In this episode of The Rule of St. Benedict for Daily Life, Kris McGregor reflects on Chapter 20 of the Holy Rule, where St. Benedict teaches about personal prayer. After forming the heart through obedience, humility and the rhythm of liturgical life, St. Benedict turns to the way a person approaches God in prayer. He teaches that humility, reverence and attention matter more than many words.

St. Benedict draws on a simple human experience. When we approach someone in authority, we become more careful in how we speak. In the same way, prayer requires an awareness of before whom we stand. This reverence is not fear but a steady recognition of God’s presence. It leads to prayer that is sincere, attentive and free from unnecessary words. The heart learns that prayer is not about explaining everything perfectly, but about turning honestly toward God.

This teaching flows from the earlier chapters of the Rule, where the Divine Office and the psalms shape the soul in a rhythm of prayer. Over time, this forms a heart that is less rushed and more attentive. St. Benedict invites us to pause, to become aware of God’s presence and to let prayer arise from humility rather than anxiety. In this way, even brief prayer becomes deep and real. Following Christ, who taught His disciples to pray with simplicity and trust, this chapter reveals that the most faithful prayer is one offered with a humble and attentive heart.

Benedict of Nursia, The Rule of Saint Benedict, Chapter 20 (RB 1980)

Whenever we want to ask some favor of a powerful person, we do it humbly and respectfully, for fear of presumption. How much more important, then, to lay our petitions before the Lord God of all things with the utmost humility and sincere devotion. We must know that God regards our purity of heart and tears of compunction, not our many words. Prayer should therefore be short and pure, unless perhaps it is prolonged under the inspiration of divine grace. In community, however, prayer should always be brief; and when the superior gives the signal, all should rise together.”

Si, cum hominibus potentibus volumus aliqua suggerere, non praesumimus nisi cum humilitate et reverentia,quanto magis Domino Deo universorum cum omni humilitate et puritatis devotione supplicandum est. Et non in multiloquio, sed in puritate cordis et compunctione lacrimarum nos exaudiri sciamus. Et ideo brevis debet esse et pura oratio, nisi forte ex affectu inspirationis divinae gratiae protendatur. In conventu tamen omnino brevietur oratio, et facto signo a priore omnes pariter surgant.

“And in praying do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do; for they think that they will be heard for their many words.”

1. Do I take time to become aware of God’s presence before I begin to pray?

2. Do I feel the need to fill prayer with many words instead of resting in quiet attention?

3. How does humility shape the way I approach God in prayer?

4. In what ways can I grow in reverence and simplicity in my daily prayer?

5. What might it look like for my prayer to become more attentive and less hurried?

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