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Have you been deeply hurt by your mother? Did the woman, who should have loved you, nourished you, and protected you inflict traumas that still affect your life today? Are you struggling every day to repair the damage that she caused?

If you were raised by a BPD parent, your childhood would more than likely have been an unstable and painful experience.

Children raised by mothers with borderline personality disorder are at risk of developing the same kind of emotional problems. They may find themselves facing seemingly insurmountable obstacles in order to overcome their parent's dysfunctional attitudes, and it may be necessary to seek professional help to work on such feelings.

If you have experienced these issues as a child, you may have low self-esteem or suffer from anger or depression. Recognising that these problems are not a choice, but the consequences of your mother's disorder, is a necessary first step towards healing your emotional wounds.

Adult children of BDP parents are often afflicted with so much guilt and such a strong sense of profound obligation and shame that they feel obliged to keep secret all that has happened in the family, even when it is destroying their lives.

These people can find it really difficult to share their experiences because mothers with BPD are usually very good at creating the perfect family image for outsiders to the family.

I advise you to listen to this audiobook if any of these symptoms sound familiar:

  • Sudden unexplained anxiety followed by rapid falls into depression.
  • Doubting yourself and your sanity. Mood swings.
  • Endless and repetitive obsessive thinking about your mother.
  • Constantly try to find explanations for what happened.
  • Feelings of powerlessness and despair.
  • A desire to self-isolate.
  • Overwhelming feelings of loss and pain.
  • Extreme attacks of anger. Insomnia or strange dreams.

Many listeners can recognize their mothers and themselves in this audiobook

Often the children of borderline mothers are terrified of their attitudes and remain paralyzed by failing to react, others find courage but find themselves without the right tools to face them.

Looking for help from friends and acquaintances could not be the best solution, they will try to minimize or simply say that you are overdoing it. Don't take it out on them, they won't understand you because they haven't experienced certain dynamics in their lives.

What you need to learn:

  • Understanding the psychological mechanisms of a borderline mother.
  • The main styles of a borderline mother - identify the traits.
  • The serious consequences in adulthood if you don't address these issues.
  • Things you should never do with BPD sufferers/Learn to defend yourself emotionally against them.
  • How to overcome the trauma and begin a healthy healing process.

There are many other situations that will be listed within this audiobook.

©2019 David Lawson PhD (P)2020 David Lawson PhD

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Difficult to listen to because of narrator

Subject matter good to start with but narrator can be a bit robotic and so hard to understand some of the sentences which became disjointed. Some repetition and so lost interest in a subject I was really interested in. Pity. I continued listening in the hope it would improve but was disappointed overall

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  • Jks
  • 07-04-2021

Did not learn anything

I felt like this audiobook was very redundant and I did not care for the narrator's speaking voice (monotone and incorrect inflection). Many sections simply repeated the same information over and over again. I did not learn anything I didn't already know and found the advice in the last chapter to be extremely vague and unhelpful.

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  • J. Barry
  • 09-08-2020

I've read better books on the topic, kind of patro

this book was only okay for me, it didn't really tell me the details of the neurobiology, it didn't really describe how I can help myself, at times I thought it was a bit patronizing and made me feel like a child, I didn't find that helpful

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  • Vonda Hartman
  • 08-04-2020

The audio book addressed me in a few regions

Really helped me gain an understanding of they way a borderline person things and see things, also has some practical advice on how to deal with the different types of borderlines, have already recommended it to some friends and even my therapist.

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  • Emory Brown
  • 08-04-2020

There is a lot with this perceptible

Several years ago, this audio book helped me deal with the trauma inflicted by my own borderline mother. I now recommend it to therapy clients who describe having mothers with borderline characteristics and now deal as adults with the pain and self-doubt this fostered in their lives.

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  • Kimberley Levine
  • 08-04-2020

This audio book contains unique ways

Listening this audio book was very informative and is a great start into understanding your relationship with your mother. If you are looking to have a deeper understanding of your mother and yourself, I would highly suggest starting with this book.

