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Codependent No More

How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Narrated by: Christina Moore
Length: 8 hrs and 24 mins
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A source of healing and inspiration for millions, this modern classic spent over three years on the New York Times best seller list and made codependency a household word. Codependent No More contains dozens of real-life examples, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests to help you along the road to recovering your own life. For anyone struggling with a relationship involving alchoholism or other compulsive behaviors, this program points the way to healing and the renewal of hope. Melody Beattie's insights into the nature of the phenomenon of codependency will guide you step by step to the understanding that letting go will set you free.
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Critic Reviews

"Few people understand this idea as well as Melody Beattie, an author recovering successfully from a variety of addictive disorders and entanglements." (AudioFile)
"Bettie understands being overboard, which helps her throw best-selling lifelines to those still adrift." (Time)

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Real, Confronting and relevant

This book is real, confronting & very relevant to me. I recommend reading this as a audio rather than hard copy due to some of the moments that may be confronting and make you want to put the book down. The explanations and understanding given are very clear and realistic. A must read for anyone growing out of codependency.

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so relatable

This book was not exactly what I thought it would be. The title to me suggested that this book would have solutions to stop codependant behavior. This was still a great book it went deep into what co-dependant relationships look like and gave many examples. I loved hearing about other peoples stories and comparing them with my own. A great book

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Found the book was repetitive. Information was too general and without substance. Didnt finish reading as I could see no use..

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A good introduction to the concept

This book is a good intro and gives some excellent tips and pointers in a general way.

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  • JM
  • 31-05-2018

Fantastic book for everyone!

Firstly, the narrator is great and conveyed the content of the book in an interesting and engaging way. Secondly, the book in itself is fantastic, a must read! The author does refer quite a bit to alcoholic families/ codependents (as this is where the term came from) but I still felt the book is relevant for anyone that struggles with codependency issues and there were enough broader examples that are relatable. You could feel that Melody writes the book from a lived experience, someone who has moved through to the other side and practices what she preaches. There is no blame or shame attributed but encouragement to take the reins of your own life and responsibility for your own behaviour, feelings and reactions. It's for people that tend to become rescuers, have difficulty saying no and tend to put others first at their own expense (leading at times to resentment, frustration and exhaustion). Setting healthy boundaries and caring for yourself in a loving way has a flow on effect to others around you. A great book!

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The Grand Awakening

This book helped me understand the importance of developing personal responsibility instead of bitterly blaming others for my shortcomings. My only regret now is not discovering this wisdom earlier in my life.

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Brilliantly

So easy to listen to and understand well done Melody This has helped us with our journey 👍🙏

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what I needed to hear

this book is long. it contains long lists. but for the codependent who is contemplating reading it, every paragraph is worth the time it takes to read it.

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Excellent book and narrator!

A book from someone who knows what they are talking about. Life changing advice, I plan to listen to it again. This book can be used for all kinds of situations and not just specifically to partners of an alcoholic. Narrated thoughtfully as if she was the author herself. I highly recommend a purchase.

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Thank heavens

Thank heavens that I have found this audio book
It is my friend!
So much wisdom is helpful to have

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  • JennStokes
  • 27-01-2017

Excellent book

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At the age of 35, I had finally realized that I had an issue with codependency, but I honestly didn't know why. No one in my family was an alcoholic or addicted to drugs or anything. Then I became aware of this book. At first, I'll admit, I was worried that this book wouldn't work for me because it seemed to be very focused on codependency related to alcoholism. However, as the book progressed, it began touching on the other causes of codependency. Thanks to this book, I now realize that my codependent tendencies are a result of being abandoned by my father and then being raised in a militaristic family where my opinions, thoughts, and feelings didn't matter. This was a true breakthrough for me. It has allowed me to finally begin to heal the wounds that have been there for years. So even if your codependent issues aren't due to someone's chemical dependency, this book can be a huge help.

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  • Debbie F
  • 06-12-2017

Life changing book for caretaker types

I highly recommend this book to anyone who feels like they give to others too much, and receive little to nothing in return. To those of us who feel like we can’t say no to others and let other people’s emotions dictate our actions... to those of us who say yes to chores, or even social outings we do not wish to participate in to make another person happy... I never would have thought of myself as codependent. I think of myself as a strong, but giving leader. This book was a game changer for me. I now have the confidence to start setting boundaries, say “no” and even ask others for favors without that overwhelming feeling of guilt I used to have. I highly recommend this book.

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  • Tracy Perkins
  • 12-05-2016

Life changing perspective

In the process of a divorce I decided to go to a therapist to see what I had done wrong, my partner of 15 years was leaving me with no meaningful explanation and I didn't see it coming. She mentioned the term codependency and boundaries to me, I found this book and it lead me to Adult Children of Alcoholics literature and a group. I couldn't believe all of these aspects of myself and my family I thought were uniquely insane were textbook alcoholic/disfunction. We didn't have alcohol in the family but was raised by a dry alcoholic with the same patterns. This has changed my life in such a healthy and wonderful way, I share the info with everyone I think can relate and am always shocked at how many people that is. I have come back to it years later when stress has triggered these behaviors in me and it helps get me back on track. I am so grateful! Great book, if you had any troubling disfunction in your upbringing or relationships after, if you think nobody ever listens to you, this book is for you.

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  • Violet R.
  • 06-05-2019

slightly misleading

it has a lot of good information about living codependently, but focuses very heavily on the wives of alcoholics. it also does not start out with much emphasis on faith, but slowly adds in more and more until it feels as though the fall back advice is "trust god". while that is a valid approach for some, I am not trying to work on my relationship with God. I am trying to work on codependency with my friends and partners.

