From the popular dating and relationship coach and host of The Sabrina Zohar Show comes a no-BS roadmap to rewriting the patterns that are hijacking your love life - so you can finally create the life you deserve.

> If you keep falling into the same patterns – dating the same type, overthinking texts, shrinking yourself in life, settling for crumbs – and wondering, Why am I like this?, you’re not alone. This book is for you.


You are not broken. The patterns you keep repeating – people-pleasing, self-doubt, avoidance, reactivity – are survival strategies your body learned to keep you safe. This is what relationship coach, Sabrina Zohar, calls your Bullshit Blueprint. While it once protected you, it may now be blocking the love and personal security you truly want.

Drawing on psychology, neuroscience and nervous system research – as well as Sabrina's own raw journey of unravelling and rebuilding – Why Am I Like This? will invite you to break free from the patterns keeping you stick in love and life, exploring how to:

• Understand how your attachment style, childhood wounds and core beliefs shaped your unique Bullshit Blueprint
• Recognise the four survival responses and how they quietly drive your dating behaviour
• Break toxic cycles of feeling 'too much', 'not enough' or 'impossible to love'
• Challenge the dating myths that push you towards the wrong people and away from the right ones
• Regulate your emotions, set boundaries and finally choose yourself

Packed with straight-talking advice and practical tools, this book will help you stop abandoning yourself, rewire the patterns that keep you stuck and build a new, BS-free blueprint – rooted in self-trust, clarity and conscious choice.

© Sabrina Zohar 2026 (P) Penguin Audio 2026