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  • Kerry Mcintyre
  • 08-04-2020

I am satisfied to listen that discernible

So helpful. As a child of a mother with borderline personality disorder, this audio book was helpful, both in understanding her and relieving me of the guilt and responsiblity of this kind of dysfunctional childhood.

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  • Paris Singleton
  • 08-04-2020

So thankful for this audio book..!

A Borderline Mother audio book give me a valuable information for parent with borderline disorder. I want to prefer this audio
guidebook.

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  • Amand aPope
  • 05-04-2020

Well narrated audio-book by the narrator.

This audio book will help you learn and understand more about Borderline Mother. if you are experiencing to be one of this you might have this audio book for you to cut this and correct everything.

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  • Sadie Beck
  • 05-04-2020

I found it full of tips and advice I will use

This audio book transformed me, in that it enabled me to at last observe the concealed examples of my Borderline Mother and the harm they caused. It additionally took me by the hand.

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  • Ron Hurley
  • 05-04-2020

Very educating and an eye opener.

Wow! So Enlightening...i am a child of a mother with BPD and I hope I can put to use the lessons I've learned from this audiobook

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-01-2021

Stop feeling bad it will make you feel Better

I was moved in the beginning. I felt understood.
In the middle I began questioning if my mother is borderline afterall.
In the end - what kind of advice is that: if you are addicted to something stop it. It will not make you happy. Also stop being depressed. Be positive instead.
I think most people would agree I am just not quite sure how to get there - maybe that Will be explained in another book?

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  • K Gowers
  • 04-12-2020

Some insights butdisappointingly simplistic advice

I had high hopes for this book. Some of it was insightful and did help me to understand the some behaviours better however the "advice" was severely lacking. It was so high level and simplistic as to be trivially obvious. Eg If you're depressed - don't be! Make some friends, be positive, be successful and forget the past.

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  • A. Hunt
  • 28-05-2020

A struggle to persist.

The subject is very important, so thanks for addressing it. However, the book was poorly edited, reading was awkward (perhaps partly due to the awkward script), and the advice at times contradictory and not well researched. l am disappointed that the topic was not addressed well. Worthwhile advice was sadly lost in the confusion of ideas. So consider a re-write with a good editor.

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  • Juana M. Metzger
  • 21-04-2020

This audio book is absolutely wonderful.

This is a wonderful book with so much great information. As someone diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, I found it to be very compassionate and hopeful. Anyone who has just received this diagnosis should read this audiobook to get an idea of what the disorder entails and what the various methods of treatment are.

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  • Melinda G. Gordon
  • 21-04-2020

An excellent way to assure this topic

This book has been an instrumental one in the stack of books I'm listening for my recovery. It's like looking in a mirror. If you have BPD, BPD tendencies, or a loved one with BPD, please buy this book. My mother cried when she listens to her copy, she said it was like listening to a personal journal of mine.

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  • Matthew P. Henry
  • 21-04-2020

I am very pleased listened to this audio book

Great insights into how BPD comes about and what it's like for someone to live with. Would have appreciated a chapter on dealing with splitting and how to manage the attack that comes with it.This audible is must for a Borderline Mother

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  • Audrey C. Hopkins
  • 21-04-2020

A great audio book to understand BPD

The insights shared in this audiobook are clearly outlined in language that helps those who love a person with this debilitating disorder to develop an understanding of how the BPD perceives the world and how to interact with them in a positive and supportive way.

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  • Libby J. Sloan
  • 21-04-2020

This audio book really a great learning tool!

Adult children of BDP parents are often afflicted with so much guilt and such a strong sense of profound obligation and shame that they feel obliged to keep secret all that has happened in the family, even when it is destroying their lives.

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  • Iva G Patton
  • 09-04-2020

I've learned from this book.

I love the way the author breaks down different kinds of borderline mothers using references w could all easily understand. Wow! So Enlightening...i am a child of a mother with BPD and I hope I can put to use the lessons I've learned from this book.

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  • Christina J Harrington
  • 09-04-2020

Awesome audiobook.

BPD effects are everyone in society at some degree. Therefore the more people that understand the better chances we have as a society to make a difference. Many people are completely unaware they even have BPD.

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