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Backbone

The Modern Man's Ultimate Guide to Purpose, Passion and Power
Narrated by: David H. Wagner
Length: 10 hrs and 14 mins
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What does it mean to be a powerful, happy man in today's world? What does it take for a man to know himself, know his mission in life, and live a life of strength, honour and wisdom?

In Backbone, the modern man finally has a self-help audiobook worthy of his masculinity. This audiobook won't ask you to get in touch with your feminine side if you want to embrace change. It's a straight-talking, down-to-earth and funny guide to get you working with your masculinity instead of against it. Backbone combines no-nonsense wisdom with brutally honest exercises to help you to find your purpose in life; hone your emotional intelligence; and escape unhelpful beliefs, patterns and habits so that you can live an amazing, powerful, passion-filled life.

Wagner addresses the challenges that modern men typically face, asking you to join him in a series of profound self- examination exercises and questions covering life purpose, male identity, spirituality, self-limitation, sexuality, relationships, fatherhood and more. Every chapter is highly practical and includes observations and examples from David's own life journey as well as insights gained from the many clients and groups he has worked with over the years.

Learning to be a good man used to be part of our culture; sons learned from fathers, nephews learned from uncles, apprentices learned from masters. But today this rarely happens. Modern men have to figure it out by themselves.

Backbone is a practical step-by-step guide to help men know themselves deeply, root out weaknesses, enhance strengths and upgrade their experience of life. So, have you got the backbone to start your journey?

©2015 David H. Wagner (P)2016 Audible, Ltd

Critic Reviews

"Most men are allergic to the big conversations around purpose, passion, and power because, well, they re usually boring or too far out there. David is one of the rare men on this Earth who has the brains, heart, and balls to go deep without losing his sense of humour. He's a modern teacher for wisdom of the ages." (Tripp Lanier, international men's coach and host of The New Man podcast)
"This is a book that every man needs to read! Wagner has a way of making practical, no-BS, life-changing wisdom totally accessible." (Dominic Carubba, men's coach, author of 7 Pages to Success)

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Be a good man AND be good at being a man

I read David Wagner's Backbone after reading Jack Donovan's three 'way of men' books with an interest in comparing the perspectives. Jack's books investigated an amoral, Nietzschean description of pure masculinity; it was a rush, but I felt the ideas could be self-destructive to some personalities if interpreted the wrong way.

Backbone on the other hand, while being no less brutal, is more nuanced and moral. It reads as an inspiring philosophy of masculinity, together with tangible approaches one can take to realise their purpose. It's also somewhat heavier and worth taking more seriously, I'm going to go back and read it again for the exercises. Jack describes a way to be good at being a man but says nothing of being a good man, David shows you how to be a good man.

I see similarities between the two authors in their revery of beasts, physicality and honour among men; holding each other accountable, at least at the gang level. Surround yourself with a small group of men you can trust, and make sure you get face time with them. Also, I interpreted a fair amount of crossover wisdom between Jack's tactical virtues of Strength, Courage, Mastery and Honour and David's manly archetypes of King, Warrior, Mystic and Lover.

I'd recommend at least listening to Jack as well as David, but with David's Backbone, you may want to listen twice or get the written copy as the material requires more interaction.

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  • Rachel E. Lolmasteymaugh
  • 21-07-2018

Great high-level account of how a Man should act!

This was a great book! Loved the 4 different parts of a Man. Also good idea on joining/assemble a group with other Red-Road Men.

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  • Alain R Dumonceaux
  • 01-11-2016

More backbone than I expected

What did you love best about Backbone?

With 2016 signaling my 50th, I have been looking for a modern perspective on what it means to be a man. I would consider myself to be spiritually grounded and wanted to find something that wasn't too slanted in one religious direction or another. David's book fits the bill. While there is some discussion that touches on religious beliefs, David uses his commentary in such a way as to not sound preachy. I really enjoyed the book, especially the brutal honesty questions. I am inclined to start a men's group up here in Winnipeg based on this book. This is a great book and I highly recommend it to anyone looking for a broad perspective on today's man along with some "man" talk. Great book David.

Who was your favorite character and why?

David's father. Reminded me of my father.

What about David H. Wagner’s performance did you like?

I like the stories and how they intertwined with the concept of the book.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Backbone?

The men's group was something I was interested in and now I have a framework to build one.

Any additional comments?

Great book and one that you can read over and over again.

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  • Saioa Echebarria
  • 05-10-2019

Un libro alucinante también para mujeres

Si eres madre o compañera de un hombre, este es uno de esos libros que no puedes dejar de leer. Los arquetipos masculinos de los que habla y la actitud masculina que propone, me parecen espectaculares para que un hombre pueda entenderse a sí mismo y las mujeres podamos comprender qué está ocurriendo en ellos. Su aplicación interior en una mujer no deja de ser interesante. Me ha hecho reflexionar mucho y entender aspectos masculinos que antes no comprendía.

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  • Landon B.
  • 30-09-2019

Ready to read again

I wanted to get through the whole book to make sure it was exactly what I was hoping for before doing the exercises. I can see clearly now that it’s time to put pencil to paper and do the work to get the full value of the book. What a great way to challenge men to rise to their best. Glad I found it.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-02-2019

great book for men of any level

good information on problems and solutions with modern men and advice for communicating with women.

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  • Israel
  • 10-09-2016

Recommended

The author is insightful, the content is very relatable. I feel like everyone should read through this, regardless of culture, age & gender.

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  • Ben W
  • 01-09-2016

Not for me

Seemed a little pandering, references to Native American legend, living in India...finding yourself. It all rounded out a little too new age for my typical taste. I couldn't grasp the concept ,but that's my experience not everyone will have the same opinion.

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  • Colin Mcneill
  • 15-08-2017

A must read for every man.

Awesome book got so much out of it. I listened to the audiobook but will now buy the book too so I can go back and do all the exercises at the end of each chapter.