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Boundaries in Marriage

Narrated by: Dick Fredricks
Length: 9 hrs
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Publisher's Summary

Learn when to say yes and when to say no to your spouse to make the most of your marriage.

Only when you and your mate know and respect each other's needs, choices, and freedom can you give yourselves freely and lovingly to one another.

Boundaries are the "property lines" that define and protect husbands and wives as individuals. Once they are in place, a good marriage can become better, and a less-than-satisfying one can even be saved.

Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the award-winning bestseller Boundaries, show couples how to apply the 10 laws of boundaries that can make a real difference in relationships. They help husbands and wives understand the friction points or serious hurts and betrayals in their marriage - and move beyond them to the mutual care, respect, affirmation, and intimacy they both long for.

Boundaries in Marriage will help you:

  • Set and maintain personal boundaries and respect those of their spouse
  • Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for their marriage
  • Protect their marriage from different kinds of "intruders"
  • Work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries - or work with one who doesn't

You don't have to let your marriage head toward separation or divorce. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

©2000 by Henry Could and John Townsend (P)2000 by the Zondervan Corporation

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Every married person should read this

Best marriage advice book I've ever read/heard - only regret is not reading it at the start of (or before) my marriage!

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Daunting

i have read around 30 books on this topic of Christian marriages. i found the narrator too theatrical and detracting from the topics, which were either not well organised or the material too wordy.
PLEASE Tell us what you're going to tell us, then tell us, then tell us what you just told us. It was doing my head in at times. i had to relisten multiple times. It became a chore.
Otoh, it does speak directly to the heart of hopeless marriages. If you can bear with distractions and take lots of notes, it is well worth saving your marriage.

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  • J W
  • Australia
  • 29-04-2019

Both Adult and complete?

He is forgetting that most families till now and probably beyond have not a given women that opportunity to be complete individuals. He should be teaching parents how to achieve this before telling us this. We come together as imperfect individuals who work together to become our best one together! Most of us marry before we really know anything or have achieved anything.

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  • Stephanie
  • 04-04-2008

Powerful Tool

I purchased this book to learn and grow and that I did! I learned areas that I was contributing to making my marriage weak, and learned where I can improve, grow and change immediately. I have personally grown with every Cloud/Townsend book. I also enjoyed the narrator, he told the story well, but I do prefer Cloud/Townsend themselves to read, I still enjoyed this one very much! Get it and make a difference in your own marriage, if not to save it, STRENGTHEN it! God Bless You on your journey!

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  • GrayFox
  • 09-09-2016

Good info; horrible voice inflections

If nothing more, this books serves as a great reminder to take self-accountability for your role in a relationship. I picked up a few new ideas. I appreciated the nexus to Christian spirituality.

Personally, I find it repulsive when the reader changes the inflection in his/her voice when quoting a character. It drives me nuts. Just read the book. Stop trying to entertain me with unnecessary drama.

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  • krista
  • 13-01-2014

Great material, Valuable insight, weird narrator

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I would highly recommend the book but not the audiobook. The book offers a lot of wisdom and gives case examples to illustrate points. The strangeness of the narration is too distracting and detracts from the book.

Who was your favorite character and why?

non-fiction- no characters

What didn’t you like about Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend ’s performance?

Contrary to what is listed the narrator is not either of the authors- it's someone else- I believe the same person who narrates the other boundaries books. This is a self-help book not a dramatic novel. There's no need for the narrator to try and "make things more interesting" by reading so dramatically and making each person in each case example sound like they are ready to jump off a bridge. No one talks that way. It makes it hard to take it seriously. He also gives everyone this weird accent- it's almost like a long island accent but not quite. It's distracting and I would suggest reading this as opposed to listening to it.

What did you learn from Boundaries in Marriage that you would use in your daily life?

That a good marriage and good boundaries start with having good character and good boundaries with yourself.

Any additional comments?

Wonderful book. Weird narrator.

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  • Keith Thompson
  • 17-03-2005

Very helpful

This book is a great resource for married couples. There was so much to digest I had to listen twice. The authors do a great job presenting the material, if your looking to improve your marriage this book will help.

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  • Nicholas
  • 04-11-2008

Great

This book helped transform my marriage. My wife and I are happy for the first time in years.

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  • JBM
  • 10-12-2012

Boundaries *ARE* scriptural - ignore noisemakers

I cannot believe the people who claim that this book and the concepts it teaches are somehow an abomination and contrary to scripture. I am simply going to quote from this book as the authors are very clear in addressing such attacks.

"There's a lot of misunderstanding about boundaries. Some people are against boundaries because they see them as selfish. Other people actually use them to be selfish. Both are wrong. Boundaries are basically about self-control.Boundaries are not something you set on another person. Boundaries are something you set on yourself."

Self control *IS* very scriptural. In fact it is one of the fruits of the spirit that are explicitly referenced in Galatians 5:22-23. and as Apostle Paul says "against such things there is no law." The only people who object to the boundaries being used in marriage as Cloud and Townsend teach them are likely manipulative controlling spouses who want to continue to play their power games and don't like anything that deters their ability t manipulate and control their spouses.

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  • Sheral
  • 17-09-2009

Amazing Insight for Troubled Marriages

We were having trouble because both my husband and I have issues from our childhood that we had not resolved. This book helped us to reach a new level in our marriage.

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  • larhay
  • 10-12-2003

Excellent!

I only wish I had this book years ago. It would have saved a lot of heartache.

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  • science girl polzel
  • 21-04-2016

Such valuable information

So often disagreements in marriage lead to either verbal attack or silent stewing. This book describes how to resolve conflict in a different way. It encourages truth told in love and promotes healthy mutuality in a marriage. The authors push for growth in the reader without finger-pointing at the other spouse, aiding a person in seeing and taking hold of what they are responsible for. This book is full of hope and healing.

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  • Jacqueline C. Anderson
  • 26-09-2016

So helpful.

Highly recommended for anyone; single, married whether you're have troubles or want to avoid them, or divorced. Lots of great information. Listening for the second time to absorb it all.

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  • Mr Jamayne D Cameron
  • 10-12-2018

Very good book, filled with practical advice

A good book, filled with practical steps one can take to build and improve a marriage. I'm interested in the other boundaries books.

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  • Cady M
  • 28-09-2018

Great Insight on Marriage

Common problems we had in the marriage stated as examples in the book. And learn so much all these can be prevented from taking ownership of ourselves. Changed my perspective in a lot of things! A very good read!!! Recommend it to anyone!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 28-05-2018

One of the best Marriage book ever written.

it covered all areas of marriage and gave me insight to God's word concerning that situation

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 01-02-2018

Excellent!

loved it! such wisdom and deep meaning . I would deeply recommend it. To friends and family.

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  • Filippo
  • 07-12-2017

Another Marvellous Book About Boundaries.

I like Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. They know exactly what they are writing about in regards to boundaries. If you are married I encourage you to buy and to listen to this audiobook. If you are single then I still encourage you to buy this audiobook and listen to it. It will give you some ideas of what couples go through in marriages, should you decide that at some point you want to get married. ;}

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  • jvm
  • 02-08-2016

Ok book

Is there anything you would change about this book?

The principles of this book could be good, but unless you follow the Christian faith you may not be able to follow it all. Also the book talks a lot about women being house wives and men struggling with long working hours so a little sexist

Who might you have cast as narrator instead of Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend ?

It was well read

Any additional comments?

If you can pull out their principles they could be very useful in a relationship