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Tia Levings on The Self They Tried to Erase: Religious Trauma, Recovery, and Reclaiming Your Identity

Tia Levings on The Self They Tried to Erase: Religious Trauma, Recovery, and Reclaiming Your Identity

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 What happens to your identity when the system that formed you was built to erase it? In this deeply personal and clear-eyed conversation, New York Times bestselling author Tia Levings returns to A World of Difference with her new book, a survivor's guide that meets you wherever you are on the road to recovery. Whether you were raised in high-control religion, are navigating the aftermath of leaving, or are simply trying to understand why you still silence yourself in rooms where it feels unsafe to speak, this episode is for you. In This Episode: Why personhood itself becomes the problem inside high-control religious systems, and what it costs to live there How "quiet is good, quiet is safe" becomes a form of self-policing that follows you long after you leave What relearning "no" looks like for someone who had consent conditioned out of them Why recovery isn't a tidy upward arc, and the danger of skipping the transition period The pull to cult-hop and how healing your sense of internal belonging makes you less vulnerable to manipulation The moment Tia first knew, truly knew, that she belonged to herself About Tia Levings: Tia Levings is the New York Times bestselling author of A Well-Trained Wife and her new book I Belong to Me: A Survivor's Guide to Recovery and Hope After Religious Trauma. Her work decodes the fundamentalist influences in news and culture, and has appeared in Teen Vogue, Salon, Newsweek, and the Huffington Post. She appeared in the hit Amazon docu-series Shiny Happy People and is based in Raleigh, North Carolina. Timestamps: 00:00 — Introduction & Cold Open 01:07 — How Tia showed up differently writing I Belong to Me 03:22 — Living in a framework where your personhood is the problem 06:25 — "Quiet is good, quiet is safe" — two kinds of silencing 08:27 — Relearning "no" after having it conditioned out of you 11:30 — Suffer well: how doctrine functions as a control mechanism 14:20 — Die to self, the JOY acronym, and reclaiming a disappeared self 17:20 — Why leaving isn't as simple as just leaving 20:01 — What recovery actually looks like — the swamp, the crash, the transition 23:55 — Cult-hopping, fawning, and staying wary of gurus 31:23 — "I had no self" — building identity and belonging to yourself 37:49 — Outro and final reflections Find Tia Levings at: Pre-order I Belong to Me and get Tia's thank-you gifts Social media: @TiaLevingsWriter (all platforms) Subscribe, leave a review at https://www.aworldofdifferencepodcast.com/reviews/new/, and share this episode with someone who needs it. Visit https://www.aworldofdifferencepodcast.com for more resources. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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