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  • Come As You Are: Revised and Updated

  • The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
  • By: Emily Nagoski PhD
  • Narrated by: Emily Nagoski, Nicholas Boulton
  • Length: 11 hrs and 30 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (431 ratings)

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By: Emily Nagoski PhD
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A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times best seller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently - and far less seriously - than its male counterpart. 

That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it - and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2015, 2021 Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. All rights reserved. (P)2021 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Must read for everybody

Yes there were a lot of metaphors, and yes this was just a big therapy session. BUT! It was a very cheap and very effective therapy session and I always find metaphors very helpful when in session. This book is fantastic, the content is so important, and everyone should read it.

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Every woman should read/listen to this book

this book helped me understand myself better and explained so many of my past experiences.

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A total game changer

I have just finished listening to “Come As You Are” (about women’s sexuality) and loved it so much that I also bought the hard copy book so I can go back and tag and highlight half of it lol!

This book explores anatomy, physiology, behavioural and comparative psychology, evolutionary psychology, health psychology, moral psychology, gender studies, media studies and more. Nagoski breaks down the science through stories, metaphors (my fave was “the little monitor”), and case studies painting a whole detailed and complex (but easy to grasp) picture of sex and sexuality in the context of us being WHOLE people. It is so much more than a book about transforming your sex life (as the titles tag line suggests) but a book, and knowledge that will transform your relationship with yourself, your body and with your partner/s. I cannot rave about or recommend this enough.

Sidenote, #fuckthepatriarchy

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Every women (and perhaps men) should listen to/read this book

This is better than therapy! Fantastic book helping women feel normal - just as they are!

Thank you Emily!

My only suggestion is to remove the music, and I wish Emily narrated all herself, the male voices were quiet annoying lol

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This book should be read by everyone

This book is about much more than sex or orgasms. It is about understanding how our brains work and how this plays into our relationship with ourselves and others. It tells how media and common cultures around the world misrepresent how our bodies work, often to our detriment. Men, women and everyone in between would benefit from the understanding this books brings.

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Great for male readers!

Books like these can seem like they are directed at a female audience only, but this is not the case. I listened to this book and got such an amazing and eye opening look into how my partners feels about sex. After discussing key point with her I feel more connected with her in our sex life.
(I’ll never ask her if she’s came again)

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Every woman needs to hear this

Thank you for dispelling so many of the myths and mistruths that I spent so many decades believing.

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Outstanding

A must listen for any one who’s in a relationship with a woman or who wants to understand their world more.

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A must, no matter your experience

I leaned a bunch about myself and my partner. I strongly recommend everyone reads/listens.

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Must read

Such an important book!!!!
Nagoski’s writing style makes the science easy to understand and relatable.
I highly recommend

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