long but for me but she was able to pin point all the traits and patterns I have which made me feel not so alone it this adhd world. I appreciated the info she shared on other authors and Doctors that specialized more in a certain area and also explained her view on medications.
I enjoyed it .

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  • Brandy Gee
  • 16-09-2021

nice story

I really enjoyed thus little story. it is very similar to my own, and I was able to take a few things away from it. I enjoyed the narrator as well I believe she told it as a story and I enjoyed that instead of being too matter of fact.

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  • Timothy Meyers
  • 17-08-2021

much shorter than I realized.

I expected a more in depth story, and was surprised that I was already done. the appendices would be more useful in a written format for me.

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  • Stacy
  • 15-08-2021

ADHD IV New to me. Interesting!

I have been diagnosed with ADHD and this was super informative and I saw myself a lot in this story. Thanks!

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  • Dee Browne
  • 20-07-2020

Very refreshing to hear that I am not alone.

Am on my own journey right now and hearing other accounts gives me hope for the process.

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  • BessieRay
  • 06-04-2021

very useful

I enjoyed this although I found it disappointingly short. very relatable.
I am a 44 year old woman still awaiting diagnosis in the UK. I believe myself to be quite severely inattentive. Gabriella's comments on SCT which I had heard of but not really explored rang very true with me so I will look into this more now.
I also really appreciated the comments on creativity as a highly creative but 'unsuccessful' person.
The comments on medication were also very helpful as it is something I am beginning to open up to more as an option to help me function better and Goddess knows I need to!
I am partly leaving off a point because of the rather brief dismissive comment about being a parent with ADHD... I am a single mother who only realised my own ADHD through struggling so much to deal with parenting two young children and running a home. Gabriella's comments triggered my own feelings of inadequacy and perhaps failures as a parent when she implied she was thankful to not be a parent because this would be in some way selfish... that's my own stuff I guess but I feel she still set us parents slightly adrift from a compassionate stand point.
Overall it was an interesting and helpful story.

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  • S. Irvine
  • 24-01-2021

Relatable and reassuring

So relatable and reassuring to know that I'm not alone, that there's nothing wrong or broken in me, and that despite my past and the late diagnosis there is still hope for me to do something with my life.

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