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  • Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare

  • How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
  • By: Shahida Arabi
  • Narrated by: Julie McKay
  • Length: 19 hrs and 53 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (38 ratings)

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Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare

By: Shahida Arabi
Narrated by: Julie McKay
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Publisher's Summary

Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.

Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they've been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns, and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?

Cover art by Penoaks Publishing at www.penoaks.com.

©2016 Shahida Arabi (P)2016 Audible, Inc.

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Your book is saving my life

I'm so glad I have found this book! It's given me the strength, validation and knowledge I needed to exit my situation and to now move forward. It's quite literally saving my life!... thank you so much-

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Incredibly Insightful

The start was a bit slow but once you get though the authors education and history and get into the real information it is incredible. It confirmed even more about what I have been through and some great ways to help you on your healing journey.
I highly recommend reading this book.

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Valuable Lessons, Yet Profoundly External

I'm a survivor. This book gave me some good insights into the madness of my relationships. However this book totally misses the importance of personal responsibility in dysfunctional dynamics. Narcissism thrives on codependency, which is largely ignored by the author. Reading about codependency helped me understand my part in creating my own nightmare which I was ultimately responsible for.

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Get to the point

Far too rambling about own experience and uninformative. Couldn't get past the first 2 chapters. Perhaps there are some gems in there but I don't have the time to find them.

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Garbage

Robotic narrative of a repetitive dialogue- total waste of my time and money. Do yourself a favour and avoid!

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Wealth of info

Lots of useful info. It says there is a ebook companion with this. Couldn’t find it. I had bought the ebook directly before it was mentioned. No regrets. It’s still worth it. Lots of links referenced in the book. Hence need for the book. Overall. Absolutely worth the purchase

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The Right Prescription

Not everyone recognise narcissistic abuse or behaviours. This book provides a detailed explanation and all the right tools to move forward with your life. From start to finish I found it helpful, resourceful and most of all empowering. I had many lightbulb moments which only reinforced my strength and resilience. This book is one of those books that land in your lap for a reason. I would highly recommend reading it and using it as a reminder you can wake up from your nightmare too.

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made me feel validated

I recommend this book to anyone who is a survivor of abuse from any type of toxic relationship.

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