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  • elvira soto-hoffmann
  • 06-09-2012

A must hear/read!!

This book changed my life. Best buy ever! Wish I had read it before!!! Its so conforting findiing yourself through its pages. It helped me understand myself and letting go. 100% positive ratings!

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  • Tammy
  • 23-07-2010

Great

I've listened to this book over & over again. I had the book then got the audio. It has helped me to remember to take care of myself.

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  • Maria
  • 09-08-2010

EXCELLENT!

For anyone wondering why they are always worn out emotionally and feel the need to "make everyone better and fix everything." This is the book for you. Although Beattie focuses on alcoholism, Codepencency is about more than having an alcoholic spouse. Codependency is about how you cope with dysfunctional relationships where one individual carries the load and doesn't allow the other to face their responsibilities. Excellent listen! Excellent Read as I bought the hard copy as well.

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  • Bonnie
  • 09-06-2009

very helpful

down to earth, hopeful and positive, good for people struggling with these issues.

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  • Yvette Flores
  • 01-03-2008

Good Book/complex subject matter

I purchased both the hard copy and the Audible version. I am listining to the audible version first and if I need to review anything I can go back to the book and think about it. This is a complex subject matter that can be difficult to understand. The writers does her best to make it digestable for us.
Otherwise it is well read and the speaker is easy to listen to.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-06-2018

Better Narrated in my own Head

Great material, a little more God heavy than preferred but I can look past that. What I can't handle is the narration. Started on my Kindle, moved to Audible, but moving back. I have nothing personal against Chrisina Moore, I just can't stand her "story time" inflection and the "he or she" "his or her" stuff. I just finished listening to Brene Brown doing her own Power of Vulnerability and that was quite powerful. If the Audible inventory is more like Christina Moore and less like Brene Brown, then my comparison may not be fair...and Audible may not be for me. Regardless, back to my own silent voice narration at bedtime...continues to be a helpful book.

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  • chris
  • 04-12-2014

Very good for recovery

What did you like most about Codependent No More?

For me, personally, this (audio)book is one of the best I have listened to (read) recently. It not only points out to eventual causes of the disfunction but also to possible ways of recovering from it.

Have you listened to any of Christina Moore’s other performances? How does this one compare?

Very good reading style.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Many moments: couple of them are "feel what you feel", about anger, grief, 12 Step work and other

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Genuinly, "high" on my priority list.

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  • Amy
  • 02-09-2013

Every mother, wife, woman should own a copy

What did you like most about Codependent No More?

This book was recommended to me by a counselor while I was suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is one woman's manual to overcoming struggles and although the book has a heavy emphasis on dealing with alcoholics, and people with dependency issues, something that was not necessarily true for me, it taught me a massive amount about my own thought process and really how I bet myself up way too much mentally.It genuinely changed me for the better and made me feel understood and more aware of my strengths.I purchased the audio version as I really did not feel like reading some "self help" crap, if I'm honest. However I think I made the right choice, the narrator is perfect and I have listened to some chapters over and over.I recommend this if you ever feel your kindness is taken advantage of, you feel under appreciated, you say yes to things because you feel guilty saying no or you have any sort of hurtful, or dysfunctional relationships in your life,You will finally understand everything,

What did you like best about this story?

It is written in a non-preachy way, it is not condescending and unlike other self help books, this can sometimes make you mad, but at yourself. It took me on a journey I will never forget.

Which character – as performed by Christina Moore – was your favourite?

Christina Moore is excellent. It feels like a chat rather than someone reading to you, I cannot recommend her highly enough

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

No, but it is a book you will ALWAYS go back to

Any additional comments?

If your in doubt, but other books are telling you the same old positive thinking diatribe..I cant emphasize enough, this book is a massive seller for a reason, and its one you will pass on

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  • Sophie
  • 07-01-2019

If you feel the call to heal, this book is for you

Wow. This book is the most transformational book I have read. I feel like I now have the tools to learn to trust myself and make decisions without crippling anxiety and uncertainty. I felt constantly confused and analysed everything, now I know why. If you enter relationships and end up trying to ‘fix’ others, this book will help you. If you have suffered any kind of abuse or trauma, this book will help you. Thank you to the author, so glad I read this.

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  • Melissa O'Shea
  • 17-05-2019

Worthwhile listen

Very valid information and explanation of the problems encountered in toxic relationships. Brings understanding to otherwise difficult to process situations

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  • One very happy customer
  • 23-06-2018

Excellent!

This book is a must read for anyone who may even remotely junk they are codependent. The insight into certain traits you have thought are part of your character is eye opening. I'm grateful for this book and the path it has set me on to being my true self.

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  • lynny
  • 10-04-2018

Speaks the painful truth but offers hope

This book has become an invaluable tool for me, I've listened to the chapters many times, laughed, cried and thoroughly enjoyed - would definitely recommend to all.

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  • Edward Hodge
  • 25-02-2018

An incredible read, highly recommended

I book that has the power to change you way of thinking, and your life.

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  • Lauren
  • 18-02-2018

Brilliant

An essential listen for anyone struggling with taking control of their own emotions, not just those living with alcoholics. Helped kickstart my recovery.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 22-12-2017

great

great book. loved it. it finally helped me to identify what was wrong with me.

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  • whatmakesyou
  • 29-09-2017

amazing this book has touched me

amazing this book has touched me in so many ways . great book worth it