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  • Come As You Are: Revised and Updated

  • The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
  • By: Emily Nagoski PhD
  • Narrated by: Emily Nagoski, Nicholas Boulton
  • Length: 11 hrs and 30 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (438 ratings)

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A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times best seller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently - and far less seriously - than its male counterpart.

That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it - and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2015, 2021 Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. All rights reserved. (P)2021 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Must read for everybody

Yes there were a lot of metaphors, and yes this was just a big therapy session. BUT! It was a very cheap and very effective therapy session and I always find metaphors very helpful when in session. This book is fantastic, the content is so important, and everyone should read it.

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Wish this book had been around 40 years ago!

Everyone can benefit from the information in this book to make understand their own sexuality, their partners, or their friends. Educative, insightful, and reassuring!

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I am perfect just the way I am

This helped me understand myself and my partner for the rest of our lives

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Every daughter should be reading this book

Loved it... I remember getting a sex education book from my mum when I was a teen. It was written in a way that was informative in terms of what differences were and it taught missionary position and birth control. I would say to parents that have girls, this is the book they should get. Obviously it would need to be age appropriate but it is an incredible book.

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Unbelievable!

Incredible life changing book. The only regret I have is that I am only reading this book now.

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I wish I had read this sooner!

I am normal!
This book has completely changed how I think about my sexual function. I wish I knew this years ago.
So much gratitude to Emily.
Every girl and woman should know what is in this book. And men, too, for that matter.

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Must read

Such an important book!!!!
Nagoski’s writing style makes the science easy to understand and relatable.
I highly recommend

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A must, no matter your experience

I leaned a bunch about myself and my partner. I strongly recommend everyone reads/listens.

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Every women (and perhaps men) should listen to/read this book

This is better than therapy! Fantastic book helping women feel normal - just as they are!

Thank you Emily!

My only suggestion is to remove the music, and I wish Emily narrated all herself, the male voices were quiet annoying lol

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Great for male readers!

Books like these can seem like they are directed at a female audience only, but this is not the case. I listened to this book and got such an amazing and eye opening look into how my partners feels about sex. After discussing key point with her I feel more connected with her in our sex life.
(I’ll never ask her if she’s came again)

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